Marriage - General
2nd December 2021
I have from my parents that love marriage is not legal. However, many Muslim youths in Hong Kong, where I live, is doing love marriages. They say that premarital love affairs on the purpose of marriage is legal. They claim that premarital affairs, on the purpose of marriage, is legal, but premarital sex, premarital, kisses and premarital holding hands are not legal. However, I always hear from Islamic scholars in my country that it is illegal. Is love marriages actually legal? Can you give a brief, detailed description of this answer? If Islamic scholars claim that love marriages is illegal, why do Muslim youths do love marriages and say it is legal?
Marriage - General
21st October 2021
I want to marry my Divorced sister in law as my second wife.
She is living along with my wife back home and I'm working overseas.
I've developed feelings for her, and I'm afraid that this may lead me for act of Sin.
No one still has come forward with the marriage proposal as today's world people Materialistic only.
Please guide/advice
Marriage - General
12th September 2021
Assalamo Alaikum.
Is purity of body and clothing a pre requisite of Nikah.
Sometime ago a dog came up very close to me. It possibly licked or sniffed my clothes.
Please note it was raining it was a wet day and I did not check my clothes to see where the dog touched me. I did this to avoid touching the place where dog may have licked or sniffed my garment and spread the filth else where .
When I got home I washed it in the bath tub and then put it in the washing machine.
I know my garment is pure. However it's been difficult to purify the bath tub. As each time I wash the tub water falls on the floor and it has to be mopped up. The mop is then squeezed or washed in the clean bath tub, which i assume then makes the bath tub again impure again. The cycle of cleaning the tub seems never ending..
Recently after taking a bath , my clean clothes fell on something that was wet from washing the bath tub.as I had nothing else to wear I wore the clothes that fell and were a little wet.
I feel that my body touched by the wet patches of the clothes I wore is dirty and needs to be cleaned again. And I know I'll have to clean the bathtub again before taking another bath. The cycle will just start again. Sometimes I just want to stop cleaning it.,to the point I just want to give up and just put it down to waswasa or being excessive. Allah SWT knows I wouldn't deliberately allow najasa to remain on my body or clothes.
I'm looking in to marriage and want to know that if I had any dog saliva ect on my body or clothing will this affect the validity of my nikah
Marriage - General
22nd July 2021
If sunni muslim girl can marry dawoodi bohra boy? Is it allowable in sharia??
Marriage - General
25th June 2021
I live in a remote city of China due to study purpose. My colleague Chinese girl has converted to Islam and I want to marry (Nikkah). Her parents knew about it and has no objection (However they are not till now converted). My family in Pakistan also know about it and have no objections. Due to present conditions my family members cannot travel to me. In my university, there are 2 more Pakistani Muslim friends. Now it is to ask, if nobody other then girl is Muslim, Can i and she do acceptance (Ayjab-o-qubool) of Nikkah in front of witnesses (Pakistani friends) as we don't have any other Muslim as witness near by. Does she required a Advocate (Wakeel). In the Nikkah, the girls Parent will be there and my family will be online watching.
