Assalamualaikum,

I would require answers from married people on this issue.Alhumdulillah i have already found THE ONE for me.InshAllah we are getting married this year.We have known each other for a number of years before this and going into this relationship i would like some guidance on the following:

1) Our families are culturally quite different though we belong to the same country.We are from different cities and clans.Alhumdulillah our marriage talks are being finalised but we forsee some cultural clashes between our families but the two of us our on the same page due to being born and brought up in the same city.

If you have some advice on how we can smooth things over with our families please do share some advice.Just to clarify,both our families are sunnis from hanafi school of thought so there are no religious differences.

My to-be-wife works in an environment where she is exposed to non mahram males. Due to the nature of her work, she is involved in teams of large groups and majority of her colleagues are males. She engages in conversation with them which is of work nature as well as social courtesy. Due to the competitive environment in her office, in order to gain support and backing of senior management, she has to develop an interactive work relationship with her colleagues.

Her next promotion is two years away and to reach that she will have to give an assessment and a presentation to the management. She believes it is also important for her to have a rapport with her male managers and seniors to achieve growth at workplace (due to the competitive environment mentioned earlier). However i told her that she should just perform well at work and not worry about being approachable and interactive with her male colleagues, and to just work hard and leave the results to Allah.

Being from a conservative background I find it difficult to accept her interactions with these male colleagues if they hint of being of a social nature. I have already discussed this with her and she has informed me that it is difficult for her to seclude herself at work due to certain expectations in the working environment. She has assured me that no conversations have occurred which are considered off-limit and she always maintains a stature that nobody can approach her for ill-talk. Further she has informed me of an incident where a guy was attempting to approach her in a personal manner and she had responded to it appropriately by complaining about him to the management. She dresses modestly to work wearing the abaya and hijab and says she is respected at her workplace.

Since I find it hard to accept such interactions, she has offered to quit her job and resolve this issue forever but since her family is financially dependent on her i think its unfair for her to quit her job and block the substantial source of income which is covering her parent's expenses.

Please advise what would be the appropriate course of action in this situation for both of us. Although i know her intentions are clear and her conversation do not exceed limits I still find it difficult to accept the interactions on a social basis.

Awaiting your insight on the above issue.