Question ID: #1878
Question: marrying the man i hate
My parents are very nice people. I love and respect my dad very much however approximately 2 years ago i had gone to pakistan with my dad and when we were there my dads sister asked for my alliance for her son. My dad said that he would discuss it with me first before he consents but my grandparents and my dads sisters lied to my dad and made him believe i was happy to marry the guy they had chosen. for my dads sake i never spoke out but now they are forcing my dad to get me married now- i spoke to my dad who agreed that i dont have to get married but my tickets have been booked to go pakistan and get married. the thing is that i hate this guy- cant stand him being in the same room so i dont want to marry him. how should i explain this to my dad.
Answered by: Ulamaa ID 03 (UK)
Date: 15/06/2006 11:52am

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

You must explainrelay your feelings to your father with wisdom what transpired. It is better to be straight forward now rather than live with this for the rest of your life. Otherwise It would not be fair on you, or your fiance.

adapted Suggestion from Ulamaa ID 02
If you are unable to approach your father, perhaps you could approach someone sympathetic such as your mother or other senior figures who may speak on your behalf to your father.

Wa Alaykumussalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh

(Mufti) Abdullah Patel
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