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Unable to control illegal sex

Last updated: 18th July 2023
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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله Im married for 10 years With kids. Im a practicing muslim in regards to prayers and everything else with beard. My sexual relationship with my wife is not great. Like we engage may be once a month or two months. For years I also have masturbation problem but in last one year I committed zina thrice.  Every time I repent and cry to Allah but I get almost possessed by shayatan and commit this gore sin again. I feel very low of my self. I want to be clean of these sins. I don't know how to move on and look into the eyes of my wife and kids ..  please help

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الجواب حامداومصليا

The condition of Tawbah is to stop the sin, be remorseful and ashamed of the sin and make resolve that you will not return to the sin. This is sincere Tawbah.

If a person returns to the same sin then one must do Tawbah again with the conditions. It is better to pray two Rakah of Salah Al Tawbah.

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ تُوبُوٓاْ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ تَوۡبَةً۬ نَّصُوحًا
O you who believe, turn to Allah with a faithful repentance. (66:8)

You must reconnect yourself to your creator. Allah will guide you and show you away if you believe in Him and trust in Him.

وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجًا

وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ بَالِغُ أَمْرِهِ ۚ قَدْ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدْرًا

....."And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out, And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent." (Surah Talaq 65:3)

And Allah knows best

06 Muharram 1445/ 24 July 2023

Answer last updated on:
24th July 2023
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