Marriage - Issues

Asalamalikum,

My question is related to question ID#4152 as I keep gettting the feeling that I did not paint the correct picture and I might still be committing a sin as I feel I was a bit unclear in my question before and it has come to a point where I am unable to do anything properly now and my family life is being affected due to the thoughts that I get.

I am not sure if it's relevant but I would like to give a little bit of a background on this please.This is to let you know that I never ever contemplated or even toyed with the idea of divorce until all this happened.About a year and a half ago I was doing extensive research on divorce for personal reasons because I used to say to my wife that she could go to her parents ' house etc (but as far as I can remember I did not have the intention and no allusive words came to mind ever) when saying that.Then after doing research on the internet and reading different scenarios and Q&A's I started to get waswasas and doubts about divorce thinking that what if god forbid I had meant it but I was never certain as I kept applying those on myself.As I read more and more I got more confused and what also started happening was that whenever I would get even a little bit tired or even into a minor argument with my wife or sometimes even a normal conversation I would get this hammering thought of divorce through my head.It was like somebody saying like the proper words of divorce ( I am not sure what it is actually and how it starts but it just started and wouldn't go away until I yelled at myself or did something to talk myself out of it etc).This thought would hammer through my head saying words like I .... you and just kept repeating until I yell at myself down or talk myself out of it.Usually I would be telling myself that it was nothing and that it would go away but it got to a point where sometimes I would be scared to get into a very simple conversation or argument with my wife due to this and it has been like that since.Needless to say I started becoming extra extra careful with everything.

A few examples of the above would be when I read somewhere that if my wife performs an action and if a thought comes to my mind then divorce happens so I asked my wife to stop drinking tea because I couldnt control this feeling(without any reason) and while she was drinking tea I started getting this feeling (no fights between us or anything) but later on a mufti sahib told me that unless I specifically mention my niyah in words it does not count.Another thing that I started doing was that every chat that I had with my wife I would later go over it again and again to see if I had accidentally said something god forbid in that regard.Another one is when initially when my wife asked me to put some medicine on her forehead at night and I would be tired while Id be applying the medicine I would keep getting this voice/feeling.Once it happens I cant have a conversation with my wife at all as then I focus all my energies on countering this.Sometimes this gets so frustrating for me that I have to stop doing everything that I am doing and step back to get rid of this feeling.

I am not sure if the above is related to this but I am seeking a fatwa on the following when I was talking to my wife on the internet (chat) and we started talking about her visit to�her parent's house. I do tend to get a bit angry when this topic is touched as she keeps saying to me that I never let her go to her parents� house etc but I believe I don't really stop her from doing that..Now I am seeking a fatwa for the following that I said to my wife on chat" you have been wanting to go for such a long long time.i mean you know as well as i do you should go to your hearts content".

But in the above case I just remember that I had started getting this hammering voice and feeling out of nowhere saying the divorce word to my wife going through my head numerous times and something like another feeling like I dont care (I think I got this feeling not sure as I can't remember much about the incident) and that was repeating as well.I would like to remember what happened after that but all I remember is all these thoughts going through my head and then I think I kind of blanked out as I usually do when I get this kind of feeling as mentioned above.I don't even remember when I typed these statements.I keep thinking it was either once or after twice but I am not very sure about it so it could have been more or less than that as well. I had no control over my thoughts.I am not sure when it started and when it ended.I dont remember atleast having any intention and then suddenly this happened.I roughly remember that right after the feeling ended I just realised I might have said something like that and suddenly I felt I kind of snapped out of it and tried to be normal.I saved the chat to look at it later (as I usually do and did not pay much attention to it as many times I would save the chat in the past and then nothing would come out of it) and It is only that when I later checked the saved chat that I realised I had said. I was surprised and extremely worried to see those exact words as I didnt even remember saying those words.

Now I am really confused as to what happened and would like your feedback on this please.Was this an intention please and does this count as a divorce (if yes how many as the voice keeps going only through my head?)


