Marriage - General

assalamu alaykum
i did my nikah without any mehram present, due to my parents not agreeing with me marrying the guy. but we had 2witnesses who were just friends. is the nikah valid?

assalamoalaikum,

In the light of Islam please guide me if there is any conflict between mother and husband what role should girl play. Whether she should listen to mother or husband. Whom the girl should be more inclined and dutyful after marriage.

thanks and regards
rani

Salam,

are the positions of imam malik and imam abu hanifah accurately represented here?:

http://www.islam.tc/ask-imam/view.php?q=7799

Specifically, if the man does take a second wife, is this grounds for the first wife to divorce him according to Imam Abu Hanifah?

Assalamu alaykum.

A husband issued three talaqs to his wife in written whilst the wife was present before him and then gave her the paper, without actually uttering the words of talaaq. The husband's sister-in-law was also present. The husband claims he was emotionally and mentally pressurised to do so by his sister-in-law who told him his wife was not fit for him and that he was not in a sound state of mind at the time . All the while, the husband was crying and whenever he hesitated in writing, the sister-in-law forced him to write. He also claims she was reading some kind of invocation upon him to make him do as she ordered. Please clarify whether in this situation the divorce has taken place or not.

Asslam-Alaiqum,

About 2 years ago my husband told me that he will divorce me. Than 2 months back in extreme anger he said in one breath that he divorces me and he divorces me. I asked a local Mufti sahib he said that two divorces has been done but he can come back to me with in three months. I went to my parents and stayed with them for a month. After coming back he took me back and we stayed as husband and wife for a few weeks. I have been looking at different sites and watching programmes about this issue and got to know that there is another kind of divorce as well which is called Talak bain. Now I am very confused as he has in the past said sentences like "you are nobody to me and you are not my wife." I have asked him because I have read that it all depends on the intention of somebody if they says anything like that. He says that he didnot mean to divorce me when he said those things. Now I have 3 questions:

Has my going out in Idat period has any effect on Nikah?

I have heard that there is a hadees that in great anger divorce does not take place and in another hadees 2 talaks in one breath is counted as one.(God forbid if I am wrong. I donot know the exact wordings for it)

How do I behave in Idat period?

Please guide me asap

Jazakum Allah Kheejr

As-salaamu Alaikum sheikh,

Is it permissible for a muslim man to marry a second wife without the knowlege of his first wife, particularly if the second wife is not a muslim?

Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh

What is the correct and most respectful term by which to address one's spouse?

Please advise terms for both husband and wife.

Jazakumullah Khairun

Wassalaam

assalamualikum

If you pray Istikhara and you dont dont see anything,no positive or negative then what do you do,If you liked the girl for example can you stil go ahead with the nikkah,cos i liked the girl and did not see anything in my istikhara,but i need to get married as i am 29.

wassalams

Aoa,

Thank u v much for the reply of my Question.

I want to be get merried soon, but there is no good proposal still. How can I pray to God that my this problem will be solved. My family is v worried on this issue.

Regards

Umbreen

assalamualikum mufti saab

Zazakallah for your answer regarding my marriage proposal...

Just wanted to ask you that if i prayed istikhara 2 years ago and it was postive,is it still valid even though it was 2 years ago...or do i have do istikhara again...

I seem more clear about this proposal now,Inshallah i will talk to my parents then inshallah give the go ahead to this.Make dua that i have a succesfull marriage and allah swt gives me pious children.

Zazakallah for your help.

May allah swt give you and the rest of your team success in this world and the hereafter.

assalamualikum mufti saab

Id like your advice on a marriage proposal i have received.

Two years ago i asked for the hand of a girl for marriage,before i asked i did Istikhara and received a positive sign.I went along with my Istikhara and my parents asked for this girl.After a couple of weeks i received an answer saying she was still studying to become an alima and they did not want to disrupt that.Neways i forgot about that and started to think about marriage again,when just before ramzan i received a proposal from the same girl who knocked me back 2 years ago.Ive been and seen this girl since and liked what i saw and heard from her.Apparantly they are really keen for me to say yes but i am so confused.Alhumdollialh Allah swt has given me so much..i keep on thinking why after all this time? do they want me for who i am or for what ive got? Id love to marry somebody who is pious and she fits the bill perfectly but why do i have these doubts.Ive been told by people that you should never marry an alima because it will cause trouble in the future but id love to marry somebody who has a wealth of knowledge for me to tap in2.Inshallah I will do istikhara .I hope you can give me some advice on what to do cos i really need it.

