Forum Menu - Click/Swipe to open
 

Do not curse your children.

You have contributed 0.0% of this topic

Thread Tools
Appreciate
Topic Appreciation
bint e aisha
Rank Image
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf's avatar
Offline
Unspecified
3,597
Brother
3,843
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf's avatar
#1 [Permalink] Posted on 10th January 2023 19:30
Bismillah.

Okay this post is not what you think. I assume most of us have read of or heard lectures by Scholars about not cursing children. Or dangers of saying things out of anger during times of day when dua is accepted.

Fortunately parents who directly curse or do bad dua against their children are rare.

What I want to discuss is something which is far more common. That is parents who take family rivalry or rivalry with neighbours to a different level. And derive great pleasure if they find out a neighbours or relatives child is up to no good.

The typical scenarios go something like this, a person has a relative or neighbour an aquaintance that they dont get along with or hold some sort of grudge against.

They find out that neighbours, relatives, acquaintances child is upto no good, is involved in a life of Zina, Alcohol, drugs etc. Soon as they hear about this they get so excited and publicise that sin. " Did you hear what so and so's daughter is upto" "Did you hear what so and so's Son is upto" Until all and sundry find out.

May ALLAH give us hidayah.

Worse still their own child is doing well in life is focused on deen and university etc. Whilst the other persons child for example is on drugs, or involved in some other haram activity they will in gathering deliberately direct the conversation on to that topic which goes something like this.... " My son is doing really well he is studying at university and also has a part time job. What about your boy what is he upto."? Knowing full that persons child is a druggy and everyone else in that gathering knows they are a druggy. The only objective in asking this is to humiliate that person.

This type of behaviour earns ALLAH's displeasure the person whose child is involved in haraam activity is in a state of trial and tribulation.
By secretly rejoicing publicising the sin or humiliating the parents of that child. Such individuals end up invoking calamity against their own children. Before they know it their own son and daughters is involved in those same activities.

From observation I have seen this happen many times.

And ALLAH knows best.



report post quote code quick quote reply
No post ratings
back to top
Rank Image
akbar703's avatar
Offline
India
1,538
Brother
90
akbar703's avatar
#2 [Permalink] Posted on 11th January 2023 01:51
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf wrote:
View original post


True...
We must protect other children like we do for our children.
Else
BOOMERANG
report post quote code quick quote reply
+0 -0Agree x 1
back to top
Yasin's avatar
UK
6,676
Brother
928
Yasin's avatar
#3 [Permalink] Posted on 11th January 2023 04:30
It is said that the mother of Imam Abdur Rahman Al-Sudais when annoyed used to curse him in his childhood with this statement “May Allah make you the Imam of Haramain”. He believes that he has become Imam just because of the prayers of his mother (despite being annoyed/angry).
report post quote code quick quote reply
+1 -0Like x 1
back to top
Rank Image
akbar703's avatar
Offline
India
1,538
Brother
90
akbar703's avatar
#4 [Permalink] Posted on 11th January 2023 06:52
Words like
"May Allah bless you with hidayah"
"May Allah have mercy on you"
"May Allah bless you with sound mind"

Near translation of what we hear from pious when they get angered
report post quote code quick quote reply
+1 -0Like x 1
back to top
Rank Image
MickelC's avatar
Offline
Unspecified
50
Brother
1
MickelC's avatar
#5 [Permalink] Posted on 24th September 2024 09:31
Why do some parents take pleasure in exposing the faults of others' children while their own are doing well? How can this behavior lead to Allah's displeasure and trials within their own families?
report post quote code quick quote reply
No post ratings
back to top
Rank Image
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf's avatar
Offline
Unspecified
3,597
Brother
3,843
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf's avatar
#6 [Permalink] Posted on 24th September 2024 13:54
MickelC wrote:
View original post


The answer is in the first post. Are you using Chatgpt again?
report post quote code quick quote reply
+0 -0Ha Ha x 1
back to top
Rank Image
MickelC's avatar
Offline
Unspecified
50
Brother
1
MickelC's avatar
#7 [Permalink] Posted on 25th September 2024 07:59
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf wrote:
View original post


No! I haven't used Chat GPT.
report post quote code quick quote reply
No post ratings
back to top

 

Quick Reply

CAPTCHA - As you are a guest, you are required to answer the following:


In the above image: What colour is the text 'ABC' written in?