I WANT TO KNOW , HOW ALLAH FORGIVE ME IF I WANT TUBA FROM BACKBITING .I HEARD IF I WANT TOBE SORRY I HAVE TO GO TO EVERY ONE AND SAYS SORRY ,THAT I DID YOUR BACKBITING . CAN YOU PLEASE GUIDE ME WHICH IS THE RIGHT WAY THAT ALLAH TOLD.PLEASE BECAUSE THAT QUESTION IS DISTURBING MY MIND AND I TRY TO KNOW ANSWER FROM THE PEOPLE I KNOW ,THEY MAKE FUN OF ME SO PLEASE THEY SAID YOU GO TURN BY TURN TO EVERY ONE AND IT,SUP TO US WE WE FORGIVE YU OR NOT SO PLEASE TELL ME THEY WAY TO START MY LIFE ON ISLAMIC RULES THANKS
Al-Jawab Billahi At-Taufeeq (the answer with Allah's guidance)
Below is an extract from "Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasideen" (being Ibn Qudamah's abridgement of Ibn al-Jawzi's summary of al-Ghazzali's "Ihya' `Ulum al-Deen")
Expiation for Ghibah
The backbiter has committed two infringements; one upon the limits of Allah, and this must be expiated by repentance and regret. The second is on the rights of his brothers/sisters. If news of the backbiting has reached the person, the backbiter must apologize to him/her, and express regret at having said it.
"Whoever has wronged his brother, in the way of property or honor, let him go to him and repair it, before it is taken [from him on a day] when he has no dirhams or dinars, such that if he has any good deeds, some of the good deeds will be taken and given to [the wronged one], otherwise [if he has no good deeds], some of the other's evil deeds will be taken and cast upon him." [Bukhari, Al-Mazalim, 5/121, #2449. Ahmad, Al-Musnad, 2/435]
If the person has not learned that he has been backbited, then the backbiter need not tell him, but he should ask Allah to forgive him.
"The expiation with regard to one who has been backbited is that forgiveness be asked for him." [Suyuti, Al-Jami` As-Saghir, 2/390, #6259]
Mujahid said : the expiation for eating the flesh of your brother is that you praise him and pray for good for him, and similar is the case if he has died.
Also, refer to Al Mishkat, Book of Ettiquetes, Chapter: Protecting the Tongue, Hadith No. 4877. (Islahi Khutbaat Vol. 4 Pg. 94)
