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| Question ID: | #12849 |
| Question: Parents used the money sent by Son and developed properties but denying contribution and doing injus | |
| Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatahu.
Dear Brother – Could you please go through the below details and kindly guide me. Frankly I am helpless, stressed and worry of my health, my future & kid’s as well. Thanks in advance. I am the only Son to my parents who are 72 & 67 years old. I have 2 eldest and 1 younger sister. My parents live in hometown, and all my 3 sisters stays nearby my hometown with their husbands’ families. I stay in a city (Hyderabad, India) with my family (wife+12 years old Son+11 years old Daughter). I started my career around 22 years back and since then I have been most obedient and supportive to my parents in all the aspects. As per my father’s wish and mine, we built mango farm from scratch in the land which is given to us by my grandfather. It is 12 years old of farm now which is completely managed by my father. Most of my job savings from the job went into mainly Mango farm development, clearing my father’s debts, supporting my youngest sister’s marriage, my parents medical needs (surgeries + pharmacy which are always in corporate hospitals), home repairs etc…, My father is a retired state government servant receives monthly pension, 2 houses monthly rents and income from mango farm. He lives in a own house. Frankly to say, since my career start, I am completely independent and till now I did not receive any money from my parents. My father never shared with me his details like how much he receives as monthly pension/rents and also from mango farm. If I specially asks then he diverts the discussion either going into some different topic, going away from me OR by saying health is not good, will talk later. This has been the trend since last 5 years. I have my immediate family to feed and I too have responsibilities towards my wife and kids in terms of education. As long as I am giving money to them whenever they asked then there were no issues. When I started asking to share the savings then absolutely no comments. Since then they started spreading false information to my sisters, relatives and neighbors. Worst case is to the hospital doctors also. They wasted my money in investing into my father’s brothers lands. They took money but didn’t register the properties as they started demanding more money. Now it is in courts since last 7 years. This occurrence happened in another scenario too. I was the last one to get married (with my own expenses) and at the time of my arranged marriage, my parents clearly told me and my in-laws that whatever is available all belongs to my Son i.e. Myself. They clearly stated that there is nothing to be given to daughters. Now since last 5 years they changed their mind and they want to give share in the mango farm where neither my parents nor my sisters spent any money towards development. Also want to give a house(s) and for that the reason being given is “whoever takes care of us will get it”. Only half of my ancestral land is on my name and rest is with my father. Frankly I never had any other bad intentions when I had been spending money towards my parents since 22 years. Always listened and sent them the money as I am the Son and have to take care of my parents well. There were multiple occasions where in I had to loan the money to give to my father. But now my father disagrees with me on the money spent by me. He declines. I wanted to solve the issue in a friendly way. I asked them to do some agreement in which it says so and so belong to his son & daughters upon their death. Since my career, they never gave me any money and now I am requesting them to share with me some money as my kids education expenses grows and I am also getting old. But none of these concern to my parents. Whenever they have any medical need or surgery needed then they politely come to my home in the city. As soon as their need is fulfilled then they simply vanishes. They hardly speak to me and they hardly take my calls. Now they frequently leave the hometown house and spending more time with my sisters and spreading all the false information. Due to this there were few incidents where in I had to raise my voice to show them how I feel and how am I concerned about my future and kids. But none of it concer them. Due to which I feel stressed and always thinking why they are giving this kind of treatment to me. Their daughters did not clear any of their debts, never helped financially but my parents are now spending time with them and hardly connect with me and my family. They are blackmailing me to do whatever I can. Since my father is the eldest in his family so his brothers and sisters do not talk anything about him. I tried to resolve it with my village elders but he did not show up. He always escapes. Whenever any medical need comes then he always say everything belong to you only. Even recently a month back also he said the same. But he again backed out of his promise once the surgery went well and discharged. Sorry to say this but my parents are liars. They always try to blame me only even though I utter the same statement what they said in the past. Hope you understand my issue. Now could you please help me out with my further course of action? How to resolve my matters? I am feeling lonely, stressed a lot which is impacting my life at home. |
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| Answered by: | Ulamaa ID 04 (London) |
| Date: | 11/04/2026 10:15am |
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
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| Mufti Qamruzzaman London, UK |
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