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Advice regarding wanting to marry a specific person

Last updated: 31st August 2023
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Assalamualaikum, I was talking to a girl and became interested in her. I then decided to stop talking to her since I did not want to indulge in sin and I am not currently ready to ask for her hand eitheir. I then decided to start addressing matters that would affect me not being able to marry and am still working on them. I performed istikhara and made dua for me and her to unite if we are good for each others deen. Recently I found out that she is in talks with someone and they are potentially going to get married, alhamdulillah both her and the guy involved the parents. I understand that this is a sign from Allah that perhaps there is not good in this matter and this is a result of the istikhara and the dua I made. Ofcourse I do not know if she and the guy have gone through with the nikkah, or if there was no progress. So my first question is that am I transgressing by hoping that perhaps we will meet again. Secondly, could it be that there is no good in this matter at this moment and perhaps this matter will be good for me in the future or does it mean that there will never be good in this matter and that I should just move on. I thought about it logically and separated my desires from my thinking while deciding that I would like for me and her to meet again and perhaps we may meet again in the future. Jazakallah khair

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

It is better to move on. Make Dua that Allah provides you with a spouse.

And Allah knows best

23 Rabiul Awwal 1445/ 08 October 2023

Answer last updated on:
10th October 2023
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Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London