Naomi
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Assalamualaikum, me and this man want to get married but we have an issue which is my dad, so my situation is, a wali is needed for a valid marriage, but my dad, he is a disbeliever, and he’s been my abuser for my whole life, he’s tortured my mum, he’s controlling, he is hurtful, he is inhumane, he would never give permission for me and this man’s marriage, because he wants to choose and be in control of my life, he would destroy my life, and as he is a disbeliever, he cannot be my wali from the opinion i follow, so my grandfather has passed away, my brother is too young, the only person i have is my half uncle, but he wouldn’t give permission as he is on my dads side, he wouldn’t do anything to betray him, if i were to tell my dad about this, he will hurt me, he would never let me go, i am moving far away from him now, im going to university long long away, and i want to do a nikkah with this man, he is a good muslim, and a good person, and once i’ve moved completely away from my dad, i will tell him then, because he would not be able to hurt me physically, emotionally or financially, would this nikkah be valid? i’ll be able to have 2 male witnesses, but i’ve seen that a wali can be an imam or anyone from the community if i don’t have anyone else, please help us, we have tried for months to find someone to ask and make what we have halal, but no one has responded, please understand the situation because my dad has been my biggest test from Allah, and this marriage? he would never ever give permission, and he will ruin my life as well as my whole family’s and his family too
