Marriage - Issues

When I get married with whom

I send first divorce to my wife by "WhatsApp" message on 11 Sep and second on 5 October and third on 21st October. My words were "i divorce you". When i send here second message at that time my wife was in 'impurity' stage or in monthly cycle.

Now i want to reconcile and want to know if i can take her back. She is also ready to come back?

Mujy koi wazefa chahye pasand ke shadi k lye, Isthkhara keya theak a rha lekin boy k ghr waly ne man rhy cast issue bna rhy jab k boy Razi ha Shadi k lye to koi wazefa bta dyen jis sy us k ghr waly man jyen aur mery be ghr waly man jyen. aur asa wazefa btaye ga jo hum 2no kar scy ku k boy k parents cast issue bna rhy aur ma ny abi bat nee kee ghr me k vo phly mna lay. Aur mujy koi mashwra be dy dyen ap k ma kab bat karon ?

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Clarification received on 10th January 2020:
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Mujy koi waazefa chahye pasand ke shadi k lye, Isthkhara keya theak a rha lekin boy k ghr waly ne man rhy.
Cast issue Bna rhy jab k boy Raazi ha Shadi k lye to koi wazefa bta dyen jis sy us k ghr waly man jyen aur mery be ghr waly man jyen.
Aur asa wazeefa btaye ga jo hum dono kar scy ku k boy k parents cast issue bna rhy aur ma ny abi tak ghr me bat nee kee k vo phly mna lay apny ghr walo ko.
Aur mujy koi advise be dy dyen ap k ma kab bat karon apny ghr me? shukria

A couple years ago me and my husband had an argument over something and in anger he said to me in text message ‘Dont worry you are free from now on.. I will divorce you’. At the time i was very tense and upset and I didn’t think anything of this message I ignored it and told him do whatever you want. He told me to leave the house and I didn’t and then the next morning again he said to me before going work that if i come back from work and you are here i will divorce you and throw you outside the house so I got scared and left his house because I didn’t want the divorce to happen. He actually had planned to create an argument between us just so he can kick me out the house and then blame me.

At this time we had been married only for two months nikah happened 8 months before and it had been two months since the rukhsati. We never consumated the marriage and had no husband wife relationship.
After I left his house I forgot about the messages and it has been 4 years since.
In these 4 years we had no contact with eachother.

A couple of days ago i saw the messages in my phone and I have been in doubt whether the divorce happened 4 years ago or not. Someone told me that if the husband says some words like these in anger and he means talaq the talaq happens coz these are kinaya words. I messaged him to ask him what he means and he replied it is obvious what i means by the message so my question is
1. Has our nikah broken or will it break if he accepts he intended divorce by these words
2. Will i have to do iddat if our nikah was to break or if if he was to give divorce now will I have to do iddat.
3. Will i get the mahr money.

Also I wanted to ask if i was to file for a divorce through the court or seperation will that be counted as divorce.

Why Ulema Always favor wife in marriage? What are the husband's rights in Islam?
Many Scholars say that it is not the duty of the wife to cook for husband then what is the purpose
of marriage?
It is complete injustice with the husband that he has to fulfill all the financial needs of his wife and wife can do nothing?

Sexual intimacy is the right of both wife and husband then what is the purpose of women ? If women are only for sexual satisfaction then if she becomes old it must be permissible to divorce him Because then if she also not serve her husband and also loses his beauty then why he should bear her responsibility?

Scholar says that both husband and wife have equal rights then why Prophet (PBUH) said If I had to order someone to prostrate than I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands. Because God has established a right of men over their women

I want separation from my husband for too many reasons. I requested him to divorce me for 2 times and he replied that " I will not divorce you, go to court and take divorce from the Court " He is irritating me like this.. Court send him order to come and sign on a Khula papers but he didn't come. But he received the Court call orders and still not coming to court. MY Question is.. If Court declares me Khula (Faskh e Nikaah) , Will it be valid OR not ? After completing my Idath, can i marry again to another person ?