Another question that I have is that prevously (initially, prior to the incident mentioned above) when I was getting these very strong waswasas last year after reading up on this I was told by another mufti that one way to get rid of them was to perform the nikkah again this way there was no uncertainty left around these issues so I ended up doing that again with my wife but now after all this has happened I realise that it was just a waswasa as I never ever had any such allusive words or thoughts (as above) had come to me before when saying such a thing.In this case, does that nikkah hold any solid ground according to Shariah or is it regarded as null and void?

Please help.I have also attached the whole chat for your reference.







me: return will be around 22-23 jan or do you want to make it even later? i can do later

wife: Yeah I said end of jan I was thinking 28th/29th jan

me: okay ill ask her if tickets are available

wife: Cool

me: should i do first week of feb? i mean i dont mind you mihgt as well stay there for a month and a half atleast you have alwyas been wanting to go plus ali will spend time with nana nani?

me: so the further you go out the easier it will be to get tickets mid of feb easiest or end of feb even

wife: Noo.That's too late

me:you have been wanting to go for such a long long long long time.i mean you know as well as i do you should go to your hearts content

me: so that you never ever feel that i was the cause of not letting you go somewhere ill be here alone for a month and a half anywayno bigy there just enjoy this time you have been wanting to do this for ages i know let me see if mid to endFeb�is available anyway ill give you the options

wife: Noo that's too late i am trying to see for a week or so�inshALLAH coz when we fight we say wrong things sometimes�and i am asking you myself�if you would like to stay there for more time?�as you always say to me that girls go to their parents house

me:� yeah�but in any case�its not the wrong reason innit?

�wife:� Leave it for end of jan

�me:� trying to make you happy�for any reason should be a good enough reason�innit?

�wife:� I want u to go so u can get a break and relax. U want me to go so I don't say to u in a fight girls go to their parents houses. We have two extremely different reasons.

�me:� yup�because�i think people should not do unjust things in fights and they should�realise�what good things happened to them�and that their spouses are not unjust
and if they lie or say things to hurt each other�thats not fair�so i alwyas try and prove�that what you say in a fight�is unjust if its unjust�be it masALLAH your parents visitng you
or you visiting them�we have it better than anybody else i know�alhamdulillah�so i want your comfort bhai�you said you feel rested�when you visit your parents
and that you have never ever had that time�coz you couldnt spend time after the kids�birth�so now i am looking for you to make it upand i swear theres no malice there�i just want you to not miss out on that�that's�all?

Assalam Alaikum Brother,

I am getting married in a few months. But my to be wife still has 3 years of her education left. She is pursing Bachelors in Architecture.
Is reversible contraception allowed in the above case as per Islamic Shariah only till the time so that she can complete her studies.
She has been really insistent to complete her studies. Also the marriage cannot be delayed any further.
Please advice in the light of Quran and Sunnah.

Jazakallah

Assalamu alaikum

I'm in big problem regarding some talaq conditions. Once my wife left my house without my permission and went to my uncle's house. I called her come back but she refused. Then I went to my uncle's house and asked her to come to house. During the conversation I said being my wife you can't stay here. come to the house or tell me if you want to go anywhere else and I'll take you there. But you can't stay here. I was saying all these to persuade her without the intention of ending the marriage. She still refused saying that my dad asked me to stay here. I tried to convince her more but then I said one talaq. Then I said now stay, you're so stubborn. Then I left that house and she spent the night over that house (my uncle's house). Now my question is how many talaq will be in this situation. would there be any conditional talaq because of me saying being my wife you can't stay in this wife. Please give me a clear explanation.

Syed

Dear Mufti Saheb,

Assalamu alaikum warah

Am in a very critical situaltion now.. Please help me and reply me @ the earliest,

My wife stays with her mom as we did secret marraige. She didnt pick up my call when I called her so I was angry and waited for her call. She called me and said she was not well so she went to hospital. I asked her why cant you just inform me, This talk went on and suddenly I got angry and said I dont like to live with you. If you wish I will give dash (Never uttered the word) so that you can go away. she did fight for some time and after some time even she said okay... give and go off...

Then I said tell me if is it confirm, Shall I give off she said yes give off... I said Ok I ll message you on this and hung up the call.

