Marriage - General

Marriage - General
19th February 2006

Marriage

As-salaamu Alaikum sheikh,


Is it permissible for a muslim man to marry a second wife without the knowlege of his first wife, particularly if the second wife is not a muslim?

Marriage - General
7th December 2005

Addressing one's spouse

Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh


What is the correct and most respectful term by which to address one's spouse?


Please advise terms for both husband and wife.


Jazakumullah Khairun


Wassalaam

Marriage - General
16th November 2005

Istikhara

assalamualikum


If you pray Istikhara and you dont dont see anything,no positive or negative then what do you do,If you liked the girl for example can you stil go ahead with the nikkah,cos i liked the girl and did not see anything in my istikhara,but i need to get married as i am 29.


wassalams

Marriage - General
16th November 2005

Merriage & Proposals

Aoa,


Thank u v much for the reply of my Question.


I want to be get merried soon, but there is no good proposal still. How can I pray to God that my this problem will be solved. My family is v worried on this issue.



Regards


Umbreen

Marriage - General
15th November 2005

Marriage proposal..

assalamualikum mufti saab


Zazakallah for your answer regarding my marriage proposal...


Just wanted to ask you that if i prayed istikhara 2 years ago and it was postive,is it still valid even though it was 2 years ago...or do i have do istikhara again...


I seem more clear about this proposal now,Inshallah i will talk to my parents then inshallah give the go ahead to this.Make dua that i have a succesfull marriage and allah swt gives me pious children.


Zazakallah for your help.


May allah swt give you and the rest of your team success in this world and the hereafter.

Marriage - General
14th November 2005

Marriage proposal

assalamualikum mufti saab


Id like your advice on a marriage proposal i have received.


Two years ago i asked for the hand of a girl for marriage,before i asked i did Istikhara and received a positive sign.I went along with my Istikhara and my parents asked for this girl.After a couple of weeks i received an answer saying she was still studying to become an alima and they did not want to disrupt that.Neways i forgot about that and started to think about marriage again,when just before ramzan i received a proposal from the same girl who knocked me back 2 years ago.Ive been and seen this girl since and liked what i saw and heard from her.Apparantly they are really keen for me to say yes but i am so confused.Alhumdollialh Allah swt has given me so much..i keep on thinking why after all this time? do they want me for who i am or for what ive got? Id love to marry somebody who is pious and she fits the bill perfectly but why do i have these doubts.Ive been told by people that you should never marry an alima because it will cause trouble in the future but id love to marry somebody who has a wealth of knowledge for me to tap in2.Inshallah I will do istikhara .I hope you can give me some advice on what to do cos i really need it.


Zazakallah for your time in advance


Assalamualikum

Marriage - General
14th November 2005

Force marriage

please answer my question as soon as possible.
I am living in UK for last 6 years. while i was studying here i liked one girl, instead of meeting her alone i send message through my family to her father. first her father refused and threatened me to kill. but i asked him that in islam women have full right to exercise her own will. after lot of discussions when her knew that he had no alternative then he accept that and promised me that he will merry us in 3/4 months.
he deceived us, he not only emotionaly blackmale her daughter but alse brought her back to pakistan to merry her to his relative. because he knew that in Norway and UK he couldn't do this.
he merried her without her without her will and brought back her back to norway. his father got the visa for his realtive and brought him back to Norway. there in Norway there was lot of fights with that guy and her father.
then she left her father house and we married. i spoke with her father after that and he accepted me as a son in law. but refused to meet me.
now we have a son and we also got divorced confirmation from Norwegian goverment.
i would liek to remind you one hadiss here:
Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2090)"
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas: "A virgin came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) allowed her to exercise her choice. (Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud,
now i would like to know that is our marriage is valid or not according to islamic law. i would like to add here that they never slept together. and she never accepted her as her husband from heart. she also told me that she was so young so her fatehr played with her childish mind and emotionaly blackmale her.

i beg you that please answer me question as soon as possible.

Thank you

Marriage - General
7th November 2005

Looking for your own partner

Salam Regarding NIKHA, You did answer the parents have the right to break the nikha if they have problems with the race.



Does that mean if one wants to marry someone but the parents dont aproove of it under circumstances that they are not from the same race.ie they are racist with out even checking weather he/she are compatible for each other or not.


As parents many of the times think of what others would say ratehr then what is good for there child.


Please can you advise me on this matter as many sisters nikhas are delayed cos of issues like this


wassalam

Marriage - General
7th November 2005

2nd marriage without first wifes permission

Can a person get married a second time without his first wife's permission whist she is still living?

Marriage - General
7th November 2005

Reconciliation marriage

Assalaamualkum w.w.
Maulana sb,

I have going through a lot of hell in my marriage.I have got to the stage where I feel I want to give up.I have been married for 4 years and have tried everything to keep this marriage alive.