I am a divorced father of 4 kids which i raise alone ages 7,6,4,3 for last 3 years. My ex wife doesn't contribute at all.. Initially she had custody and said i will die paying her child support. She also suffers from bipolar, narcissism and emotional instability. She is hostile and uncooperative and has left Islam and careless about her children. Am i wrong to collect child support from her. What does Islam say?

i sucked the milk of my uncle's wife......can my brothers marry with the daughters of the my uncle?

How much age Differnce between Husband and Wife is better?

answer required in hanafi fiq:
sir, first of all I istighfar in front of Allah and a tobah that I wont do any disobedience to Him. kindly help me out this time and i will always obey Him. i am in extreme depression since many days and cant ask question openly.
my question is that I once on phone with a girl did Ijab-o-qabool. there were no witnesses on her side neither on my side. only two of us were there.
then after some days i dont know why but i told her "i free you"
as far as i can recall my intention i think i knew from the very first day that that nikah was not done but for her comfort i did that but later somehow i used this word of "freeing" her and i think at that time "talaq" was not in my mind. i just said this word "free" to end this friendship relation as her family did not agree.
but later i realize that maybe nikah has been done and this "free" may mean talaq and now what will happen if her parents agree for our marriage?
can i marry her without any halala?
some hanafis say that without witnesses, the marriage is fasid or irregular or defective and can be cured and in this case if divorce takes place then there is no iddat.
i also need answer in the light of hanafi fiq that in this specific circumstance what will be the ruling.
can i marry the girl now publicly with her wali and witnesses or due to my stupidity of using word "free" and doing that nikah without witnesses i lost her without having her.
was nikah in this case fasid or batil? in books it is written that without witnesses it is fasid so what do they exactly mean if not this case.
kindly respond i am in extreme depression.

Over an conversation My wife asked me for talaq in anger and i said i cannot give you talaq. So she said if you will not give me talaq then i will suicide so for her life I just said talaq for three time but did not mean it. I do not want to give her talaq. Please help me Is my talaq occurred or not.

i am a girl of 27 years. i was in realtionship with a man of 49 years. i had a nikkah with him 2 years ago in a mosque without knowing my parents. but after my nikkah we have all the relation of husband and wife with each other. but my husband used to give me say me i divorce u many times. even 3 divorces at a time but before the iddah period he revokes to me and build a realtion of husband and wife again. it has been done 4 to 5 time same case he repeat the divorce and then revoke in iddah period as a husband wife. i want to ask am i still his wife? or i am haram to him? is it permissble to me to go to his bed?

السالام علايكم

I was wondering if you could translate this dream for me,

‘I was printing of divorce papers and about to sign it’

Then the dream stopped there

as-Salam`alaykum.

Bakar [real identity concealed] has been emotionally and physically abusing his wife. His in-laws sat with him in a meeting to sort the matter out. During this meeting, Bakar angrily remarked that if they interfered in his matters again, 'it [the marriage] is finished'.

1. Does this constitute Talaq?
2. If so, when would it materialise?

Jazak Allah khayra for any forthcoming assistance in this matter.
(Question posted as received)

Is Deferred Dowry payable only on death or divorce,
secondly is there any limitations to the amount of dowry,
furthermore if a gift (asset,property) is given to the wife to the value of the deferred dowry, and it's mutually understood and accepted that it's in respect of the deferred dowry, is this acceptable.?
Jazak-Allah
(Question posted as received)

Salaam,

My brother has been newly married for 7 months it was an arranged marriage, he now wants to break of his marriage due to the fact he does not get along with his wife and feels that there is no connection between them. There were also a few secrets which he found out about her that she didnt mention proir to the wedding because they were introduced to eachother and spoke for a few weeks leading to the wedding. Now he just seems to not want to forget these faults about her and wants to seperate. They have gone to imams who have explained they should keep trying but he has made up his mind.

However divorce in my family will be a big deal and possibly break the family.

Please advice me and perhaps a few hadiths and what does the quran and hadiths say about the breaking of a marriage. I know divorce is not liked by allah but are two people ment to stay with eachother and stay astray? would it be better just to seperate and find new spouses?

