Mixed Marriages

1. Shaf'aes follow the Hanafi opinion on touching (mostly) without even being married and it is well known
2. We travel with brothers of multiple Madhabs (even Salafees) and make Muswhara about Qasr and joining and the Ameer rules and everybody accepts. This happens to us multiple times in a year. The Huk'm of an Ameer is binding to the Jamaat and usually Sha'faees/Salafees don't combine when Hanafees are around while sometimes we (Hanafees) make them Imam and pray in Shaf'ae time
3. Our Imam is a Hanafi Hafidh and since nothing but leather socks Masah is acceptable according to Malikees so he DOES NOT make Masah on skinsealz (although it is permissable for him according to Hanafi Madhab)
4. I was Ameer of a Jamaat in 10 days and we had to hury so we had a Shaf'ae (Malaysian) brother call Asar and all Hanafees prayed behind him
5. A good friend comes from a long line of Ulamah and Mashaykh and his dad is Hanafi and mother is Shaf'ae (South Indian), my friend is Hanafi but his brother is Shaf'ae and both Bay't to a Deobandi Hanafi Shaykh. When they go for Hajj, flight stopped at Cairo Shafae brother combines Salah but Shaykh and Hanafi brother didn't and prayed Esha at Jeddah while Shaf'ae didn't.

Just some practical examples from experience and it has never been an issue, Alhumdolillah.

My relative (family and her not Deobandi) is married to a well known Salafi translator on the Internet. They have been married for almost 15 years. In 15 years:

1. I have seen witnessed this man lie
2. I have never witnessed anything but the utmost Akhlaaq and adab
3. I have never witnessed him missing his Tahajjud or not reciting Qur'aan
4. I have never witnessed him to have a soft stand on Madhabs at all, he strongly believes in following Qur'aan and Sunnah
5. I have never witnessed to be soft with anyone within his family or our family on Bid'ah and all women in the family HATE HIM for his Bid'ah bashing

YET when it comes to family issues everbody has no issues with him in family gatherings, weddings etc.

Husband/wife are immensely happy together and may Allah (SWT) keep them that way.

My uncle is married to a Deobandi Alimah (garduate of Canada) and my uncle comes from a Barelwee background and they are happy together, husband/wife have no issue. This Alimah gives Dawah to family women on Deobandi'ism and sometimes they disagree but again no issues within family or husband/wife relationship.

Daughter of a very famous Deobandi Alimah is married to another relative who I would say is now "Barelwee leaning" and again husband/wife have no issues...they poke fun at each other (in front me as I am older) and take funny digs but that's about it.

May Allah (SWT) keep them all happy in this world and the next (Ameen).

Brother,

Nikahs are breaking and Zina is spreading and may Allah (SWT) protect us and our generations (Ameen).

In this scenario I try my best to get people who are upon the Sunnah married and offer all the help which I can as I believe it to be critical. ALL IMPEDIMENTS need to be removed from the path of Nikah, in my opinion.