Gheebah?

There are definite Adab and etiquettes in Islam for the Mustafti (asking the question) and Mufti (responding to the question).

1. Mustafti should know HOW  to ask a question
2. Mufti should know HOW  to seek clarification or get the details and to defer matters to local Ulama or to be prepared to say "Laa Adri"

P.S: Most people will either not understand this or dislike or take it as a criticism on "Ulama" of their choice which it most certainly isn't!

Sometimes you really have to use your head before you go running for Fatwaa seeking.

Sayyida Khadeeja (RA) was most beloved to Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam), why? It is an established emphatic fact that Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) used to console and confide in his wife when he felt the pain of the disbelivers of Makkah, was he doing Gheebah?

In the West employement laws call for affirmative action on bullying, harrasment, intimidation etc so these matters need to be reported to HR! is it doing Gheebah?

If someone is disrespecting, bullying you on MS or you don't like a post your report it and almost all the time the writer is unware of your reporting of the post! is it doing Gheebah?

You don't need major knowledge to be able to write down a question correctly, firstly.

Secondly, you need to be to analyse the Fatwa and then analyse the repurcussions, for example:

1. Reporting a post to Maulana Yasin (HA) is Gheebah and Haram
2. Commenting/Critique of Islamic websites e.g. of askimam.org would be Gheebah and Haram
3. Every man who comes home and tells his wife about something at work would be Gheebah and Haram and it would be Haram for the wife to console the husband
4. Every Professor/Teacher who looks at works of their students could potentially be Gheebah and Haram

Thirdly, you need to act on what you receive. If the forums are Haram (as Fatwa given) then its game over and the fact that you are still here and discussing shows that your own mind is disagreeing with the fatwa

We are all trying to be as polite as possible in trying to make you see what (I think) you already know.

The fact that you are more confused then when you started shows the values of Fatwaas which you are posting because the fundmental question to ask Ulama is this:

1. You post on an Islamic forum and Shaykh (Mufti) Abu Hajira (HA) replies and 10,000 people witness the exchange between the two of you
2. You are sending an email to South Africa and receiving a reply, it is a SINGULAR COMMUNICATION between 2 Na-Mehram Muslims

How is 1 HARAM and 2 HALAL?