Marriage - General
16th May 2021
Assalaam alaikum. I need urgent answer to my question if possible please, with authentic hadith with proper isnaad and fatawas. I am a woman of hanafi maslaq. I married my first cousin, also hanafi, (paternal uncle’s son) in the following manner. We sat together at a place and and made a video call to his younger brother and one of my other cousins, who although the same age as my husband, is actually an uncle in relation. Now, they both were made aware of the situation beforehand that they are going to be witnesses to my nikah. Also, they both know me well and recognise my voice and can attest to hearing the offer and acceptance of the proposal. Now, my husband read the khutbah and nikah and offer. I accepted and the witnesses were asked if they heard it. Similary my husband accepted and it was confirmed if the witnesses heard it. Both the witnesses had eyes on us and were aware that me and my husband were in the same place. I had confirmed this manner of nikah online as well before attempting it. It was from another similar nikah. After the nikah and consummation I informed my father and my other family members about the nikah all within a week or two and asked them to keep silent about it for a little while till we could convince my husband’s parents first. So they are not aware of it. I even got my mehr. Now, I am being told that since my witnesses were physically not present in the same room, even though they heard everything and can testify, my nikah is invalid. Please explain on this matter. I have even contacted the UAE online fatawa centre but I am not getting clear elaborate answers. Also, my cousin sister also married my husband two months later in somewhat similar manner. Mu husband was sitting with two witnesses in one country and my cousin was in another country and these two parties were on video call. Although one witness was a fellow cousin and family the other one was a stranger who did not know her or recognise her in any way and she is not even sure of who he was exactly because his full name was not taken while naming the witnesses. And that nikah was a secret between the two of them for 3 years. No one knew about it and nor did they consummate their marriage. Neither did she get her mahr. But they were under the impression that they were married. Now, please tell me
1.Are these two nikahs valid?
2.And if they are not valid, is it mandatory that both of us conduct the nikah again, even if now one of the sisters feels that she cannot stay married to the man?
Please explain with fatawa and hadith in detail. I even mailed mufti menk about this in detail but the only answer I got was that nikah without wali is valid. But here the question is not of the wali but of the witnesses being present on video.
Marriage - General
24th February 2021
After my divorce, I didn't want to do zina.
I met a lady, whose parents were not agree for our marriage. but we met sometimes outside. we liked each other,
we had sexual desires for each other but she was saying she doesn't want to show our relation to anyone, wants to keep secret.
we decided to do oral nikah،
we made a group, added 2 friends and where she accepted me as husband 3 times and me too.
then i called my friend, he said yes he has seen. after that we completed our sexual desire.
we have done intercourse 1-2 times after that nikah.
and Allah knows best our intensions.
is our nikah completed, or we did zinah. I am confuse.
image is here. proof
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must reply . thanks
Marriage - General
6th December 2020
Asselamu Alaikum Dear brothers & sisters,
I plan to open online Nikah website.
Here is the details of his website proposal.
That is each party (the Nikah needing male & the female) posts the following information on the proposed website:
1) What quality & personality (behavior, academic, Qeerat, financial, etc) he/she has and
2) What he/she needs from the other partner.
That is, I plan to make nikah needing brothers & sisters to post on my website details about themselves & criteria of the wife/husband they need.
But, this doesn't include photo & contact address posting.
Then, if any opposite sex fulfilling the requirements is interested on the posted information, he/she responds by expressing her interest. This expression of interest is done clicking specific button on the website. Then, if the other partner is interested in her/him too, they will do the same (clicks a button). Finally, the website informs this to me so that I call to partner to come to my office with their respective mahram & talk to the other partner in face to face.
If they agree to continue, Only at this point I exchange their contact address to each other.
Until they agree, no photo and contact addressed is shared to each other. Not posted on the website.
Then, the remaining part continues as usual through involvement of the Mahrem.
I plan to appoint Ulama board for the database management, to check compliance to Islamic rullings, to facilite the face-to-face talking etc.
The job of the website is only to make the marriage partner searching job easy.
No photo is posted and no contact address is displayed on the website.
Thus, Dear brothers and sister,
Is it halal for to create such website?
Is it halal for marriage seeking individuals to search their partner through this website?
What are the preconditions to do this?
What other advice you could give me to make issue strictly Islamic?
Jezakumullah.
Marriage - General
13th April 2020
I am 22 years graduated student,I love a 18 years old girl and she also loves me ,but her father is not agree due to intercaste, although we both are very religious person and I want a secret nikah with her to protect us from gunah ,can I do this nikah please answer me sir.
Marriage - General
3rd April 2020
Salaam, I have a question. I follow the hanafi fiqh and therefore would request a response from this school of thought please.
