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conditions of a wali for marriage of a sayyedah

Last updated: 6th January 2024
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I am writing to seek your esteemed guidance on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my heart. I am a Sayeddah and have been practicing Islam throughout my life. Recently, I have expressed my intention to marry a Muslim convert who has devoted many years to the practice of Islam. However, my father, despite the gentleman's adherence to Islam, objects to the union on grounds unrelated to Islamic principles. He cites the convert's non-Muslim origin, Pakistani background, and lack of a Muslim family as reasons for his disapproval. I am struggling to reconcile his decision with Islamic teachings, which emphasize the importance of a partner's faith rather than lineage. Given my Sayeddah status, I am particularly interested in understanding the conditions for a Wali in this scenario. How does Islam view a marriage proposal from a Muslim convert, and what guidance can you provide regarding the role of a Wali in such circumstances? I am earnestly seeking your wisdom and expertise to navigate this situation in accordance with Islamic principles. Your guidance will be immensely appreciated as I strive to find a resolution that aligns with both my faith and familial relationships. JazakAllah Khair for your time and consideration.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

It is suitable for the woman to marry within her Kufu’ (match). So she should marry a Sayyid. However, it is permissible to marry a non Sayyid with her guardians consent. If she marries without guardians consent then according to the Hanafi opinion the guardians have the right to object.

It is the saying of Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), ‘Listen! Women should be married off only by their (Shar’ee) guardians (Wali) and their marriage should take place only with suitable matches.’ (Akfaa).’ (Daaraqutni and Bayhaqi)

When a woman marries within her Kufu’ (match) she remains protected from the distress and incompatibility of marriage to a non-Kufu’.

Concerning the marriage of new Muslims, it is permissible. The guardians should not be ashamed and should happily consent to the marriage.

وينعقد نكاح المرأة الحرة البالغة العاقلة برضاها وإن لم يعقد عليها ولي عند أبي حنيفة بكرا كانت أو ثيبا

وقال في الهداية ثم في ظاهر الرواية لا فرق بين الكفء وغيره لكن للولي الاعتراض في غير الكفء
وقال في المبسوط روي الحسن عن ابي حنيفة إن كان الزوج كفؤا لها جاز النكاح وإن لم يكن كفؤالها لا يجوز النكاح اه وهذا القول مختار صاحب خلاصة الفتاوي وقال هكذا كان يفتي شمس الآئمة السرخسي كذا في غاية البيان

(اللباب في شرح الكتاب كتاب النكاح ٤/١٦-٢٥)

And Allah knows best

07 Rajab 1445/ 18 January 2024

Answer last updated on:
18th January 2024
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Location: London