Then I was totally upset and sat for a while. At that time one heart was saying give her one (never uttered the word) so that she realise. Another heart said no please dont do that, because Allah never like that

for this another heart said No! Allah please forgive me I got to give her!! only then she will come in control (Even now I never uttered the word)

after this I accessed your site and went through all fatwas to get answer, However nothing satisfied me or I dont get exact answer which fits my issue. So please reply me at the earliest.

* Is this act considered one Talaq is given
* Is this act considered two Talaq is given
*Is she she still in my Nikah
*Do I have to perform Nikah again

Please reply at the earliest.

Wassalam

Mohammed Huzaifa

Salaam Shaykh

I have been a very frustrated and angry recently. I know this married couple who have been married for few years and they�ve got three little children. The couple have been having marriage problems ever since marriage and the women in concern use to live with her in-laws. Although the guys parents never wanted the couple to be married but ever since the marriage the in-laws as well as her sister in-laws have been very problematic and have caused major issues. The guy himself isn�t a good person as not only does he womanise but he has beaten his wife up many times. The guy also gave his wife one talaq during the initial stage of marriage. The girl has come back to her parents house numerous times and she goes back to her in-laws as many promises are made to her.

Recently after an argument the guy became violent again and her father in law suggested that they have a divorce and that his son will re marry and that her father in law is going to call her father and will make sure that she leaves. The women didn�t want her parents involved and didn�t want them to be humiliated like that and she called the police and consequently the police took her back to her parents with her children which really hit the pride of her husband and in laws.

The young women never blamed her husband for anything but instead diverted all the blame to her in laws although many have advised that he is the problem!

While I was at the women�s parents house with her family I received a call from her husband accusing and threatening me of allsorts and he mentioned that he is going to bring a few people and wants a divorce from his wife. I said �if you wanted a divorce you would of by now, he then said I gave her three talaqs last week and three talaqs half an hour ago over the phone, their were a few family members who listened to what he said as it was on loud speaker and the conversation was also recorded. We then asked the women who didn�t previously mention anything about any divorce and asked by number of people and she confirmed each time without any hesitation that she was given the 3 talaqs by him half an hour ago over the phone. Myself and the women�s brother then met three Scholars the very next day and explained everything and they confirmed that the marriage was over. I myself went to another 6 Scholars and again they confirmed that the divorce has taken place. The brother now has kind of changed his tone and is not really addressing the issue and what the scholars have said. The women herself does not agree that she has been divorced and keeps on saying that I don�t want a divorce and has changed her tone saying that she now thinks he might of gave two talaqs rather than three. She is also in regular conversation with her ex sister in laws who are advising that she is not divorced as three talaqs in anger constitutes as one. The guys uncle has got involved and is saying that these Maulanas make things up and if his nephew said talaq three times in anger then its not a divorce and that he thinks that the guy has got mental health problems although the guy has got no history of mental health issues. Her parents are not dealing with this issue at all and to clarify the issue they have not got any scholars involved and have allowed her to meet her ex husband through the guys uncle who is now pulling all the strings. This whole issue isn�t being challenged by anyone although she is still living with her parents she is in regular conversation and also meets her ex and as I understand that its been suggested that they move to their own house. I have mentioned to her that she is now divorced her older sister has also advised that she is now divorced but her parents are just ignoring what we are saying and isolating us from everything and are allowing her to do what ever she wishes and others to make judgement on this issue rather than scholars.

I�m frustrated, what do we do as they are living a life of sin and everyone�s in total denial.

Asalmalikum Imam Sahib,


I was talking to my wife a couple of months ago on the internet (chat) and we started talking about her regarding her visit to her parent's house.I do tend to get a bit angry when this topic is touched as she keeps saying to me that I never let her go to her parents house etc. I am now very scared that I might have said something that affects my marriage or god forbid invalidates it in this chat.When I said the text below I kept getting the thought of divorce word going through my thoughts.So I am not sure if that's a waswasa or intention as I had been getting such waswasas for the last year now.This has become a major problem for me and I would appreciate it if you can go through the following chat and let me know what's the fatwa on this? I have highlighted the major area of concern as I saved the chat .Please please please help inshALLAH.
JazakALLAH kher.


me: you have been wanting to go for such a long long long long time.i mean you know as well as i do you should go to ur hearts content

Wasalam,

Assalam-U-Alaikum,

I have had an intense verbal argument with my wife over phone and at one stage during the conversation, upon her uttering a provocative statement, I was about to utter the divorce words but didnt as I was in the state of anger. Later during the same conversation, things cooled down and I was calmed down too. After that conversation ended, I was just sitting by myself and for some reason (probably just to see how the words feel coming out of one's mouth), but certainly with no intention whatsoever to actually divorce my wife (or knowing uttering the words in this manner would mean anything), I uttered in a very low voice "my wife's name and that I divorce you" (to myself, with no one arround me). I believe I did it either once or twice. Its just that this happened about two weeks ago and I can hardly remember how many times I uttered this. I am inclined to think that I utterred it twice but there may be a chance that it may be just once and a very very very low probability that I uttered it thrice (I dont think/believe I did it thrice). But I had no intention whatsover of actually divorcing her and I did it all by myself with no one present arround and it was in a very low voice (a person standing may be a few feet away from me could not have heard it).
The questions is, do we stand divorced in this situation?
It may be noted that while we had Nikah but we havent done rukhsati yet, and my wife is not living with me.

May god bless you for the guidance you render.

is a unwilling unintentional written talak valid if it is not pronounced verbally being the first or last.valid or not .this to help with my question 2040.

Assalaamu alaikum

I was informed that a child conceived prior to nikah but born after 6 months of nikah may inherit from the father. This was a fatwa issued by an Ulema body in Nagtal, South Africa based on Hanafee madhab. THe other madhab however says that the child does not inherit at all. Which is the correct opinion?

(1) What is the minimum level of voice required for Talaq to be effective?
(2) Sometime, in our day-to-day life, out of anger or anxiety or some other reason, we express our wish or desire to do or say certain things. Example, � I should eat such and such food today�, �I should go and say such and such thing to such and such person clearly� etc etc. Here, we are NOT actually doing the thing but merely thinking about doing it. We later on, may or may not do that thing.
In a similar manner, if a husband says Talak, Talak, Talak, while imagining his wife and thinking that �HE SHOULD� give Talak to his wife, does the Talak happen? He did not ACTUALLY MEANT GIVING TALAK, he was merely thinking (comprehending) about it that this is what he should do.

Assalaamu Alaykum

Question regarding actual divorce statement and metaphors:

1) If someone is holding in their hand a bottle of drink Or a receipt or money Or a book Or some clothes Or a general paper for normal use and there might be some possible metaphors already printed on these and then all of a sudden that person gives these to the wife with intention without speaking or saying anything OR has intention whilst holding these, OR puts on a already printed poster with metaphors already written with intention in mind(does not say anything or write ), would that count? Or whilst holding these they look at the metaphors that are already printed on these and have intention in their mind and give these to the wife without speaking, would that count?

2)If someone clicks on a metaphor or the actual statement on the computer using a mouse or clicks on a link which then brings up metaphors or clicks on an actual statement or a link using the mouse on the computer with intention, would that count? No metaphor or statement is written themselves.

3)If someone points to the door or uses other hand actions with intention and dont speak , would that count?

4) If someone say 'friends' or mentions a name or says parent with intention would that count?

5) If someone writes a metaphor without intention. After a moment due to confusion I thought there was intention when I wrote it, but after some thinking I realised there wasn't. So I think I verbally said to myself ' there was no intention at the time of writing the metaphor but the intention came AFTER a short while of writing this word'. And then after some more thinking I then said to myself ' there was no intention at all''. Could you tell me if this would count if I did say this? Also I would like to know If there was no intention at the time of writing the metaphor, but the intention came after 1-2 seconds, would that count? Please note that there was no intention when the metaphor was written

Aslaam Alaikum I have some questions relating to the same topic. I firstly like to apologise about the length of the question. Please reply.

