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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 26th June 2014 22:31

Read the following news article, and was shocked at how common it's becoming that we hear of people dying alone and not being found until after very long periods, can't get my head around it. She was dead for 6yrs and nobody missed her, or even noticed? such is death!

A woman has been found dead in her flat in Dorset six years after she died.

The woman, named locally as Anne Leitrim, lived in Tolpuddle Gardens in the Muscliff area of Bournemouth.

A bailiff, estate agent and two locksmiths broke into the ground floor flat on Tuesday and discovered the remains.

Dorset Police said the body was believed to be that of a woman in her seventies but said it was not treating the death as suspicious.

Neighbour John Stanley said: "It's horrifying that, after that amount of time, why hadn't anybody noticed it?

"Because we thought she moved out. She owned a car - the car disappeared - so we automatically thought the lady's moved out and that was it."

Ruth Evans, who also lives in the street, said: "To be honest, I'm still coming to terms with it.

"I haven't stopped shaking in two days. You feel so guilty that we didn't try knocking on the door or try to get into the flat or report it to somebody but we genuinely thought she had moved away."

Cliff Rich of the Contact the Elderly charity, which supports older people through loneliness and isolation, said the length of time made this case "quite extreme".

"It's a shame this happens. It's quite common for older people to be living somewhere and for people not to see them.

"Bringing some kind of social interaction, however small, into their lives really makes a difference."

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 26th June 2014 22:38

Allah سبحانه وتعالى grant us the ability to look after our parents and the elderly in our community. Aameen

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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 02:25

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Another shocker.. from a Muslim family.

Daughters find mother's corpse 8 months after death

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Women assumed mother was sleeping in next room as her body turned into skeleton

Manama: In one of the strangest cases in Kuwait's history, two daughters, who lived with their mother in the same flat, found her dead - eight months after her death. The daughters assumed that she was sleeping, during this eight-month period.

The mother's body had turned into skeleton.

The daughters were reportedly out of the flat every day to look for food to sustain themselves economically and totally neglected their mother, who slept in a different room.

They told investigators that they thought their mother, who was well covered by a blanket, was in good condition and that she woke up every day after they left and slept before they came back home.

They discovered that she was dead and that her body had turned into a skeleton only after one of them lifted the blanket to see how the mother was doing, local daily Al Watan reported on Wednesday.

Shocked by the macabre discovery, they called the police, who launched an investigation.

According to the paper, the police ruled out any foul play and decided not to press charges, especially that the mother's death was natural.

Online readers expressed deep shock over the report, blaming the daughters for their lack of sensitivity and total absence of feelings.

"When we go beyond the moral issues, you would have smelled a dead chicken easily," one reader wrote. "How come you could smell your mother's corpse? This is crazy."

Salem, another reader, refused to believe the story.

"Even if we suppose the two daughters had mental issues, I am sure the poor woman had a relative, someone who knew her," he wrote. "There is no way no one asks about her for eight months. This is too much," he posted.

Wejan said that the two daughters knew about their mother's death and did not wish to report it for some reason.

"I am sure there is something fishy here because it does not make sense at all," Wejan posted. "They could not possibly live next to a corpse for eight months and not even taking a slight look at their mother for such a long period."

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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 05:53

Such incidents,though ugly,are a good reminder to us.We,who consider ourselves 'indispensable' while alive....have got only this much value :(

We all love intellectual discussions about various aspects of life...but in reality the most powerful tool to counter the brute force of 'materialism' is the thought of death. "KIS TARAH AYEGI JISS ROZ QAZA AYEGI ? " ( Which way the death will come when it finally comes ? )

Majzoob said:

ye Alam aish o ishrat ka,ye halat kaif o masti ki
Buland apna takhayyul kar ye sab bathe hain pasti ke
Jahan dar asl weerana he go soorat he Basti ki
Bas Itni si haqeeqat he faraibe khwabe Hast ki

kw ankhen band ho aur admi afsana hojae

meaning:

This world of lust and pleasure and this your condition of intoxication in it,
Raise your imagination a bit,these are just lowly matters,
This world is a wilderness in reality , though it looks like a crowded abode
It has got only this much reality in it,
That once your eyes are closed , you become a story of the past,like a movie,
seen in a theater.

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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 08:56

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So true....remembrance of death is the killer of all unlawful pleasures.