Zazakallah for your time in advance

Assalamualikum

please answer my question as soon as possible.
I am living in UK for last 6 years. while i was studying here i liked one girl, instead of meeting her alone i send message through my family to her father. first her father refused and threatened me to kill. but i asked him that in islam women have full right to exercise her own will. after lot of discussions when her knew that he had no alternative then he accept that and promised me that he will merry us in 3/4 months.
he deceived us, he not only emotionaly blackmale her daughter but alse brought her back to pakistan to merry her to his relative. because he knew that in Norway and UK he couldn't do this.
he merried her without her without her will and brought back her back to norway. his father got the visa for his realtive and brought him back to Norway. there in Norway there was lot of fights with that guy and her father.
then she left her father house and we married. i spoke with her father after that and he accepted me as a son in law. but refused to meet me.
now we have a son and we also got divorced confirmation from Norwegian goverment.
i would liek to remind you one hadiss here:
Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2090)"
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas: "A virgin came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) allowed her to exercise her choice. (Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud,
now i would like to know that is our marriage is valid or not according to islamic law. i would like to add here that they never slept together. and she never accepted her as her husband from heart. she also told me that she was so young so her fatehr played with her childish mind and emotionaly blackmale her.

i beg you that please answer me question as soon as possible.

Thank you

Salam Regarding NIKHA, You did answer the parents have the right to break the nikha if they have problems with the race.

Does that mean if one wants to marry someone but the parents dont aproove of it under circumstances that they are not from the same race.ie they are racist with out even checking weather he/she are compatible for each other or not.

As parents many of the times think of what others would say ratehr then what is good for there child.

Please can you advise me on this matter as many sisters nikhas are delayed cos of issues like this

wassalam

Can a person get married a second time without his first wife's permission whist she is still living?

Assalaamualkum w.w.
Maulana sb,

I have going through a lot of hell in my marriage.I have got to the stage where I feel I want to give up.I have been married for 4 years and have tried everything to keep this marriage alive.

Both families are quite active in the tablighi effort.Last year I took her out for 40 days and this year alhumdulillah we both performed the Hajj.

We quarrel over very small things and then the matter would just flare up.Everytime she threatens me that she will leave with our child. I am constantly put down.I can't say anything to her.

We were on good talking terms and I think she was all OK and happy, that one day she got her father to come,packed her bags and left!I spoke to her the night before and in the morning said sallam to her before going to work .In the afternoon she left.

I have not spoken to her since more than two months.My son is suffering.

She came and took all her belongings one day.

When tried going to see my son I was given heavy abuse.

I need mashwerah and guidance.I feel I am mazloom.what is the punishment for a woman who does this??

Maulana sahub what is the best course of reconcile.Is it just best to move on? I love her from the core of my heart and would want this to work at any cost.

Please also can you give me duas/amaal to counter this great test from Allah swt.I do not see any hope.

I would like to know

A girl got married recently but we found out that she already made nikah with someone else few weeks earliar so what happens to her second marriage and if she wants to stay with second husband what is the solution and she is expecting from second marriage if she wants to stay with second husband what is the solution and she says she was forced to get married to the first husband

Assalamu Alaykum

In the case of an adopted son, where the real fathers name is know, is nikkah valid if they use the adptive fathers name when asking the girl permission to perform the nikkah(the girl is also aware of who the biological father is) as well as when actually performing the nikkah itself?

For example, when they say "son of so and so"

If nikkah is not valid, and I, as a family member, know this, does it become my responsibility to inform the couple, as we are ordered to enjoin the good and forbid the evil in the Quran?

Also, this situation is quite complicated and I do not wish to post all the details on here, so is it possible for me to insha allah PM with one of the Ulema regarding this matter once it has been answered. I mean, if it is a valid nikkah, then there is no problem. But if its not a valid nikkah, then I would need to further discuss one issue in private, if thats possible.

Jazakallah Khayr

During a very heated argument, in a fit of anger i threatened my wife to be silent in 5 seconds else i would divorce her. She continued arguing so after the count i silently walked away. I did not say the divorce or talaq which i threatened her with, i just walked away. Is my nikah still valid?

Salaam,

My Parents are looking for a marriage partner for me and obbviously they are taking into account certain conditions and specifications I have asked for like deen and character etc...

My parents are by the will of Allah are not finding it easy to find a suitable Brother for marriage...I have had a poposal which on the outset looks extremely good, as in he is meant to be a very pious brother who does tabligh and it seems so perfect but my parents have a problem because he lives up North and I live in London...my parents dont want me to go so far where ther is no family of mine and me being the only daughter aswell...pls advice me as I know that if a good proposal comes and your satisfied then we shouldnt refuse,... would this be a valid reason to refuse? pls can this quesion be answered asap jazakallah khairun may Allah reward you...!!!
p.s pls pray that Allah make it easy for my parents and make their worries disapear...inshallah

As salaam walikum I have one kid and my wife was a Hindu girl and was perivously a call girl and now she can able to read little Al-Quran and she always perform salat. But one thing is that i have never do any Nikha with her but we both already accepted as husband and wife with our true heart. know the problem is that i told my parents that i did Nikha with her and my parents all believed me but now what i want to know is please show me how i must do to make it legal in islam I will be waiting for you reply

Allah hafiz