1) I am suffering from very bad waswasa of divorce thoughts lately, which come to me without my will or intention. Because i am suffering from waswasa everything i say becomes a real struggle of the mind. If i say something to anyone or read quran or a book, something in my head makes me believe that i am saying these things to my wife. For example i might be getting angry towards my brother but something in my mind makes me believe that i am saying these words to my wife. Or if I have a book or papers or clothes in my hand and something in my head makes me feel that there is a metaphor on there and makes me feel there is intention. What do I do? please tell me how to solve this problem of unintentional thoughts? Everytime I talk or write, something makes me feel that there is intention, but in reality I have no intention. I am struggling. BECAUSE OF THIS CONDITION I FEEL THERE IS A LACK OF SELF CONTROL IN ME AND I AM SCARED THAT BECAUSE OF THIS I MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO CONTROL MY INTENTIONS AND MY THOUGHTS, WHAT DO I DO?

2) At one point I was at my in-laws and I was standing by the door waiting for my wife. My sister in law asked me if I was going, it was just a general/normal question. At first I didn't reply because of these thoughts, because they make me feel that I am aiming it towards my wife, but really I have no intention. So she asked me again and I said 'yes/yeah'. At that moment something in my head made me feel that I am saying 'yes/yeah' to divorce. But really I have no intention and I don't intend to. I would like to know what the ruling would be IF there was intention in saying of 'yes/yeah' to a normal general question as explained, would that count?

3)If someone writes just their signature with intention (in their mind) on plain paper or a business contract or a document or a general printed paper sitting on a table with possible metaphors printed on, would that count? No verbal speech is spoken or anything written by them self or given except the writing of the signature

4) If someone is holding in their hand a bottle of drink Or a receipt or money Or a book Or some clothes Or a general paper for normal use and there might be some possible metaphors already printed on these and then all of a sudden that person gives these to the wife with intention without speaking or saying anything OR has intention whilst holding these, OR puts on a already printed poster with metaphors already written with intention in mind(does not say anything or write ), would that count? Or whilst holding these they look at the metaphors that are already printed on these and have intention in their mind and give these to the wife without speaking, would that count?

5)If someone clicks on a metaphor or the actual statement on the computer using a mouse or clicks on a link which then brings up metaphors or clicks on an actual statement or a link using the mouse on the computer with intention, would that count? No metaphor or statement is written themselves.

6)If someone points to the door or uses other hand actions with intention and dont speak , would that count?

7) If someone say 'friends' or mentions a name or says parent with intention would that count?

8) If someone writes a metaphor without intention. After a moment due to confusion I thought there was intention when I wrote it, but after some thinking I realised there wasn't. So I think I verbally said to myself ' there was no intention at the time of writing the metaphor but the intention came AFTER a short while of writing this word'. And then after some more thinking I then said to myself ' there was no intention at all''. Could you tell me if this would count if I did say this? Also I would like to know If there was no intention at the time of writing the metaphor, but the intention came after 1-2 seconds, would that count? Please note that there was no intention when the metaphor was written.

9) Also I would like to know, if a person WRITES e-mail to find out the ruling and on the e-mail its written that they said or wrote a metaphor with intention, but in reality they didn't say it or write it with intention or the metaphor was never spoken, would that count just because they wrote in the email that they said it or wrote it with intention, when really there was no intention at the time of saying or writing or it was not spoken ?

10) If someone is in doubt and confused about saying a statment or a metaphor to his wife and says 'I said the statement.....etc' and then after some thinking he says I didn't say it and it was all doubt and confusion, would that count just because he said that he said it?

11) If someone says Withdraw/s or return or returned, or (Turja'oon which means returned, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

12) If someone says Waladaaleen in Surah Fatiha and the intention is on the 'went' word (those who went astray ), would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

13) If someone says location or a name of a place, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

14) If someone says old or out of date/d, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

15) If someone says that's enough or 'off, would that count? Nothing else is uttered. 16) If someone says Liberation would that count?

17) If someone says 'To move briskly or spiritedly' , to it, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

18) If someone asks that have you any child and that person says 'not yet' with intention, would that count? Do metaphors need to be said directly to the person or indirectly? If I have confused you please ask me.Please forgive me if this is in length and strange.

19) If a person asks another person to write a word that is a possible metaphor with the intention in the MIND but does not say the intention to the person and only asks to write the word, can that happen?

20)If someone say an address or the first line for an address, would that count?