My husband and I married in 2016 and unfortunately we have had problems since then. I appreciate that every story has 2 sides and therefore will try to keep it brief.
In summary I have reached the conclusion that my husband and I are just incompatible and sadly he is not showing any willingness to better himself or try to salvage our marriage.
I found myself constantly criticised by both my husband and his family for almost everything. I was constantly blamed for any issues, little empathy was shown to me and my husband's behaviour was always justified by him and his mother.
I fell pregnant immediately after our nikkah and I had a particularly difficult pregnancy, I was very unwell and had little support from my husband or in laws.
After the baby was born I started experiencing a lot of anger and lashing out at my husband, mainly verbally as I felt he was never around to support me. Constantly working or with his family.
My husband moved in and out of the house and blamed me saying I have a mental health condition or anger problems.
In December 2018 after getting slightly physical with me, my husband left our home and moved out. He told me the marriage was not working and that he wanted a divorce. He also said he wanted a 6 month break. During this time he showed no signs of reconciling so I moved on with life i.e. I bought a house for myself and my daughter. He was aware of this but accepted thay we weren't together so I could do what I wanted.
7/8 months later he started sleeping over at the new house but in the spare room, this was mainly for our daughter and convenience. We had little communications and with each other and when we did communicate we argued.
We have not have physical relations pretty much throughout our marriage maybe once a month at best. And during our 6 month speration there was no physical relations.
Last week after another argument, my husband was extremely verbally abusive towards me and told me he wanted a divorce.His words were "I want a divorce" its over I'm done with you etc etc.
This is not the first time he said this to me in our marriage or indicated he wants a divorce.
Later that morning he repeated that he wanted a divorce and after I left the house for work, he text me saying he wanted to finalise the divorce today.
My question is, does this class as an effective divorce? There is no confusion around his intention. He has accepted on many occasions that our marriage is over and has made no real effort to reconcile.
I on the other hand with Allah (SWT) as my witness can stay I had done everything within my reasonable control to salvage my marriage. I am previously divorced and desperately did not want to be divorced again.
I sought medical help for my alleged anger problems and was told by the doctor that I don't have any problems. I changed the way I dress, I stopped speaking to my family, I spent all my spare time at my in laws.
In return my husband was never home and the time he was it was for our daughter. Financially he has not contributed towards the running of the house and I do this independently.
My husband is the kind of person who likes to keep up appearances and i fear that he is pushing me to initiate divorce proceedings with his behaviour because he doesn't want to be the one responsible for issuing a talaq so he can say to his family and the community that it was me who divorced him and blame me for this also. I am in limbo as I don't want to initiate divorce proceedings through the shariah court but fear he will keep me hanging on indefinitely as it suits him.
I recently started taking an Islamic class and tried to encourage him to join me but he said he didn't need it and I needed it more and he constantly tells me that I am a e that he is blackmailing me wit
Marriage - General
15th March 2020
Aoa i want to know that if someone adopt girl from her sister means girl's khala adopt her then during her wedding which father name is used her original father name or the adopted father name.? And in all the papers her current father name is used who adopt her
Marriage - General
26th December 2019
Assalamualaikum...I all ways wanted to marry someone religious......so this is when I came to Bangladesh for my studies, I met my peternal first cousin we never spoke before. I am an University student, she is 2 years younger then me I am 22...I started tutoring her and in between studies we talk to each other about everything..and slowly I fell in love with her character..she is religious, kind, Caring and beautiful.i started caring for her deeply. And since she came to my life I feel like I'm closer to Islam than before.. I want to marry her.i asked her if she wants to marry me she replied if our parents agrees then she also ready to marry..the problem is that our fathers are brothers and though a few of my fathers brother and sister married their cousins my father dislikes cousin marriage and it seems impossible to make everyone agree...I started praying istickhara,she too prays istickhara twice a day.for Allah to guide us..so my question is when does one get guidence for istickhara?? Because her might accept proposal next year I am a little scared what if her parents accept other proposal?? should continue praying istickhara until I get guidence from Allah?? No matter how long it takes??