Both families are quite active in the tablighi effort.Last year I took her out for 40 days and this year alhumdulillah we both performed the Hajj.

We quarrel over very small things and then the matter would just flare up.Everytime she threatens me that she will leave with our child. I am constantly put down.I can't say anything to her.

We were on good talking terms and I think she was all OK and happy, that one day she got her father to come,packed her bags and left!I spoke to her the night before and in the morning said sallam to her before going to work .In the afternoon she left.

I have not spoken to her since more than two months.My son is suffering.

She came and took all her belongings one day.

When tried going to see my son I was given heavy abuse.

I need mashwerah and guidance.I feel I am mazloom.what is the punishment for a woman who does this??

Maulana sahub what is the best course of reconcile.Is it just best to move on? I love her from the core of my heart and would want this to work at any cost.

Please also can you give me duas/amaal to counter this great test from Allah swt.I do not see any hope.

Marriage - General
1st October 2005

Nikah after nikah

I would like to know


A girl got married recently but we found out that she already made nikah with someone else few weeks earliar so what happens to her second marriage and if she wants to stay with second husband what is the solution and she is expecting from second marriage if she wants to stay with second husband what is the solution and she says she was forced to get married to the first husband




Marriage - General
29th August 2005

Is Nikkah Valid If The Real Fathers Name Is Not Used?

Assalamu Alaykum

In the case of an adopted son, where the real fathers name is know, is nikkah valid if they use the adptive fathers name when asking the girl permission to perform the nikkah(the girl is also aware of who the biological father is) as well as when actually performing the nikkah itself?

For example, when they say "son of so and so"

If nikkah is not valid, and I, as a family member, know this, does it become my responsibility to inform the couple, as we are ordered to enjoin the good and forbid the evil in the Quran?

Also, this situation is quite complicated and I do not wish to post all the details on here, so is it possible for me to insha allah PM with one of the Ulema regarding this matter once it has been answered. I mean, if it is a valid nikkah, then there is no problem. But if its not a valid nikkah, then I would need to further discuss one issue in private, if thats possible.

Jazakallah Khayr
Marriage - General
25th August 2005

Is my nikah still valid?

During a very heated argument, in a fit of anger i threatened my wife to be silent in 5 seconds else i would divorce her. She continued arguing so after the count i silently walked away. I did not say the divorce or talaq which i threatened her with, i just walked away. Is my nikah still valid?
Marriage - General
21st August 2005

Marriage proposals

Salaam,

My Parents are looking for a marriage partner for me and obbviously they are taking into account certain conditions and specifications I have asked for like deen and character etc...

My parents are by the will of Allah are not finding it easy to find a suitable Brother for marriage...I have had a poposal which on the outset looks extremely good, as in he is meant to be a very pious brother who does tabligh and it seems so perfect but my parents have a problem because he lives up North and I live in London...my parents dont want me to go so far where ther is no family of mine and me being the only daughter aswell...pls advice me as I know that if a good proposal comes and your satisfied then we shouldnt refuse,... would this be a valid reason to refuse? pls can this quesion be answered asap jazakallah khairun may Allah reward you...!!!
p.s pls pray that Allah make it easy for my parents and make their worries disapear...inshallah
Marriage - General
5th August 2005

Making Nikah legal in Islam

As salaam walikum I have one kid and my wife was a Hindu girl and was perivously a call girl and now she can able to read little Al-Quran and she always perform salat. But one thing is that i have never do any Nikha with her but we both already accepted as husband and wife with our true heart. know the problem is that i told my parents that i did Nikha with her and my parents all believed me but now what i want to know is please show me how i must do to make it legal in islam I will be waiting for you reply

Allah hafiz
Marriage - General
28th July 2005

Mehr

assalamu alaikum
please could you tell me, what is the least amount of mehr that can be given? please could you tell me in pounds.jazakallah
wassalam
Marriage - General
25th July 2005

Should female partner be less educated?

Salaams! I am in a bit of a dilemma. Someone gave some advice (and said that this was the islamic perspective too) that when looking for a female marriage partner, you should try to make sure that the girl is less educated or less intelligent than the male (myself). Alhamdu lillaah I have quite good knowledge of Islam including Fiqh A'qaaid, seerah, hadith etc. But my potential marriage partner is an 'Aalimah. Is it not worth me seeing her for marriage? Is the brothers advice true? jazakallaah
Marriage - General
25th July 2005