Please reply. Jazakalla

Salam-Alay-Kum,
Sir, almost three months back my self and my wife we were staying alone in Bahrian just before ramadan we both had a big fight and that time she was in her monthly cycle infact the matter was out of hands and we beat each other and in anger she first gave Talaq to me by taking Allah as Gawah to which i have called her parents in India and inform the same and called my family as well and was talking to them during that time as well she was still shouting at me and using bad language and that time I was too at the highest level of my anger and really out of my mind which I never encountered in my life till date.
While I was still on phone talking to my mummy and Bahbi and she abusing me in anger have said that I take you (bhabi) as gawah and divorce her (thrice) which I even doesn't recollect and my bhabi says I said it thrice.
After 3 days she went to India and since then she is staying at her house and not at my house and both of us are not in physical contact since then but we talk once in a while. but since that day have not talked abt divorce at all nor she remembers the incident as she has not inform her parents about it as well.
My question to you sir is does my Talaq counts or not under this conditions. as I am confused have ref to the Sahi Bukhari Sahrif and in that it is clear mentioned that under these circumstance (she in her Monthly Cycle) doesn�t count. even if I gave her once or thousand times. And secondly if your really out of our mind and pronounced divorce thrice does it counts.

Can you please guide me sir it about my..

the basic cause of fight was she never listen to me and has some extra marital affairs (count. before and after marriage) but still I love her most.


Allah Hafiz

Salam, i have been confused for over 8 years now. In my first year of marriage (september 2001) my wife went to my sisters house against my wish i was angry but after 1 or 2 hours i was just reading bashti zewar on the rules of talaq, out of the blue i just said the word talaq once loudly then i stopped and got worried. ALL i can remember now is when i said the word talaq i had no intention of divorce, i was by my self and when saying the word talaq i dont think i directed to my wife.(but not sure, very confused - cant make conclusion)

After many months passed (january 2002) i totally forgot the above issue and i was at work when a person question me on rules of talaq in the prayer room, He was asking me about 3 talaq rule so i was just saying talaq 3 times loudly with no thought at all of my wife or divorce but whilst saying the talaqs loudly a mistake of my wife came in my mind and i think after i directed 2 talaq to her. Does this talaq count because i was going to say 3 talaqs anyway.

After this (second) incident i became very confused thinking did i say 2 or 3 talaqs so i made dua to Allah and i saw a good dream and some one saying your wife is your wife.

But after many months (april 2002) passed i was sitting in the toilet and i remembered of the first incident. i have alot of doubt if the first incident counts as talaq, after i said it then i thought it counted as talaq but at that time i was very young and did not know the rules. Since then i have had two children and doing the work of deen but this issue is nagging my brain. Im really confused because these incidents happened many years ago and i cant remember that clearly in detail. Please give me a reply as soon as possible.

AA,

I have a question regarding talaq.
I have been for married for 3 month and am currently in a situation that a month ago my husband said that he in his anger had given me talaq 4 times, first time saying it 2 times and again two times two days later, meaning a total of 4 times. He believed that it should have been said three times in a row. I on the other hand I contradict that he never has given me talaq. He has only threatened to say the word.
According to many scholars it is equal to talaq and that only halala is required if I want to re-marry my husband.
I have on the other hand also read other statements where it says that no matter how many talaqs you give the once, that will only be count as 1. Additionally I have also read that each talaq must be given after each �iddat� time. I am therefore very confused even though we both want to be together we also want to assure that we do it the right way. They also emphasize if there is any confusion one must always follow what the Quran and our prophet has stated.
With reference to the following:
� Surah Al Baqarah, Ch. v.228-240
� Surah Al Talaaq Ch.65 v.1-7
� Surah Al Nisa Ch. 4 v. 35

And Sahih Muslim Vol. 2 Bk. Of Divorce Hadith no. 3491:

Ibn 'Abbas (Allah be pleased with them) reported that the (pronouncement) of three divorces during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and that of Abu Bakr and two years of the caliphate of Umar (Allah be pleased with him) (was treated) as one. But Umar b. Khattab (Allah be pleased with him) said: Verily the people have begun to hasten in the matter in which they are required to observe respite. So if we had imposed this upon them, and he imposed it upon them.

