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Question: Financial spend only in family
We are stable family living in west for last 18 years. me and my wife works and i do spend my money for family needs and entertainment, my wife say its her money and she do not want to spend on family, which is fine but she also force me to spend all my money in family and do not share any money to my siblings even occasionally. even though i am covering all expanse for family and have enough to support where i want. she always bring issues with money to spend in family for extra entertainment travel etc. although i am covering more then enough for family. sometime she complain about the money i used to spend on my mother, she is single. but now she is no more.
I want to know is it my decision and freedom to spend where do I spend and what is the percentage i can spend on myself? Also i need to knoe what is my farz to spend on family, nafaqa is what i heard is farz which is minimum needs to live like food, shelter, and basic clothing.
Please explain to me, am i doing wrong to lend money to my siblings?
 
 
Answered by: Ulamaa ID 04 (London)
Date: 17/06/2026 18:47pm

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

In the Shariah, a husband first responsibility is to support his wife and his children and his parents.

Nafaqah consists of food, clothing and housing (rents, bills etc)
Al- Ikhtiyar p.229 v.4 & Raddul Muhtar p.278 v.5)

Therefore, wife cannot make any other financial claims besides the Nafaqah. (Aapke Masaail p.425 v.5)

As for the husband If he wants to help his siblings financially must be done reasonably without causing difficulties to his family.

والنفقة واجبة لكل ذي رحم محرم منه إذا كان صغيرا فقيرا أو كانت امرأة بالغة فقيرة أو كان ذكرا زمنا أو أعمى فقيرا ويجب ذالك علي قدر الميراث
(اللباب في شرح الكتاب ٤/٢٦٦،دارالبشائر الإسلامية )


And Allah knows best.

30 Dhul Hijja 1447/ 16 June 2026


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