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#16 [Permalink] Posted on 6th March 2015 09:58
This is totally irrelevant... muaaf for that..

here in Pakistan we have a few Islamic schools.. what happens is that we have some Islamic schools which are run by people of not your Fiqh.. so you teach your child the hanfi fiqh and they learn something else there... so they sort of get double minded.. Or just practise what the school says any way..
One school is if the Sahih Aqeeda and fiqh Masha Allah.. good tarbiyah but the quality of secular education isn't too good.. its decreasing.. and people question whether they should send their kids there or send them to some secular school? Secular schools here also aren't really good... talking about O/ALevels the environment is pretty bad.. co education and the evils which come with it. even in non co education non o/a level schools the environment isnt that good...
once in a school there was one child who you used to act really oddly.. the teacher didn't understand his attitude.. one day his friend told the teacher that this boy comes to school while being drunk!
there is smoking and so on..
One thing I have noticed that if you raise your children in bad environment.. they cannot accept the Teachings of Islam easily.. you talk about Deen.. they laugh.. not on the talk but generally.. like not really interested..
what's your opinion on this?
sending the kids to school with not "THAT" good secular education and then improving his skills at home with hard work.. (my opinion)
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#17 [Permalink] Posted on 6th March 2015 10:43
It's all so confusing. Send them there, send them here, don't send them there, don't send them here.......

It's the environment in my "Qualified" opinion :)

Check this out.

My son is in an Islamic school where some teachers see him as an angel, full of respect, full of adab, full of good akhlaq, everything. Whereas a few other teachers see him as the trouble maker, no response, no responsibility, no manners but all occasionally.

When the two set of teachers discuss him, they don't believe each other, it's impossible.

In madrasah he's a topper and his teachers admire him and tell others to be like him.....

I gathered that it's the environment and the response from the teachers that determines his behaviour. When I tell the teachers, they don't accept it, but the result is in their face.

It's a combination of bad students and teachers that don't listen that produce the behaviour in him.

If the teachers took control of the environment and work strictly equal with everyone and not siding with the bad ones just because he's dad's friends son, then the results will speak for themselves.

I went to a state school, boys only, went madrasah and did okayish. But turned out better than so many who went private.
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#18 [Permalink] Posted on 6th March 2015 16:15
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