Domestic Violence and kids

My Shaykh (HA) used to say in his Majlis:

مَنْ عَرَفَ نَفْسَهُ فَقَدْ عَرَفَ رَبَّهُ

This is NOT a Hadeeth and some Ulama/Mashaykh refer to it as such but t is not true. In my opinion it is a saying of Hasan Al-Basri (RA) while others have ascribed it to other Auliya of Allah. Nevertheless it is the point which I want to convey.

Whoever recognises his Nafs, recognises his Rabb.

It is a very powerful lesson of Tassawuff which today is neglected. We must recognise our habits, our traits and what triggers certain things and certain reactions. It is significantly important in this path of Tassawuff, if some of you have bad habits (and sins) you need to understand the triggers which take you closer to those sins. If some of you have difficulty in getting up for Tahajjud then you need to understand “triggers” which will enable you to worship Allah (SWT) and motivate you to do so. Why is that we have had Mashaykh who made Dhik’r for hours or engaged in recitation of the Qur’aan all night? Do you think (that physically) it is easy to sit in one position for hours for days, weeks, months of years on end? No it is uncomfortable! But what enabled these Masaykh to endure the physical hardship? What triggered them to do endure these hardships? In our SIlsilah one of the Naqshabandi-Mujaddidi Mashaykh took Bay’t and then was told to carry out Murqabah and he did this for 16 hours (or so), can you imagine that?

What motivated a person to be continuous in Muraqabah for 16 hours? So you need to know your own Nafs (your personality) and what triggers it and what motivates it (toward sin and good deeds) and once you know you need to know how to back off (from sin)! You know the sayings of Hazrat Thanwi (RA) about Tahajjud that if you can’t get up then sit and make dua and slowly train your Nafs to get up, this is dealing with your personality in a way.

A Shaykh’s job is to know his Mureeds, some of you think that I don’t know them. I know MUADH KHAN better then he knows himself! I know what ticks him, he know what makes him happy etc. etc etc. That’s my job, how can I do Islah if I didn’t know your personalities?

Our Akabir have taught us Islah, is Islah even possible without knowing what triggers you to do certain things?

Sunniforum is a living example of Hazrat-worship damage!  Multiple stories and I have personally tried to discuss a specific Mureed...

Tassawuff is a RACKET which must be protected.

In UK the appointments, dealings of Hazrats is dealt by Chamchay Mureeds (for men) and Chamchi Mureedahs (for women). These men/women control access to Hazrats for laymen. If you need an appointment or discuss a Mas’ala you contact the Chamcha (or Chamchi) and then you get access. If the Chamcha/Chamchi reckons that what you want to discuss isn’t worthy of the Shaykh (HA)’s time then you get censored and you never get heard.

If the Chamcha/Chamchi promises to ring you or write back (in email etc) and you don’t get a response and if you contact the Shaykh and discuss the issue; you will get rebuffed and won’t get anywhere.

If a Chamcha/Chamchi is abusive and you approach the Shaykh, you will get it brushed off.

SF (related) there is a definite case of a Nasty Mureed and I personally waited 2 years to have the issue conveyed to the Shaykh. A normal person would get the idea that this is not welcome but I persisted and after 2+ years approached a Khaleefa and described the full case…Predictably, this Khaleefa DID NOT even say that he is Sorry about the suffering of the person he jumped staright into “Well Hazrat has a lot of Mureeds and he can’t keep track of everything which happens in his name”.

I am not stupid and fully realise that Hazrat has no knowledge of this matter. All I wanted from the Khaleefa is to say:

1. Sorry to hear this and may Allah (SWT) make it better for all concerned
2. I will convey to the Shaykh

Instead what I got was constant defence of Hazrat from a “Chamcha”! In the end I just said, “I will convey to Allah (SWT) on the day of judgement that I have communicated this oppression to the people concerned and those who have the power to stop it”

Shook hands and left.

If husband/wife are Bayt to same Shaykh then entire Hazrat-machine goes into PR mode on how to STOP the news from leaking out to not reflect badly on Hazrat.

Issues are triviliased, censored, people marginalised, boycotted etc.

There are cases of high profile divorces in UK which started from abuse which most people are not even aware of.

I don’t think that these issues are deliberate but a by-product of Hazrat-worship. Today’s Tassawuff means you MUST CONSIDER your Hazrat to be the GREATEST PERSON in the world.

1. He is the most knowledgeable

2. He is the most wise

3. He is the most able

4. He is the most intelligent

5. He is the most able

When you ask Khala Ummi Talib & others for explanation they say, "We don't believe that at all we believe that he is the best for US”. In practical terms it’s the same thing, actually.

So (this concept) of Tassawuff actually means that people go to Hazrat for employment advice, house buying advice, car buying advice, marital advice, sex advice etc because they genuinely believe their Hazrat to be perfect. There is actually a Bayan by a Khaleefa on how he consulted his Hazrat (who lives in an entirely different country) on buying a property.

Extension of this concept means that Hazrat can do no wrong. Further extension of this means that the stereotypical bad habits of a “special” Mureed must either be hidden or explained away so they don’t reflect on the stature of a Shaykh.

The mistakes of a Shaykh in today’s Tassawuff are taught to be one’s own lack of knowledge and understanding i.e. a Mureed is discouraged from even enquiring about a “perceived mistake of a Shaykh”, how can he even enquire about a mistake when he is not sure?

When you contrast this to the teachings of Akabir of Shaykh (Maulana) Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) an entirely different picture emerges! Shaykh (Maulana) Ashraf Ali Thanwi (RA) was vehemently AGAINST advising Mureeds on their private affairs and never meddled into issue he had no knowledge of. He never claimed to be a property, car, business, job expert.

Shaykh (Mufti) A. S. Desai (HA) has written about a certain phenomenon in South Africa and how it developed and when you think (ponder and contrast) it’s the same symptoms and same problems and same Silsila in UK!