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I feel depressed because my I am young and my mother won't even discuss letting me marry

Last updated: 7th April 2020
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How do I overcome the feeling of depression when every time I bring up the topic of marriage, my mother wouldn't even discuss it with me and just says that she would let me marry only after I turn 30? I am a young boy and I try to practice my religion. I wasn't practising at all before but by Allah's grace, I was guided and I try to follow my religion as much as I can and part of that is being dutiful to my parents. Yet, I am still so young and my mother wouldn't even begin speaking about marriage. She would just make her point clear every time I try to bring up topic of marriage (conversation doesn't even begin and it finishes) that it would only be after I turn 30 and it hurts me deeply. We don't live in a moral society and I feel depressed thinking of waiting so long. Thoughts begin to come up in my head that if I end up marrying after 30 and I still end up with a spouse who would be a trial rather than a blessing, it depresses me further even though Allah doesn't let the good done be lost like with how he gave mercy to the Prophets when they despaired and felt they had been denied; these thoughts continue to come in my mind. If my mother said that once I get a job or settle then it would be a little reasonable but after I turn 30 makes no sense and what infuriates me is she won't even discuss. I love my mother but when I think about it, I resent her so much that I want to say mean things to her and only for the duty Islam imposes upon us on our parents makes me just stay quiet and not say anything to her and I just leave the room every time without disrespecting her. Right now, the challenge isn't for me to wait until 30 years old, it's more of this depressed feeling I have that I cannot overcome. I feel desires are being evoked everywhere around the corner and I can't even console myself saying,"Just wait a little longer, your time will come." Please guide me or quote me some wise advice from the Quran and Sunnah to put me at ease.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

Discuss with your mother the importance of Nikah in Islam, in a wise and gentle manner.
If you feel you can't do this then have a member of your family or your local Imam to convince her.

And Allah knows best

22 ٍShawwal 1441/ 14 June 2020

Answer last updated on:
14th June 2020
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Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London