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Last updated: 9th December 2022
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Salam, i am 22 years of old male and my fiance is 18 years of old Please give me your advice asap as our nikkah is in one month I have been talking to my fiancée for 3 months after engagement , our nikkah is going to be in start of January. 2 days ago i asked for her social media account, she gave me the accounts but deleted everything, i knew how to check deleted friends and chats so i checked it and find out she had relations with atleast 2 or 3 boys before, she was in sexual activity through online with them and also met them. After telling her that i know everything she was really upset and told me everything truth , she said that she never committed zina but did meet them and had kissed or hugged them(she say nothing more physically happened but I don’t trust her anymore). But she did show her body on online video calls which i think is also called zina (its online but according to my research on islam its zina). I would not be worried in taking decision if i had not done zina myself one time in the past, i committed zina for first time in this year 2022, i am 22 years of age and never before i touched a girl, she left me and I promised allah i will be like before and never do this again, i repented and I thought now i will find a good girl, now my fiancée also begging me to not break the engagement and forgive me once and ill do everything you say , i am stuck between leaving her or forgiving her and marrying her. She said she is virgin and never done anything in physical which is why i think i should forgive her. But at the same time i feel really bad after knowing how bad her relation was to those boys, because i checked the chats and videos she was sending them . Her parents caught her this year june when she was going to meet one guy and she says after that i was so upset and my parents were so disappointed, i stopped talking to those boys after that . I did zina that’s why i think allah is testing me, should i forgive her for allah and marry her or should i leave her? I feel like i will regret leaving her but at the same time i cry and regret that i choosed her., thanks allah hafiz

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

Both of you must seek Tawbah repentance from Allah. The condition of Tawbah is to stop the sin, be ashamed of the sin and make resolve that you will not return to the sin.

In the Shariah, there is no problem in marrying her.

And Allah knows best

02 Jumadal Thania 1444/ 26 December 2022

Answer last updated on:
28th December 2022
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Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London