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As-salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, I would like to ask about a situation that is causing me waswasah (intrusive thoughts). My wife was upset with me one day and said to me: “You don’t want to be a husband.” From her tone and the context, I think that she meant that I wasn’t acting emotionally or affectionately enough — not that she was questioning our marriage itself. I wanted to replied to her, “Of course I want to be a husband. But your always being so rude” What I meant in my heart was, “Of course I want to act like a good husband and be more emotionally expressive. But your always so rude so don’t want to be so emotional ” However, when I starting to say this this, i only said the words “of course” and not the rest of the sentence as I started to get waswasah. A few minutes later (around 5–15 minutes after), I clearly told her, “Of course I want to act like a husband,” to clarify what I had meant from the beginning. specific doubts came to my mind: 1. Because I am already her husband, I worried that some about to say “I want to be a husband” might somehow have a wrong or invalid meaning — as if it could affect the marriage. 2. I also got waswasah that when I said “Of course,” I might have been agreeing with her statement (“you don’t want to be a husband”) — even though I did not intend that at all. I just paused after the “of course” and didn’t say anything else as the waswasah was in my head. I meant to reassure her that I do want to be an emotional but she is rude so it’s hard to be emotional. 3-, I clearly told her, “Of course I want to act like a husband,” to clarify what I had meant from the beginning. And am also worried about me saying I wanna act like a husband as well. 4- I’m worried because my wife said in anger that she might is gonna marry have kids with someone else, and I replied out of annoyance, saying something like ‘They’d be ugly,’ without any intention or seriousness. Does replying to her hypothetical scenario like that affect our marriage in any way? 5- Hypothetically if a woman tells her husband she’s gonna divorce him then get him arrested and he replies that if she gets him arrested he will get her arrested. But doesn’t intend anything by saying that. He is scared as he is replying to the hypothetical scenario of divorce but doesn’t intend or want that at all. Does that affect marriage in any way. Please clarify do any of these scenario affect anything May Allah reward you immensely for your patience Ameen.