Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem
Al Jawaab Billahit-Tawfeeq

Respected brother/sister

As Salaamu Alaikum


Allah describes one of the purposes of your spouse in surah rum:

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts), verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Qur’? Ar-Rum: 21)

If the purpose of tranquillity, love and mercy is not being fulfilled, then the couple MUST make effort to bring about these qualities.

How:

The husband and wife should try to find ways of pleasing their spouses, by words, actions, gifts, gestures etc… Have they said I love you to each other? Even though love may not be apparent, with the intention of goodness and effort of sacrifice Allah will bless the couple and instil love in their hearts.

If after genuine effort has been made (Allah sees and knows what is apparent and what is concealed) and the married couple have still no feelings and feel that the marriage will not work then, Allah mentions the next steps in Surah nisa:

35. If you fear a breach between them (the man and his wife), appoint (two) arbitrators, one from his family and the other from her's; if they both wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Ever All-Knower, Well-Acquainted with all things.

After effort has been made by the couple as individuals and no solution has come to light, then a trustworthy, pious and concerned member of the family from both sides should be bought forward to come to some solution or plan of action. If all the parties are genuinely concerned and wish for peace then Allah’s promise will be fulfilled of reconciliation, if this is not the intention of peace by ALL the parties then, Allah has told us the next step in surah nisa:


130. But if they separate (by divorce), Allah will provide abundance for everyone of them from His Bounty. And Allah is Ever All-Sufficient for His creatures' need, All-Wise.
Divorce should be the last resort; this will only come about if genuine effort has not been made. As, Allah has promised if genuine effort has been made he will reconcile, as Allahs words are the most truthful, he is the most wise and knows all our intentions. Be very careful in matters such as delicate as this, as the families of the husband and wife will be affected also.
Please, remember GENIUNE and SINCERE INTENTION and EFFORT from all sides i.e. husband is sincere and genuine, wife is sincere and genuine and the other family members are also, the intention should be to make the marriage work for the sake of Allah, and the actions should be implemented accordingly, if the intention is present and no actions it will not work vice versa, it MUST happen from all the people involved. So, if it seems a family member wishes to break the marriage they should not be involved. These steps will make it work as promised by Allah.
Wallahu Alam


And Allah knows best