I am writing to seek your esteemed guidance on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my heart. I am a Sayeddah and have been practicing Islam throughout my life. Recently, I have expressed my intention to marry a Muslim convert who has devoted many years to the practice of Islam.
However, my father, despite the gentleman's adherence to Islam, objects to the union on grounds unrelated to Islamic principles. He cites the convert's non-Muslim origin, Pakistani background, and lack of a Muslim family as reasons for his disapproval. I am struggling to reconcile his decision with Islamic teachings, which emphasize the importance of a partner's faith rather than lineage.
Given my Sayeddah status, I am particularly interested in understanding the conditions for a Wali in this scenario. How does Islam view a marriage proposal from a Muslim convert, and what guidance can you provide regarding the role of a Wali in such circumstances?
I am earnestly seeking your wisdom and expertise to navigate this situation in accordance with Islamic principles. Your guidance will be immensely appreciated as I strive to find a resolution that aligns with both my faith and familial relationships.
JazakAllah Khair for your time and consideration.
It is suitable for the woman to marry within her Kufuâ€™ (match). So she should marry a Sayyid. However, it is permissible to marry a non Sayyid with her guardians consent. If she marries without guardians consent then according to the Hanafi opinion the guardians have the right to object.
It is the saying of Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), â€˜Listen! Women should be married off only by their (Sharâ€™ee) guardians (Wali) and their marriage should take place only with suitable matches.â€™ (Akfaa).â€™ (Daaraqutni and Bayhaqi)
When a woman marries within her Kufuâ€™ (match) she remains protected from the distress and incompatibility of marriage to a non-Kufuâ€™.
Concerning the marriage of new Muslims, it is permissible. The guardians should not be ashamed and should happily consent to the marriage.