|Last updated:||31st October 2019|
In the Name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful
Allah Ta’āla (The Most Exalted) has stipulated certain rights for the husband and for the wife. The institution of Nikāh has brought into effect these rights towards maintaining a balanced relationship and harmonious co-existence between the spouses. At the same time Shar’īah has encouraged the sacrifice of one’s rights in the other’s favour. Note, demanding one’s rights creates hostility and a negative environment.
The institution of marriage in Islām extends beyond merely fulling one’s carnal desires. Intimacy is one aspect of the marriage, however there must be mutual respect between the spouses. Marriage is based on love and understanding, give and take, compromise, alongside the rights bestowed upon each spouse.
“Nikah is a great bounty from Allah Ta'ala. The affairs of this world and the hereafter are put in order through marriage. There is a lot of wisdom and many benefits in marriage. A person saves himself from sinning and his heart is put at ease. He does not have any evil intentions and his thoughts do not begin to wander and stray. The greatest virtue is that there are only benefits and only rewards in this. This is because a husband and wife’s sitting together and engaging in a loving conversation, joking with each other, etc. is better than nafl salat.” 
Once the aforementioned has been understood, it can be applied to all your questions. Treat your wife with love, compassion and respect. Overlook each other’s faults, do not demand your rights and compromise!
In light of the nature of the questions, if you are not sensitive to the feelings of your wife, treat her unjustly and lack respect, then this will negatively impact your marriage, resulting in a loss of love between you alongside a hostile and negative environment.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “The best of you are those who are best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Jāmi’ at-Tirmidhī, #3897)
May Allah make you the best to your wife.
And Allah Ta’āla knows best
31 December 2019 / 05 Jamādul Ūla 1441 AH
 Nikah (Marriage) In Islam by Ml. Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahimahullāh).