Marriage - General

There is a girl who wants to marry me. She is gentle and prays regularly, but she doesn't wear hijab. I told her unless she wears the hijab I don't want to marry her because I don't want to share any sin and moreover I don't feel comfortable. We have known each other for many years.
Am I doing the right thing? Or should I marry her and give her time? She said she might wear hijab in the future anyways but she doesn't know when. Please advise.

Hello, I’m a converted Muslim (Hanafi) and I live in Turkey. I converted to Islam 2 years ago (I was Protestant). I wear hijab and I live following all the Sunnahs from our Prophet (SAW). I met my boyfriend a year ago, we are so in love like we have never felt in our lives and we both want to marry. But he is already married and has 3 kids, ages 4, 8 and 13. He has been in an unhappy marriage for years just for the sake of the kids but he doesn’t want to divorce his wife because it’s something extremely bad from where he is and he could lose his kids custody. His family doesn’t know of my existence but his wife obviously knows that there is someone else in his life since he doesn't spend any time with her, they don't sleep together... she is fine with that as long as he provides for the family since she is a housewife. He is a wealthy and very generous man, and he cares a lot for his children and I know that if he would divorce he would still support them financially. My case is different since I have a job, but he also supports me a lot. He asked me to do the Nikah with me even though 2nd marriage isn’t allowed in Turkey. I want to marry him more than anything but I don't know what I should do. I'm in my 30s and he's in his 40s so we are not kids. Thank you

Assalaamu'alykum
I am a divorced women who now wants to marry but my family are not allowing me to marry the guy i have got to know as they have heard he maybe involved with drugs however there are also other sources that have said the groom doesn't have bad habits and isn't involved with drugs but my family won't accept that so are stopping me from getting married so all my walis are preventing me from getting married. What can i do? Can i marry without a wali and have the imaam as my guardian?

Assalamualaikum, me and this man want to get married but we have an issue which is my dad, so my situation is, a wali is needed for a valid marriage, but my dad, he is a disbeliever, and he’s been my abuser for my whole life, he’s tortured my mum, he’s controlling, he is hurtful, he is inhumane, he would never give permission for me and this man’s marriage, because he wants to choose and be in control of my life, he would destroy my life, and as he is a disbeliever, he cannot be my wali from the opinion i follow, so my grandfather has passed away, my brother is too young, the only person i have is my half uncle, but he wouldn’t give permission as he is on my dads side, he wouldn’t do anything to betray him, if i were to tell my dad about this, he will hurt me, he would never let me go, i am moving far away from him now, im going to university long long away, and i want to do a nikkah with this man, he is a good muslim, and a good person, and once i’ve moved completely away from my dad, i will tell him then, because he would not be able to hurt me physically, emotionally or financially, would this nikkah be valid? i’ll be able to have 2 male witnesses, but i’ve seen that a wali can be an imam or anyone from the community if i don’t have anyone else, please help us, we have tried for months to find someone to ask and make what we have halal, but no one has responded, please understand the situation because my dad has been my biggest test from Allah, and this marriage? he would never ever give permission, and he will ruin my life as well as my whole family’s and his family too

Assalamwuakaikum, I would like an answer for a scenario that I am currently in.

I am 19 years old and a student at university. I have known this girl for over 3 years and I have known her really well for just over 1 year. I really want to marry her and so does she want to marry me. Our parents spoke and although my parents were willing to meet and speak, her parents rejected on the basis that we are too young and that me as the man, I have no income yet and no house.

We really want to make things halal to avoid zina and her parents told mine that they say no due to age, but secretly it’s because they wish for her to marry a much older relative, Which she has openly said no to. Her father is not the best of people for reasons, he is against my proposal due to my geographical location (does not like area where I live) and is very stubborn.

Her mother has spoke to me and was the one to tell me to get my parents to speak to the girls parents. So she is understanding of our situation but her husband is very against it for what i believe is an invalid reason.

The girl has told me that she doesn’t want me to fully financially depend on me and has agreed with me the idea that we can remain in our parents home until I have graduated with a job. But her parents do not want us to marry simply due to age and not having a house (alongside judging me for where I live).

I would like to marry her with permission of an imaam and not make our family aware of our nikkah, and eventually they will accept, and at that point. Can we do another nikkah contract to avoid huge family arguments as her family is very culturally minded. I believe I meet the requirements that she wants for us to get married in terms of Mehr, providing for her when she wants me to, just the guardianship and witnesses is my concern and whether with this situation. Can I get nikkah done without the knowledge of her and my parents for this scenario? Jazakallah khair

I understand marrying children has been allowed but according to Imam Shafi or the majority of ulema, if there is no valid reason is it discouraged or haram

It should be noted that al-Shaafa’i and his companions said: It is preferable for fathers and grandfathers not to marry off a virgin until she reaches the age of puberty and they ask her permission, lest she end up in a marriage that she dislikes. What they said does not go against the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah, because what they meant is that they should not marry her off before she reaches puberty if there is no obvious interest to be served that they fear will be missed out on if they delay it, as in the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah. In that case it is preferable to go ahead with the marriage because the father is enjoined to take care of his child’s interests and not to let a good opportunity slip away.



Further seeing as its frowned upon by society today, is it correct to say it is no longer permissible or valid

Hello i live in a country with mainly muslims(a lot of which are not practicers of islam only in name) but not ruled by islamic ruler and here the school of thought is mainly hanefi and as for the marriage as i heard some people say that the imams here consider the engagement ceremony to be enough for a valid marriage usually almost everyone gets married like that and you almost never hear anyone mentioning concepts like wali and other things not even imams. Personally i would like to marry with a muslim wali and with an imam and the witnesses but the problem is that my father even though he calls himself a muslim he never prayed or maybe he prayed ones when someone died not very sure and we told him to pray a couple times but he generally doesnt fast or provide for us as he was a bit sick years ago and always reasons himself that he cannot do things or doesnt feel well enough and stuff like that. I heard that people that dont pray are kafirs or at least who dont think praying is obligatory but for my father i dont know how to label him because he is a bit more on the side of illiterate and lack a lot of knowledge he only knows how to read or write but almost never read anything bht he recites ayyetul kursi, el fatiha and it is not like we have a court here for me to know if he can be my wali or he is a kafir personally i think if the judge were to threaten him to pray or lose his life he would probably pray. And also considering grandfathers brother or uncles etc they are either dead or do not pray or not believe except one uncle who prayed a few tines after his son died but maybe doesnt pray anymore or prays rarelly(not sure) and i dont know for sure if his son pray now and then or very rarely or hasnt prayed for since a time. In general neither my father or uncles or anyone would make a problem for the person i choose they wouldnt even care if the person i marry prays or not or how much practices islam. So can i take my father as a wali and have the ckntract in front of imam will that be valid or do maybe 2 contracts the secknd one taking the imam as my wali. Or do i need to check with my uncle cousin or uncle and if he prays take him (which maybe might cause some mess or talks with my father and people around expecially if the imams here might not say that wali are required or that i dont need to go to such lengths and my father is enough, and the fact that usually people here do not go labeling others as kafirs? Note that i still havent found a suitable person already struggling with that due to having a good job and only have a few friends who might help me with that but havent found someone yet since there arent many pracitcing muslim males who also have a good status or job. Also i heard that hanefi allows marriage without a wali but have to find someone of similar status which i might not be able to find or at least he will be in a lower status financially (which i am mentionjng in case my wali is not considered wali can i take into consideration this thought that i dont need a wali on that case)

Alsalam Alykum,

I got married with a girl who was divorced,we did only religious marriage at sheikh’s office but we couldn’t have any witnesses, after 2 years our lives wasn’t going very well and we got divorced by saying “Talak” 3 times in different occasions..I understand I can’t marry her till she marry someone else, but the question is if our first marriage wasn’t valid as no witnesses can I marry her as it our first time? Or the first marriage was valid even without witnesses.
Jazak Allah Khier please advise me

I was reading about zina with wife's sister
( sister in law) and I read that according to Hanafi madhab Zina with sister of wife ( sister in law) break Nikah between husband and wife even if someone touch his sister in law with desire.
I hand shaked with my sister in law long time ago but I'm not sure was it with desire or it was just a normal hand shaked. There is no relationship between me and my sister in law but sometimes Shiatan was putting bad thoughts in my mind about her.
Now I'm very confused and scared that is my Nikah with my wife still valid. If its not valid what should we do? Should we do another fresh Nikah.

Asalamu alaykum I hope your well, I asked a few questions pertaining to my nikkah from yourselves and they have all been answered and removed a lot of waswas and things that were playing in my mind so I would like to thank you very much. I have one last questions to remove all doubts and it’s regarding the my father in law who acted on my wife’s behalf in the nikkah with the imam conducting the nikkah. My father in law although he is a Muslim is not practicing, he’s a really nice guy and he knows he can be a better Muslim by praying and do more for deen. He doesn’t really pray as a Muslim
Should but he doesn’t deny the prayer and knows he should be praying. I just wanted to know every other thing that was required to make the nikkah permissible was carried out. My father law not being as practicing , does that make the marriage invalid as he acted in my wife’s behalf. JazakAllahu khairan.

ASalamualaikum I hope your well. I have a question with regards to my nikkah and it’s really stressing me out. I just want to know if it was done correctly. I’m a hanafi and my nikkah was done in the mosqe. There were around 20 male witnesses, including my cousin who had studied ilm for many years. My wife was also in the masjid but was with the women in another segregated room. Her father acted on her behalf. The imam was the one who conducted the nikkah and asked my father in law if he gave his daughter(said her full name) with a specific mahr to me in front of the witnesses and my father in law said yes. And then the imam asked me if I accepted my wife with that specific mahr (saying her name and my name and daughter of so and so) and I said yes I have accepted. This was repeated twice and then we started to sign the contract and the imam told my brother in law to go the women’s section and tell my wife to sign the papers. My brother in law didn’t ask my wife anything she just signed the papers. I just wanted to ask did my wife need to accept. She knew she was marrying me and was really happy obviously but this keeps playing on my mind whether or not we did the ceremony correct. I asked my cousin who studied ilm in Leicester for 7 years about this and he said her father accepted on her behalf and she just needed to sign the contract and that’s it she didn’t need to say anything. Also I read that if a women is present in the nikkah ceremony she has to answer herself but like I said the women although they did attend the cermony, they were in a separated segregated room and my wife wasn’t present in front of the imam it was her father who was acting on her behalf and then the imam was conducting the nikkah and asking the questions in the ijab and qabool.We’re these things done correctly and is my nikkah valid, if you could get back to me asap IA as it’s really stressing me out. JazakAllahu khairan.

I’m a sunni boy and I like a bohri girl. Can i marry her?

My friend is struggling with marriage and he wanted to know if he would be able to marry is mums dads brothers daughter or would that be seen as something forbidden in Islam and he is also older than her.

Assalamualaikum brothers,

just after my engagement i met my fiance outside in restaurant alon we both talk and touch each other hands also in taxi we kiss each other on lips.
After that we feel regret of doing this as it is haram, we apologies to allah almighty ,i also pray salat tu tauba and pray that we will not do this again and after that we didn't meet alone and get married.

It has been 2 year now My wife unable to get pregnant without any major medical issue hence i feel that i should do some kaffara of doing haram thing before marriage and thinking that allah is angry with us.

Please guid and provide some wazifa for child also.

May allah bless you shower his mercy on you for helping ummah

Assalamalaikum
My sister wants to marry a guy who is Punjabi. She does not want to convert him as muslim, because he will be doing it just for the sake of marriage, and that is wrong according to us. I think islam should be accepted by heart and only when one wants to. In this case, what would be the solution for this marriage? Can they both follow their own religion? Also, What if they do court marriage? Is it possible to do Nikah? Please let me know.

Can I Marry my father's sister's daughters daughter

Is it permissible to marry the daughter of a stepbrother?

I have from my parents that love marriage is not legal. However, many Muslim youths in Hong Kong, where I live, is doing love marriages. They say that premarital love affairs on the purpose of marriage is legal. They claim that premarital affairs, on the purpose of marriage, is legal, but premarital sex, premarital, kisses and premarital holding hands are not legal. However, I always hear from Islamic scholars in my country that it is illegal. Is love marriages actually legal? Can you give a brief, detailed description of this answer? If Islamic scholars claim that love marriages is illegal, why do Muslim youths do love marriages and say it is legal?

I want to marry my Divorced sister in law as my second wife.
She is living along with my wife back home and I'm working overseas.
I've developed feelings for her, and I'm afraid that this may lead me for act of Sin.
No one still has come forward with the marriage proposal as today's world people Materialistic only.
Please guide/advice

Assalamo Alaikum.

Is purity of body and clothing a pre requisite of Nikah.

Sometime ago a dog came up very close to me. It possibly licked or sniffed my clothes.
Please note it was raining it was a wet day and I did not check my clothes to see where the dog touched me. I did this to avoid touching the place where dog may have licked or sniffed my garment and spread the filth else where .
When I got home I washed it in the bath tub and then put it in the washing machine.

I know my garment is pure. However it's been difficult to purify the bath tub. As each time I wash the tub water falls on the floor and it has to be mopped up. The mop is then squeezed or washed in the clean bath tub, which i assume then makes the bath tub again impure again. The cycle of cleaning the tub seems never ending..

Recently after taking a bath , my clean clothes fell on something that was wet from washing the bath tub.as I had nothing else to wear I wore the clothes that fell and were a little wet.

I feel that my body touched by the wet patches of the clothes I wore is dirty and needs to be cleaned again. And I know I'll have to clean the bathtub again before taking another bath. The cycle will just start again. Sometimes I just want to stop cleaning it.,to the point I just want to give up and just put it down to waswasa or being excessive. Allah SWT knows I wouldn't deliberately allow najasa to remain on my body or clothes.

I'm looking in to marriage and want to know that if I had any dog saliva ect on my body or clothing will this affect the validity of my nikah