Transgendered Children?

Girls are increasingly encouraged to dress in a "sexy way" while boys are discouraged to be "manly" and society is paying the price!

I am sure that you have read up on Masculinity in Crisis and I don't want to post links on the forum...

Nancy Verhelst born 44 years ago was treated differently because she was a girl, given an inferior bedroom so the feelings of inferiority grew to the extent that sex change operation was unsuccessful until Nathan Verhelst decided to kill himself!

There is a lesson for all of us in this story.

Treat your children EQUALLY:

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّادُ بْنُ الْعَوَّامِ، عَنْ حُصَيْنٍ، عَنِ الشَّعْبِيِّ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ النُّعْمَانَ بْنَ بَشِيرٍ، ح وَحَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى، - وَاللَّفْظُ لَهُ - أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو الأَحْوَصِ، عَنْ حُصَيْنٍ، عَنِ الشَّعْبِيِّ، عَنِ النُّعْمَانِ بْنِ بَشِيرٍ، قَالَ تَصَدَّقَ عَلَىَّ أَبِي بِبَعْضِ مَالِهِ فَقَالَتْ أُمِّي عَمْرَةُ بِنْتُ رَوَاحَةَ لاَ أَرْضَى حَتَّى تُشْهِدَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏.‏ فَانْطَلَقَ أَبِي إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم لِيُشْهِدَهُ عَلَى صَدَقَتِي فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ أَفَعَلْتَ هَذَا بِوَلَدِكَ كُلِّهِمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ لاَ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْدِلُوا فِي أَوْلاَدِكُمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَرَجَعَ أَبِي فَرَدَّ تِلْكَ الصَّدَقَةَ ‏.

Nu'man b. Bashir (RA) reported: My father donated to me some of his property. My mother Amra bint Rawaha (RA) said: I shall not be pleased (with this act) until you make Allah's Messenger (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) a witness to it. My father went to Allah's Apostle (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam) in order to make him the witness of the donation given to me. Allah's Messenger (Sallallaho Alaihe Wassallam)said to him: Have you done the same with every son of yours? He said: No. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Fear Allah, and observe equity in case of your children. My father returned and got back the gift. [Shaeeh Muslim]

Parent's AFFECTING children:

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا مِنْ مَوْلُودٍ إِلَّا يُولَدُ عَلَى الْفِطْرَةِ فَأَبَوَاهُ يُهَوِّدَانِهِ وَيُنَصِّرَانِهِ وَيُمَجِّسَانِهِ كَمَا تُنْتَجُ الْبَهِيمَةُ بَهِيمَةً جَمْعَاءَ هَلْ تُحِسُّونَ فِيهَا مِنْ جَدْعَاءَ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ وَاقْرَءُوا إِنْ شِئْتُمْ فِطْرَةَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا لَا تَبْدِيلَ لِخَلْقِ اللَّهِ

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No one is born except they are upon natural instinct, then his parents turn him into a Jew or Christian or Magian. As animals produce their young with perfect limbs, do you see anything defective?” Abu Huraira said: Recite the verse if you wish, “So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth, the nature of Allah upon which He has created the people. No change should there be in the creation of Allah; that is the correct religion, but most of the people do not know.” (30:30) [Shaeeh Muslim]

May Allah (SWT) give us the ability to follow the Sunnah (Ameen).
 

Asslamo Allaikum Sister,

May Allah (SWT) make it easy for you (Ameen). Plenty of parents deal with special needs children, disabled children, ill children on a daily basis from Fajar till Esha wondering what they or their children have done wrong to deserve this sort of life in this world.

Sister, life is a test and we just need to get on with the test.

Is Islamic spirituality it is called “Radha Bil-Qadha” being satisfied with your destiny or in secular terms coming to terms with reality.

This is your test and her test but know that you are alone in this world to be tested.

Now lets discuss the issue.

Being born in a certain way is indeed not the fault of your child but as she grows up (acting in a certain way) is certainly in her control and in your remit to teach her.

When we walk around we encounter plenty of good looking people and it is in our remit and control to put a lid on our desires.