Very Important Istikhara Question Pending

Salam, I''m writing to a chain of dreams that I''ve received since May 2002. I had a dream at that time where I was possibly in a hospital and my father is there to come see me. Apparently my father is holding my hand when I fall asleep and when I wake up I notice I''m still holding a man''s hand, only it turns out to be some man who is a stranger to me. I ask this stranger where is my father and he just smiles at me. Then I ask him, "who are you" ..he smiles again and says don''t worry he''ll be back to see you. It appears that this stranger knows me on a personal basis by the affectionate conversation we share but I am left confused. About four months later, I was traveling and I came across this stranger in a building lobby where we exchanged a few words. His appearance matched the one that I had in the dream in May. I immediately noticed that it was this man who i had seen before. Time passed many times and we crossed paths many times. For some reason, I decided to do Istikhara in 2002 regarding this man, and I have received a positive response from day one. I''ve continued doing istikhara for 3 years and I''ve received a positive response every time. The only thing that bothers me is that I''ve known a lot of personal details about of his past through people in the community and I don''t see him being a match for me due to his bad past. Over three years, I''ve seen many dreams followed by istikhara or actual experiences in person where I see parts of his life in my dreams. I see him traveling with me, I''ve seen him meeting me for dinner, I''ve seen our mothers talking in his house and I see myself more grown up in there, I see myself having mashallah two beautiful daughters but in that dream I''m not told who the father is, I''ve seen him and his family member in one dream stopping me in the marketplace where he asks me to decide about an important matter in two weeks time, and I''ve seen my father asking me in a dream if I had known him in the past. I''ve confided with malvi''s accross the country and they said only allah knows best. If I''ve done istikhara for 3 years and it came out positive what does that mean? I have lost contact with this person in the past two years. Also in one of the dreams I saw him married to someone else and the marriage was bad. If he is married, then what is the validity of my istikhara. I was advised in a istikhara that I will marry an unmarried man by a maulvi. Is there truth to my dreams? Lastly, there was also a dream where the guy''s mother walks up to me in a masjid and offers me her phone number but I do not react immediately. Please advise, the istikharas have shown me enough but I have no contact with this man. Jazakallah and may ALLAH SWT bless you. Khair.[b:6f1eebbdc4][/b:6f1eebbdc4]
Marriage - General
19th July 2005

Jaez nikkah or not?

I got engaged 4 months back and everything was going perfect and smoothly. Suddenly, from first week of July my fiancee started acting strangely? I meet her and enquired the problem so she said; that she is not interested in marrying me because she likes someone else. She requested me to take all blames and end up this engagement. I refused her for taking any kind of blames and mentioned everything to her mother. Her entire family was against this decision and told her that we cannot let you marry with that person at any case. No matter if me gets marry with you or whatever? after a week we came to know that my fiancee has already done court marriage with that person and all four evidence (Gavaas) were from that person side. Everyone is against this decision and asked the person family to take the girl because we cannot bear her with us. That?s just her decision from our family.

While nikkah there should be 2 evidence (Gavaas) from girl side which should be maharam. Non maharam gavaas are not applicable (In case if any maharam gavaas are not present). Please let me know is this Nikkah is acceptable in Islamic and Sharyiat point of view or what?
Marriage - General
14th June 2005

Nikkah

Asalaam'Alaikum!

I pray that this reaches you in the best of Imaan! Ameen

I am in a very awkward situation Inshah'Allah i hope you can help!

I performed a secret marriage several months ago. By secret i mean that neither of our families know about it. My question is thus, whether my marriage is valid.

I am a muture woman, currently studying at uni and the man i married is also mutured and at the time we got married he was working and quite stable in life.

I just want to tell you about the whole situation in which we got marreid and the whole procude of the acctual Nikkah. Our marraige was obvioulsy very different because until date neither of our families know we are married. The Nikkah was performed on the 25th Ramadhan at a resturant near a Mosque. I had no Haq Mahr, no wahli and no written contract. Both the witnesses were arranged by himself and infact the whole ceremony was arranged by him. One of our witnesses is his best freind and the other was just some random brother who works at this resturant. He (my husband) performed the Nikkah himself whereby he said "I want to marry you" he took my full name and then said "do you accept?" and repeated this three times and i said "Yes" three times.

THAT IS ALL THAT HAPPEND.....

Oh yeah! urm, one witness knows about our situation ie the secret marriage and all his personal problems and that he has no status here; but the other like i have said knows nothing i don't think he knows our names!

The only reason we got married is for the sake of Allah (SWT), both of us are practicing and we tried our utmost best to follow Islam. Our relationship had no name, and i was scared that if I die i'm going to go to hell! We tried everything to stop sinning (ie talking for hours) it was working and it was becoming a craze.

I have spoken to a Mufti in Leicester (he didn't give me chance to actually speak) who said that it was valid so i just left it at that. however, i told some friends who think its invalid and hence keep putting doubt in my head. so, i asked my husband to find out and he is admant that this is all valid and that Mufti Yaseen from London told him so. Shiek Yasseer from the States has alsdo said that tis is invalid.

That is my situation!

i hope you can help Inshah'Allah!

May Allah (SWT) reward you. Ameen!

Your sister in Islam