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Marriage Refusal

Last updated: 20th October 2022
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Salam alaykoum wa rahmatullah Wa barakatuh . Let me introduce you to my case. I want to marry a woman, she thinks I am a good person, with good character who is good for her deen. The father refuses for reasons that are outdated, such as ethnicity or education, can we get married with the brother’s consent? Her mother and brother know me and appreciate me. However, her sisters don’t want marriage either because they think I’m a liar or I don't have enough diplomas, they even lied about me on purpose. In short, the sisters and father are opposed to marriage because of my ethnicity (I am Algerian and they are Iraqi) and my level of education (he wants me to be a PhD student). I also want to precise that her father was not against giving his other daughter to a man who does not pray and who is a shia. Is this the way Islam tell us to act upon ? Can marriage be done in one way or another? JazakAllahu khayran for everything you do for the community, may Allah bless you. Best,

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

In the Hanafi Fiqh, a woman who reaches maturity can marry whom she wants whether compatible or not without the permission of the Wali. However, if the person is not compatible with her the Wali has the right to refuse. This is Zahir Riwaya (manifest transmission) of the Hanafi Mazhab.

Hasan bin Ziyad says the Nikah will not be permissible if there is no compatibility.

It is better to act on the Zahir Riwaya of the Mazhab. So If he is not compatible and all the conditions of Nikah are present like offer and acceptance with witnesses present, Nikah will be valid.

وينعقد نكاح المرأة الحرة البالغة العاقلة برضاها وإن لم يعقد عليها ولي عند أبي حنيفة بكرا كانت أو ثيبا

وقال في الهداية ثم في ظاهر الرواية لا فرق بين الكفء وغيره لكن للولي الاعتراض في غير الكفء
وقال في المبسوط روي الحسن عن ابي حنيفة إن كان الزوج كفؤا لها جاز النكاح وإن لم يكن كفؤالها لا يجوز النكاح اه وهذا القول مختار صاحب خلاصة الفتاوي وقال هكذا كان يفتي شمس الآئمة السرخسي كذا في غاية البيان

(اللباب في شرح الكتاب كتاب النكاح ٤/١٦-٢٥)

إذا اختلف التصحيح والفتوي فالعمل بما في المتون أولي
(فتاوي شامي ٣/٨٩،سعيد)

(فتاوی دارالعلوم زکریا ۳/٦٢٧)

And Allah knows best .

07 Rabiul Thani 1444/ 02 November 2022

Answer last updated on:
21st January 2023
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Ulamaa ID 04
Location: London