Question ID: #4460
Question: Haram Relationship
I'm involved in Haram Relationship, I asked for forgiveness and she isn't forgiving me. I don't know if I'm guilty or not, I just want to end this relationship and ask Allah for repentance and forgiveness. I don't want to continue this.
I have guilt that if she won't forgive me so I won't be forgiven on the day of Judgement. Is this true? Please enlighten me with your wisdom on this topic. I'm very ashamed of myself and I just want to keep myself away from all haram deeds.
Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04 (London)
Date: 25/06/2021 18:44pm

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

The first step of Tawba is feeling guilty about your sin. You must acknowledge the sin and feel ashamed of it and to stop the sin immediately and make resolve not to return to it. If you had harmed someone then you need to seek their forgiveness. This is sincere Tawba.

As you have tried to seek forgiveness and your wife is not forgiving. Have hope that Allah will forgive you, inshaAllah.

Remember, Allah forgives in abundance and very Merciful.

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ تُوبُوٓاْ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ تَوۡبَةً۬ نَّصُوحًا

O you who believe! Turn to Allâh with sincere repentance!(66:7)

اِنَّمَا التَّوۡبَةُ عَلَى اللّٰهِ لِلَّذِيۡنَ يَعۡمَلُوۡنَ السُّوۡٓءَ بِجَهَالَةٍ ثُمَّ يَتُوۡبُوۡنَ مِنۡ قَرِيۡبٍ فَاُولٰٓـئِكَ يَتُوۡبُ اللّٰهُ عَلَيۡهِمۡ​ؕ وَكَانَ اللّٰهُ عَلِيۡمًا حَكِيۡمًا‏

"(And remember that) Allah's acceptance of repentance is only for those who commit evil out of ignorance and then soon repent. It is towards such persons that Allah turns graciously. Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise." (Sura Nisa 4:17)

And Allah knows best

15 Dhul Qa’dah 1442/ 25 June 2021

Mufti Qamruzzaman

London, UK