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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 16th May 2012 16:53

“Love your friend moderately lest he becomes your enemy one day, and hate your enemy moderately lest he becomes your friend one day!” Tirmidhi

When we get extremely close to people and lower our guard by letting them know every detail of our life, trusting them with everything, a day can come when we regret because they can hold us ransom with what they know about us if the friendship is broken f…or some reason.

At times we cannot correct people because we have allowed them to get so close to us that they would use against us some of what they know of us.

Similarly when we dislike someone, we should never oppress them or do something unbecoming of a true believer as a day may come when a strong friendship is developed between us and we are embarrassed by past actions.

Amazing piece of advice which is worth pondering over and making good use of in our lives. An enemy can become a very great friend or relative and a friend can become a fierce enemy.

“The Almighty is all able to create between you and your enemies a strong bond of friendship for indeed Allah is All Able, Allah is Most Forgiving Most Merciful” S60 V7

Mufti Ismail Menk

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 16th May 2012 19:07
Very true, Jazakallah.

We should also ask ourselves a question. As an example, ask yourself "would you marry you carbon copy" i.e. would you marry someone who has exactly the same habits, attitude, personality, temper, humor, anger etc, as you. In other words, would you marry your self?
If we sort our selves out, we would never need to worry about how we treat others, because we should treat them as we would want to be treated.

Mufti Ismail Menk also mentioned in one of his talks, that the spouse is the only one who knows your inner secrets. They know you inside out. So brothers and sisters, fear Allah and be aware, here, there and everywhere.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 16th May 2012 19:17
This reminds me of an incident a few years back.

My wife got me a little gift, no particular reason. It said on there, "If I could choose again, I would choose you again"

Very nice, Alhumdulillah.

But I turned the tables round and very nicely said, "If you could choose again, would you marry YOU"

Alhumdulillah, clear and simple. But the message got through.

We need to ask ourselves this question too.
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 13th August 2013 23:00
What great advice. Jzk. Very true.

are you worthy of yourself?

Can you justify yourself?
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