I am from Nigeria, I have a certain question i want to ask. Answer to which is very important to me as i am unable to reach a conclusion. 6 years back i made friends with a girl over internet from my country. With time we started loving each other. After 1 year she told me that she is being pressure by her family to get married as in her family girls at mostly younger age gets married. Hence she asked me if we can get married, at that time my family had issues and i was not able to suppport myself and her and some other family issues which held me back not to marry her and i even wasn't sure i will be able to marry her even after 5 years. So i told her that we cant get married and its wise to listen to your own family and get married and after assurance that i cant marry her she listened to her family and got married. We remained in contact on phone and sms chat even after her marriage expressing our love to each other. Her husband didnt get to know about all this as it was our secret affair. Before her marriage and even after marriage we were and are romantically linked to each other and crossed our limits on phone many times even when we met we almost touched limits but not completely crossed. Her husband takes care of her all needs and is religious. She is not happy with her husbands mother who blames her for nothing and has a bad attitude with her, another reason is that her husband's mother blame her for not giving more babies 5 years after her first baby girl was born and indirectly blames her for this. She has tried seeking her husbands help in changing his mothers thoughts about her but he only asks her to be calm things will be fine but he doesnt take her wifes side in front of his mother. Due to this fact she is not happy with her husband and on the other hand she loves me more than anyone in her life still.She is having a quiet ok sexual life with her husband obeying him whenever he wants to sleep with her admiting that its his marriage rights. Despite her husbands care for her she doesnt like him and loves me and wants to live with me and I also love her and want to marry her.Her husband has told her that he loves her and cant live without her but she always expresses that she want to be with me in real and she finds peace when she is talking to me and gets hurt when we dont talk.Her husband is not aware of our relation. She is also willing to leave her 5 year old baby and family for me. I need your guidance as soon as possible to reach to some conclusion but i dont want to commit anything against religion or to hurt anyones feelings. If she leaves her family and husband which she wants to do on her own wish just to marry me and get my love and be in my life, can i marry her and will it be fair?
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.
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