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Wife during pregnancy

Last updated: 12th July 2005
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Dear Mufti Sahib

My wife is pregnant and in her first three months. She is giving me very hard time sexually. As I approach nearer, she says that her heart is sinking and she feels like vomiting. Our marriage is new and its our honeymoon baby.Please tell me if women are allowed to refuse their husbands during pregnancy. If they do so , do they fall under the warning of Hadith stating that if women don't attend their husband's call towards sex and husbands become angry then Angels will curse them.

I adopted a way to satisfy myself, I told my wife to masturbate me but she gets tired in the way so i ask for more physical touching around other areas.

Now the Question is :

1. Is it Halaal to ejaculate myself while playing with my wife's genitals?
2.Is it Halaal to rub my penis to the point of ejaculation and then tell my wife to hold it in her hand and make me ejaculate finally?
3.Is it allowed to touch one's penis and rub if one is with wife?

Admin: Question edited to maintain decency in addressing.


Bismihi Ta'ala

The matter in question is one that must be understood with consideration. On one hand there is the fact that a woman should attend to her husbands sexual needs. On the other hand, there is moral duty of having consideration for a woman who is not in a physical or mental state to provide sexual means for her husband. During pregnancy, it is very difficult for a woman to indulge in sexual intercourse, especially in the later stages when there are chances of the womb being damaged.

A person should take the above-mentioned into consideration. But also, at the same time, a woman must not use this as an excuse to get away from fulfilling her husbands desires, after all, Allah knows the secrets of our hearts.

Sexual enjoyment in other ways, such as the methods mentioned in question, are considered permissible by some Ulamaa under the circumstance in question. However, some Ulamaa have practised cautiousness in this regard and have stated that it is incorrect to use these methods, as the sperm is being wasted. Also, this sexual freedom could lead to other Haraam methods of fulfilling ones sexual urges. For this reason, one should avoid it. The second opinion is more cautious.

And Allah knows best.
Mufti
Answer last updated on:
13th July 2005
Answered by:
Ulamaa ID 01
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Mufti Yaseen Shaikh