Marriage - General
16th December 2019
My nine years old daughter old sat on my lap and for some reason i got aroused and orgasmed. As i was in orgasm and ejaculating, i hugged my daughter. Is Hurmat Musaharah established?
Marriage - General
12th December 2019
As Salamu Alaikum, I have a bit unusual question.
Me & my wife both are pious and we try to perform salat and follow islamic guideline.
This question is regarding our sex life. And we are seeking guidance.
Me & my wife most of the time fantasy about having sex with another couple during our intercourse.
Recently we got in touch with another like minded couple who wants to try the same.
So i have two question:
1) Is it permissible in islam for couple to have sex with another couple under mutual agreement? I mean if all the four person agree? And my wife also want such.
2) Is it permissible in islam for couple to fantasy about having sex with another couple to arouse us?
What's the view of islam regarding couple swing/ swinger/ couple sex / wife swap?
We want to try it but we are confused in the context of islam.
Please guide us. Thanks in advance. Jazakallah
Marriage - General
10th December 2019
My wife is fighting with me alot. She is not mentally ok.
She fight me on I scolded on my big daughter.
She fight me on my mother, 100 times she abuses my father (May Allah grant him Jennah). My wife never met to my father but she use to abuse but I dont reply n recite May Allah give u hiddayat.
Last time she destroy home curtain, crokery, my both daughters started crying, (4 year n 10 month) but she hitting me alot, because I just said I tired i cant wash baby walker.
I knew that I have two girls but my wife never understand this and ask Talaq Several time in last fight. she ask Talaq 100 times before.
Well I said only one time, although I had no intention to give her Talaq, only to say Talaq 1 time, so that she can stop N she stop.
Her parents also not talking to her, and they are not helping me to give her some guidance.I am alone because my wife don;t want me to talk to my any family member, otherwise she start another fighting. Allah knows.
Now, what is the status of my Talaq. It is done 1 time or please clarify.
Marriage - General
4th November 2019
As salam wale kum Hazrat
kindly advice if our Nikaah is valid
once my friend insisted while we were chanting on Facebook and I offer the proposal of marriage and she replied her acceptance"Qubool hai" via msg on chat.
please answer if our Nikaah valid. and also kindly let me know if you need more info regarding the same.
Jzak Allah.
Marriage - General
8th October 2019
Asalam o alaikum
My sister is going to marry a man whose father died when he was 2 years old and his mother got second marriage with another muslim man.step father replaced the real child's father name by himself.
Is it allow in islam to write the name of step father instead of the real father in nikkah documentations of that child. Because now he is going to marry with my sister now. He is 20 years old now.
And verbally announced the name of real father during nikkah.
Is that nikkah being jaiz.
JazakAllaho khairan.
Marriage - General
6th October 2019
Sir i have a question...
what is the process of nikah on call??
my friend did aijab o qubool on a call just for fun at that time no one was on her side listening to her... but now she is saying that she was standing near the main door so it is possible thaf someone listened her from outside so i wanted to ask that in this condition is she married to that guy now?
and tell me that what are the conditions for nikah on call... is it necessary to listen the aijab o qubool by witnesses by both sides on speaker??? or if witnesses hear only one sided talk from each side.... will nikah be done???
Marriage - General
13th September 2019
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Alhamdulillah allah blessed us baby girl..
i choose some names like laiba,zyna,zuha,manal,
some moulana says these names are good some of them are telling not good and meaning also not good so please suggest me good names and valuable meaning foy my daughter
Marriage - General
12th August 2019
Salam Alekum,
I did Istikhara for proposal I got from a second man, meanwhile I have been talking to first man for marriage purpose. In my istikhara dream for second man, I saw a scary dream with the first man in it. What does this mean? Does the dream mean the first man is bad for me or second even when the istikhara was for second man?