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Last updated: 14th October 2009
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Salaam I would like some advice - Almost a year ago I received an unclear text from my husband saying 'u r nt stayn n i hvn gvn u 1 divorce 2 to go n we r dun'. I replied asking for clarification 'are you saying that if I stay at my mums you're giving me a divorce (I can't remember if I asked whether he will be giving me a divorce or he is giving me one if I do stay' and he replied 'Obviously - I h8 u for making me do this'. Due to this I did not stay at mums and returned home immediately. I have not stayed since because I did not know if I am allowed even with his permission in the future. Can you please advise me on how I stand in my marriage and also if I am able to stay at mums in the future with my husband's permission.

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem
Al Jawaab Billahit-Tawfeeq

Respected brother/sister

The initial text is very unclear and his reply to your request of clarification is just as unclear. It is difficult to determine his intention, words or threat.

In the initial text, there is no indication that any "if" statements were made. According to the text, in short text even, "hv" and "hvn" could mean two completely opposite things.

Until it is not made clear by the husband what he meant, it is recommended that you find out as soon as possible and inform us in writing (clear writing) what he meant.

And Allah knows best

Answer last updated on:
22nd December 2011
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Ulamaa ID 06
Location: London