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#31 [Permalink] Posted on 23rd September 2015 22:56
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If that is the case then she can refuse him and tell him off for watching porn!!! What is the problem?

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Please i am in need of help. I am married for 10 years now. My husband's sexual needs is high. I never say no to him although I am tired from the day of work with two boys but i still accomodate him as it's my marital duty. I love him a lot.

Lately things are not going good at all. He has some sort of image in his mind as to how i should act or portray myself. He requires me to be in the mood before he comes to bed. He is also watching porn a lot nowadays even though he know i dont like it. Once i told him that and he got really angry at me. Since then i pretend that i am not annoyed. He needs a new and different thing every night! He needs things to be spiced up nomatter how.

It has come to a point that i dont enjoy intimate marital relations with him. Its as if a test i have to give every night. There is no pleasing him. Its a constant burden on my mind now. If it wasn't to his satisfaction how he imagined he distances himself from me. And the whole family environment suffers. I try everything i can but i cannot act dirty like the porn stars. Please help me. Advice me what to do?
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#32 [Permalink] Posted on 23rd September 2015 23:10
It could mean this "I love him a lot. " Not wanting to hurt or disappoint the one you Love.

Ultimately we can only respond to what the Sister herself has chosen to divulge..!

It could also very easily be that the sister has mistakenly posted her query in the general forums instead of the Q/A section and that she wanted a response from one of the ulemah and that she never intended for random brothers to give advice on this issue.
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#33 [Permalink] Posted on 24th September 2015 01:51
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Once i told him that and he got really angry at me. Since then i pretend that i am not annoyed.
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#34 [Permalink] Posted on 24th September 2015 01:53
Sister, all I can say is whichever route you decide to take, (because ultimately you have to make the decision) just keep strong and remember Allah سبحانه وتعالى.
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#35 [Permalink] Posted on 24th September 2015 03:16
Please post questions such as the ones posed in this topic to the Ulamaa. Or click here for a vast library on islamqa.org. Alternatively, you can get support locating available answers online in the Q&A Support section of this form here
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