Really, when bullies get a taste of their medicine they usually STOP; trust me.
Forgiveness isn't an obligation its an option for the oppressed in Islam. In fact the Sunnah and superior option is to STOP the oppressor using all methods at one's disposal, as long as the reprisal is proportional.
Car is not used by anyone else in the family but it will cause great inconvenience and headache and lost business. So once we have determined the impact and know that its exclusive to the bully, can we then go ahead?
The Bully can't take financial loses of this nature with regards to his only means of transport. I guess you can say that loss of earnings will hurt the family.
This is about someone who bullies other Muslims, hurts their feelings, causes discord and harm, sows seeds of suspicion between husband and wife, mocks people for their poverty and lack of status in Dunya. They have continued their behavior for a long time and no chance of changing.
Should they be taught a lesson and kick'em where it hurts?
Situation doesn't concern me or my family at all.
I am just talking "randomly".
Let me put the situation another way.
I have a very good friend who visits nasty rightwing Christian fundamentalist forums and debates with them. They accused Sayyidina Rasul-ullah (Sallalaho Alaihe Wassallam) of ordering assassinations and the rest of the Muslims on the forum tried to deny it.
He went it and admitted it (it’s a fact anyways) and postulated that by ordering assassination Sayyidina Rasul-ullah (Sallalaho Alaihe Wassallam) prevented harm which would have fell on innocent civilians in an open battle. He gave the example of Americans dropping Atomic bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki to prevent the prolonging of WII and further bloodshed; crude example but it struck a chord in most Americans.
So shouldn’t this bully be prevented from causing further harm and if he can’t be prevented left in no state to do harm?
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.