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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 10:53

What kind of a society are we living in? :(

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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 12:18

The kind where people have names but are unknown. forgotten and neglected... where you grow old, fend for yourself and die alone or without a familiar face by your side... where, you can be left in such a desperate situation that the honour you've guarded all your life goes down the sewage tubes and your family doesn't even care (e.g. grandmothers selling themselves in South Korea and I'm sure elsewhere too).

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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 12:41

I met this grandad at my local GP's surgery, anyway his name was Mohammad and he was the last person to be seen at the surgery by the doctor. I was sitting next to him waiting for my lot to come out and no one else was there. Anyway he looks up and says Mohammad ? He's referring to himself and affirming it, I reply yes it says Mohammad. At the same time he tries to get up but he can't even move and seems like he's in immense pain. Anyway I stand up grab him with both hands and lift him up, to which he automatically starts giving me duas. I hold his hand and try to walk but he's only moving a inch at a time. This guy was probably in his late 80's and had no one around. So I manage to get him to the door somehow, my wife walks out and so the does the cleaner, now the cleaner apparently knows him, she told us he's got no one and every week faces the same problems. She said he has a wife but she's of no help as she's paralysed and spends most of her time at home, he's got two sons and since he gave them their share in the properties/inheritance etc they don't bother with him no more, and this was a Gujrati Muslim family.

Sad thing was the old man had no one and he seemed so dependent on others for everything it was unbelievable, the only regret I had was I didn't drive to the surgery that day and maybe could have dropped the grandad off and maybe have a few words with his sons. Despicable behaviour, may Allah protect us and forgive us and give us the ability to look after our parents.

Rabbir hum huma kama rabbi ya ni sagheera

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#9 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 12:59

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Our communities were never effected before because it was normal for grandparents to live with their children and grandchildren but sadly now it's a matter of people just wanting their share and living their own lives, read an article a while back called 'selfish society' if I come across it will post it here inshaallah.

An elderly couple in our neighborhood got evicted by their son who owned multiple properties, he wanted his parents out because he wanted to renovate and rent out the property.

So many incidents one after another. After the demise of an elderly reknown scholar, I went to visit his elderly wife, she informed me of the following incident, of a particular scholar who had arranged to visit America and UK for bayans.

Once he reached America he changed his topic on lectures to that of parents, especially when he heard of Muslims opening old peoples homes, which he was totally against, as it only encourage the present generation and future genarations to dispense their elderly parents to such organizations.

Anyway he finished his tour of America very despondent as he learnt of more and more incidents relating to the elderly. He came to UK only to cut his tour short to return home. The topic had effected him to such an extent that he had started suffering from depression.

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#10 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 13:21

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Our communities were never effected before because it was normal for grandparents to live with their children and grandchildren but sadly now it's a matter of people just wanting their share and living their own lives...[/quote]

The same case for South Korean families. From a culture of care and social unity, to a fast culture of self driven greed.

[quote]I hold his hand and try to walk but he's only moving a inch at a time...

Simply unacceptable "in this day and age."

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#11 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 14:22

I make dua (Insha'Allah) that I die before I get to the point that I need people's help (Ameen).

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#12 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 14:32

It is humbling to be in a position where we need help. We were there before, as babies.

Insha'Allah, let's make du'aa that Allah Ta'aala strengthens us as an ummah to look out for one another, grants us understanding, kindness, humility, and corrects our wrongs. May the young and the elderly always be important for us and may always place their care and needs before our own, and may He bless us with caring hands and hearts in our time of need - be it a time of physical or emotional weakness and need - they being the means to His help and mercy, and may He suffice for us. Ameen.

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#13 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 14:36

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Aameen.

Allah grant us a beautiful death, and an old age and ending free from any need from his creation. Aameen

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#14 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 14:41

My father died of cancer and he was a very powerful person (in terms of Dunya) and status and was reduced to nothing due to his illness (memory loss, Coma) until he passed away on the 27th of Ramadhan when he woke up from Coma recited the Kalimah and then died. In 6 months he only really spoke 2 things:

Scolded me for not saying (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) after the Prophet's name in the Hospital
Kalimah moments before passing away

So I don't want to be in that position at all and hope to die before anything like that happens to me.

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#15 [Permalink] Posted on 27th June 2014 14:44

The person whom I look upto is well known in UK to the point where Mashaykh like Shaykh (Maulana) Saleem Dhorat Saheb (HA) ask his Mushwara. Reduced to abject helplessness due to Cancer and Alzheimer for the past few years...

He can't even remember Rakaats in his Salah let alone give people Mushwara!

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