He explained that there just doesnt seem to be any love growing, no noor in his heart for her at all.

what would you suggest

please advice as best as u can. eagerly await your reply

jazakallah

Asalaamalaikum,

Two years back me & my husband had an argument & on being coerced he unintentionally wrote talak 3 times & sent it to me. I had it checked and Mufti saab said in your site that unintentional written talak is not valid. However another Mufti said it should be considered as 1st talak. My husband took me back within the 1 week itself. We have been living like normal husband & wife in these past 2 years whenever we meet as he was staying in Australia & I was in India.

However he is now staying with another spanish woman withoot being married to her, we still share husband wife relationship since the past 6 months that I am in this country. Now he wants to give me a court divorce not by shariah law and says its only to terminate the legal marriage that we had in India so he can have a court marriage with her. Will this affect my islamic marriage too.

Please can Muftisaab help me as I am very concerned I don't want a divorce for the sake of me 5 year old daughter.

Jazzakallah.

Misbah

Me and my hubby is far away from each other and we use to exprience sex on phone and i get wet.do i need to take ghusul after that?although physically we didn't do it.even then?

Assalam Alaikum,
A couple of years ago I got my daughter married to my nephew through a fake nikkah. Both parties agreed to file for the fake nikkah, and the intention was to get my nephew legal in the United States through my daughter�s citizenship. I told my nephew and his mother that I will only marry my daughter to him if he completes his education in the States, and they agreed upon my condition. My brother in-law (Father of my nephew) deceived me and turned this fake nikkah into an actual nikkah with witnesses and a Molvi. My daughter and I were not aware that the actual nikkah is taking place and when my daughter was told to sign on the documents she signed assuming it was only fake paper work. Later on an argument erupted between both families and my nephew and his mom (My sister) stated that my daughter was in his nikkah and she cannot marry anyone until he divorces her. This is when I found out that I got deceived. Later, our problems got solved and we agreed to sponsor him as my daughter�s fianc�, since it was a less hassle and much faster process. All went well and he came to the US with no problems. Later my daughter filed for marriage in the American civil court (Not a sharia marriage though). Afterwards arguments between the two families started to erupt again. He later stated that he wants his green card and that was the sole reason for the marriage. He said he will give my daughter divorce if she gives him the green card. My daughter refused and told him she wants divorce from him. So later he said �You want talaq� then he said �talaq talaq talaq� and then again �talaq talaq talaq�. He didn�t say I give you talaq or he didn�t mention my daughter�s name either. Now he says he never gave her talaq and she is still in his nikkah. During this whole period, my daughter and nephew lived separately and there was no expenses given to my daughter by my nephew. So there was no husband and wife relationship in this marriage. Now coming to the main point was this nikkah valid in the first place? If yes, then was the divorce given by him valid or not?

Jazzak ALLAH Kharyum. I'm in a great state of bother and not sure if I can get my daughter wedded. I would appreciate if I can get a fatwa on this issue.

assalamoalikum.
In June 2008 my husband was asked to leave our property by the court for unreasonable behaviour due to violence and suspicions over 16 years. I received a decree nisi from the court as we had a financial hearing at the court with regard to properties. My husband kept one property and I received the other as I have 3 children.
My relationship with my husband had broken down about 1 year prior to that in 2007.
Since then we have lived separate in separate properties and we do not communicate unless absolutely necessary relating to the children, etc.
1. My husband did not issue the Islamic divorce up to now and neither of us applied for the decree absolute.
I need to know is my marriage still valid or are we islamically divorced due to the length of time we have been separated?
I don�t think we feel that we will be getting back together again as we don�t even communicate and relationship has broken down completely.
June 2013 we will have been separated for 6 years.
2. If we are islamically divorced then what do I do in terms of iddat? I live alone with 3 children with no family or relatives in Leicester. I work part time and I cannot leave my job as I am the only breadwinner and my husband does not pay maintenance. He pays me �20 a week through the child support agency. I work to support my children and pay all the bills.if asked to pay me maintenance, he will refuse and work will not give me time off for iddat. However, during the 1st year of my separation, I did not really go anywhere except work and shops. Does this not count as iddat?
jazakallaj