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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 5th January 2012 20:34

Those who do not really want to apologize for the wrong they have done choose words that make it seem to be an apology yet it is not. “I am sorry for how you felt” is neither an admission of guilt nor an apology for what was done. It is more like saying, “What I did was correct but how you felt was wrong.” The same applies to those who “apologize for how you reacted”.

Is it not foolish to apologize for a reaction by someone else, of our deed or utterance? If we were truly apologetic for what we did, we would consider ourselves wrong and put aside all pride by choosing words like “I am sorry for what I said or did”. Many times when a “but” is added to an apology it is a mere justification or a showered down apology which could be insincere.

Whenever we apologize we should consider the wording of the apology and be as clear and sincere as possible. Never allow pride to block, disrupt, delay or water down an apology owed to others. May the Almighty forgive our shortcomings and guide us to the straight path.

Mufti Ismail Menk

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 5th January 2012 20:49
I was actually thinking about the term sorry and what it means, which took me to another word "Astagfirullah"

We say sorry for it to mean, please forgive me, I won't do it again. But how about when we say astagfirullah, what should that mean to us?

Do we really mean it or just say it and forget about it like the word sorry!
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 8th January 2012 00:11

i am not completely sure but i think it is what you said..

"just say it and forget about it like the word sorry!"

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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 8th January 2012 20:46
An apology is only as sincere as the lesson taken from the cause and the resulting change.
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