Okay this post is not what you think. I assume most of us have read of or heard lectures by Scholars about not cursing children. Or dangers of saying things out of anger during times of day when dua is accepted.
Fortunately parents who directly curse or do bad dua against their children are rare.
What I want to discuss is something which is far more common. That is parents who take family rivalry or rivalry with neighbours to a different level. And derive great pleasure if they find out a neighbours or relatives child is up to no good.
The typical scenarios go something like this, a person has a relative or neighbour an aquaintance that they dont get along with or hold some sort of grudge against.
They find out that neighbours, relatives, acquaintances child is upto no good, is involved in a life of Zina, Alcohol, drugs etc. Soon as they hear about this they get so excited and publicise that sin. " Did you hear what so and so's daughter is upto" "Did you hear what so and so's Son is upto" Until all and sundry find out.
May ALLAH give us hidayah.
Worse still their own child is doing well in life is focused on deen and university etc. Whilst the other persons child for example is on drugs, or involved in some other haram activity they will in gathering deliberately direct the conversation on to that topic which goes something like this.... " My son is doing really well he is studying at university and also has a part time job. What about your boy what is he upto."? Knowing full that persons child is a druggy and everyone else in that gathering knows they are a druggy. The only objective in asking this is to humiliate that person.
This type of behaviour earns ALLAH's displeasure the person whose child is involved in haraam activity is in a state of trial and tribulation.
By secretly rejoicing publicising the sin or humiliating the parents of that child. Such individuals end up invoking calamity against their own children. Before they know it their own son and daughters is involved in those same activities.
From observation I have seen this happen many times.
It is said that the mother of Imam Abdur Rahman Al-Sudais when annoyed used to curse him in his childhood with this statement “May Allah make you the Imam of Haramain”. He believes that he has become Imam just because of the prayers of his mother (despite being annoyed/angry).
Why do some parents take pleasure in exposing the faults of others' children while their own are doing well? How can this behavior lead to Allah's displeasure and trials within their own families?
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.
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