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There was an issue with the comments. I reported it to Maulana Yasin and he has sinced fixed it. Please send it again. I will add the Dua here too as I believe it will be very beneficial InshaAllah.
http://www.muftisays.com/blog/abu+mohammed/1042_24-01-2011/oh-allah....our-children..html
Oh Allah....Our Children.
I would like to share a Dua with all parents, may Allah accept the Duas for all children.
Allahumma ambit-hu Nabaatan Hasanaa
(Oh Allah, strengthen my child with the best of strength)
Allahumma al-lim hul Kitaab
(Oh Allah give him/her knowledge of the Quran)
Wal Hikmah
(And Wisdom)
Wa faq qih hu fid deen
(And understanding of the Deen)
Wa Habbib hu lannaas
(And let him/her be loved by the people)
Aameen
(I pray to Allah, that whoever makes this Dua, it includes all of our children too)
InshaAllah I will start a new topic about the cost of things Islamic. (Fees are one thing, but products are another)
Boycott Poll.
http://www.muftisays.com/forums/sharing-portal/5368/boycott-%28islamick-or-gimmick%29-poll.html
No children of my own, but Alhamdulillah i have lots and lots of little cousins.
This is a personal experience. A month back an uncle of my mothers passed away (may Allah make his grave a garden from the gardens of paradise. Aameen) Some of us went to our Nanny's house to pay our condolences. The little cousins all found this 'get together' a perfect opportunity to catch up on playing and all. My nanny ordered me to get them together and tell them to pray. So i sat them in a circle and gave them each a tasbeeh. They were excited since they only ever saw the older members using tasbeeh. They were told they can pray subhanallah, alhamdulillah, allahu akbar, istigfaar and even just repeat Allah, Allah.
To watch and listen to the children doing tasbeeh was truly beautiful to the sight and ears. This continued for about 15 minutes until one of the 4 yr olds started repeating the name 'Mr bean, Mr bean'[TV character] . Allahu Akbar this was very saddening. I asked the child why he is repeating such a name. He remained silent for he did not realise that what he was doing was wrong. I explained to him if he continuously called out and repeated someones name who was not present, would they be able to answer him or help him in any way. He replied, "no". I then said, "How then we call out this persons name. For one he can't even hear you and two he doesn't believe in Allah. Whereas Allah is the one who can hear us and even answers us whenever and where ever we call him."
There are many lessons I derived from this experience:
1. We need to protect our children and ourselves from the exposure of the destructive television and any other technologies which indoctrinate our minds. We expect our children to grow up to be completely obedient and saint like, but remember water and oil will never mix.
2. We need to teach our children about the remembrance of Allah. We can do the zikr of Allah wherever we are. Also about when we should say Alhamdulillah, Istigfaar etc
3.We also need to guide the innocent minded people to the right role models. We need to be very aware of who our children are being exposed to. The 'so called' role models portrayed in the media are not the ones we want our children following. The youths lives are now consumed by pursuing these celebrities to such an extent that this idolisation of them can constitute shirk.(Allah forbid) The prophet of Allah (SAW) says "A man will be with whom he loves" and in another narration,"The one who imitates a nation will become one of them. So we must teach our children who the 'real' role models are. We can do this at bedtime, Instead of reading to them bedtime stories invented by the disbelievers, tell them a bit about the seerah of the prophet Muhammad(SAW), then about the companions and even the previous prophets.
Although i am not a parent myself but Alhamdulillah i have been made responsible of many children of different ages and I have learnt that when teaching our children, presentation and interactive learning is always important i. e. Get your child a special book in which they can write the stories you tell them. It helps them to remember. Show them pictures of the things. Get them to find something in a book. Question them on the stories and things you tell them. Ask them to tell their other little family members and friends. Always keep them active in their learning in Islam. It is very easy for a child to get sidetracked with other things like playing
Also don't allow them to play all the time in their free time. Help them to be organised from a young age and set fixed times for different things. i. e. time to learn Qur'an,homework time, time to clean bedroom etc. Explain to them there is a time and place for everything. Teaching them to play an active role in the house will be most beneficial especially when they grow up. It will help them to help around instead of being more reserved and sitting in the bedroom type of person.
(Allah knows best)
Tell them to Be a MAN! Sorry it may sound harsh, but the definition of a Man in Islam is very powerfull. A man in Islam is the most feared Mujahid by the Kuffar, The most loved by believers, The most compassianate when it comes to the laws of Islam. Many times I come accross people who make the strangest of comments, I simply ask them "Is this Islam, Be a Muslim"
The Child will grow up with love and respect for his dad but not the kind that would be visible, it will be hidden from all. (Experiance) (I've seen this in Asian dads a lot, not the new generation). The father is trying to show who is Boss. However when they become grand parents, they expose their love so much that it is unbelievable. (Like I said, I've experianced it). I hope that helps.
Tell them to Be a MAN!
This is where I got that phrase from. If you dont want to listen to it all (it's only10mins) then listen to the introductory verse of the Quran and then scroll to 4 minutes & 56 seconds, brilliant.
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.
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