Where Does Allah Live? (discussion everyone welcome)

I'm talking from experiance, been there, done that. This young boy sounds like me when I was young, Patience is golden for Allah loves those who are patient. Be a good Muslim in every way is still the advice would give, any other form of advice will all come down to the complete Islam anyway. It may seem hard, but if he shows compassion to his dad at this age, his dad will automaticaly feel the guilt. It is true, what you sow is what you reap, this is from Hadith, so if he treats his dad in a negative manner, Allah will send someone to treat him in a bad manner too. He must fix his ways now, otherwise, he will regret it later in life.

I treat my children in a completely different wway from the way I was bought up, may be Allah has given me children that will show love to me and vice cersa, InshallaAllah.

It works either way. I hope that helps.

http://www.muslimphilosophy.com/ip/hijri.htm

This one works the fastes for me. I think tis should be integrated within muftisays, awesome tool. hours of fun (Islamic of course).

Many yaers ago I created a list for all my family members and my cousins and their cousins and so on. I had every relatives DOB in Hijri. It was good to have.

By the way, you are older than you think.

In 1995 I was the first person from my family to go for Hajj (own my own when I was 19), it was then when I saw how much my dad loved me. He just couldnt stop crying, he was so proud. Nowadays its the norm. Then again on the day of my Nikah, again he wept out of love.

They do love us, they just keep it within them so they dont spoil us. Their idea is that one of the parents must be strict, in our case its the dad. But at the same time, ask the 18 year old how much he loves his mum and how much his mum loves him, when you get your answer then ask him how much do you argue with her and shout at her. would he ever do that with the dad. Theres the logic behind the dad witholding his love.

I hope that makes sense.

My Dua's are with them too. I dont know what it feels like to be sworn at by a parent. That, AlHumdullilah, is one thing my dad never took part in. I have neve ever heard him swear in any language., and because of that our household is swear free. I wish I could say that about every Muslim household.

I must add, "we aren't perfect", we argue, we shout, the usual stuff.

It will be hard, I'm no psychiatrist, but the best therapy is from Quran & Sunnah. All the answers are there.

If this is from a Muslim dad, then it is sad that the father could not give his child a good Muslim upbringing. His father will be responsible for his doings. As far as I can remember, the father has a right over the son, but the son also has a right over the father. i.e. the father must ensure he marries a good muslim woman to be the mother of his child and the father must raise the child with good morals (and a good name).

If this young boy can repay his dad's ill treatment with compassion and forgiveness, then InshaAllah his dad will feel the guilt. InshAllah, he will be embarrased and he will see the noor comming from his offspring, this may change his attitude. How ever, if they are not from a Muslim family and just the boy is a Muslim, then may Allah guide them with wisdom and hikmah and show them the correct path.

If his dad swears at him, tell him to reply with Jazakallah or I love you too. I've done that before to others, its brilliant, they feel as if they have just spat towards the sky and splat, straight in their face again.

When someone is backbitting, I tell them to include me (my name) in the backbitting too, then I can take all their good deeds away. This puts them off and they stop.

Allah help the boy and all those affected with any form of discord.

It is off topic but its the thread you started and the questions youve put forward. You might want to chage the title to "kids In Need R kids In Deed" or some thing catchy that will bring every one attention. same thing before in one of the threads called "the blessings of being pregnat", I answered one question there and the whole topic changed to Salafis. May be I should stop putting my experiance forward and stop making suggestions.

What do you say.

The way I have made it look and sound is like the phrase "Friends in need are Friends indeed", But I've change the wording and put "in Deed" as in actions. I hope that makes sense.

:-) This child is showing early signs of Salaffiyyah and he should be grounded until his tendencies return to Ahlus-Sunnah Wal-Jamaah :- )

:- ) : - ) : - ) Does he show any other signs like praying while his legs are 1 mile apart? If he is not exhibiting that behavior then there is still hope! :-) :-) :-) If his legs are 1 mile apart and he also ties his hands on his neck duing salah...Sorry to break to you but he's a gonner!