Assalamoalaikum Warahmatullah
Just a few points for future threads, in shaa Allah:
1) I think sometimes we are all a little over-sensitive in our interpretations of each others' posts ... we gotta just chill out and expect the best of people, so that even when something might appear inflamatory, we must assume that it was an accidental misexpression/malexpression - dunno if either word exists, but you catch my drift.
2) As I was once told, to ASSUME is to make an ASS of U and ME (no offence intended to the donkey). Don't jump to conclusions; tread lightly in discussions, keeping an open mind about your viewpoint. Never think that you understand a matter fully because it's a rarity to know the intricacies of any matter fully.
3) Always avoid addressing another member/guest directly. Use the passive voice in favour of the active.
Hope I haven't offended anyone through my suggestions. Please forgive me if I have.
Fee amaanillah
Wassalaam