Based upon the above, I would appreciate an answer to my question. In case the answer is that divorce has taken place, please also answer why that contradicts with what the prophet has stated (Sahih Muslim Vol. 2 Bk. Of Divorce Hadith no. 3491), and if the divorce has not taken place please advice me what do I need to do to be with my husband again?

Assalaamu Alaykum

Question regarding actual divorce statement and metaphors:

1) If someone says old or out of date/d, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

2) If someone says that's enough or 'off, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

3) If someone says Liberation would that count?

4) If someone says 'To move briskly or spiritedly' , to it, would that count? Nothing else is uttered.

5) If someone asks that have you any child and that person says 'not yet' with intention, would that count? Do metaphors need to be said directly to the person or indirectly? If I have confused you please ask me.Please forgive me if this is in length and strange.

6) If a person asks another person to write a word that is a possible metaphor with the intention in the MIND but does not say the intention to the person and only asks to write the word, can that happen?

7)If someone say an address or the first line for an address, would that count? Please reply. Jazakalla

Mera meri biwi ke saath kisi baat par jhagda ho gaya. Jhagde ke waqt main kuch nahin bola, lekin jab dusre din main nahane ke liye gaya to ekdam se pichle kal ki baat yaad aa gaayi. Eesa lag raha tha mano pichle kal ki puri film mere dimaag main wapas chal rahi ho aur main kal wala manzar goya meri aankhon ke samne dekh raha tha, mano main khud hi maazi (past) main chala gaya hun. Usi waqt mere dimag main yeh khayaal aaya ki pichle kaal mujhe aisa karna chahiye tha aur yeh bhi soch raha tha ki aagar wapas meri biwi kal wali harkat kare, to main aisa karoonga aur phir main wapas wohi pichle din ka sara manzar mere dimag main dekhta hun. Lekin iis baar main yeh sochta hun ke main jis jagah pichle din betha tha, wahan se uthta hun aur apni biwi ko to tamache lagata hun. Maine tamache lagane ka ishara apne haathon se bakayda kiya aur phir main talak de rahan hun aur meine 3 time talak, talak , talak kaha. Waise to yeh sab pichle kal ka manzar sochte huye mere khayalon main hi ho raha tha lekin maine apni zubaan se 3 dafa talak, talak, talak aada kiya. Aaad karne se mera matlab yeh hai ki maine usko kaha lekin bagair awaz ke kaha, mere laab to hile lekin koi awaaz na nikli. Mujhe paaka yakeen hai ki aagar koi mere bazu main khada hota to woh usko na sunne paata aur agar farz kare kuch bhinbhinahat si sunta bhi, to use pata nahin chalta ki maine kya kaha.

Mujhe aap se mashwara lena hai ki kya is suraat main talaaq ho gayi?

Mujhe please iska jawab de kar mere dil par se boojh ko halka karain. Iski wajah se main bahoot beechen hon.

Allah aap ko khoob, khoob jazae khair aata kare aur aap ke ilm main aur umar main barkat aata Karen. Aamin.

PS: You can write answer in English.

- Salim.

assalamu alaykum
if a husband says to his wife shall i say the three words,(he doesnt say it though) then he tells the wife to get out of his house,(at the same time), will this be a talaq? please could you let me know as soon as possible,jazakallah
wassalam

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I have been married previously and have a daughter from my previous marriage. My husband who was also married previously has a daughter too. Since my daughter married my husband's nephew with choice and he wanted his daughter to marry him, he's broken all ties at home and we've had no relations since.

I need some guidance of how I am to continued to live my life in this situation. Please be aware I have never asked for a divorce it has been my husband who seeks it.

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asalaamu alikum wrwb,

Q- a man has pronunced i divorce you to his wife, upon hearing this she left assuming she is divorced. it has been a year since he gave her the divorce, is the woman divorced now? or can he take her back?

is the divorce only valid pronunced three times in three occassions or 3 times on one occassion? does this tallaq pronunced once with husband having no intention to take wife back a valid talaq?
Jazakullahire brother for answering this very importan question facing a sister in islam.