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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 6th August 2011 21:22
I graduated in 2006 as an Alim.
In March 2007 I landed a permenant Job.
In 2008 I married the girl of my dreams
In 2008 I had savings of over �14,000
In 2011 I am in debt of �32,000 and on the verge of a divorce

Brothers and Sisters this is the story of a person who had it all and lost it.

Everything was good after I graduated I literally started work the next day. I was greatful to Allah that he had made me an Alim and an oppertunity to work the very next day after my Jalsa. The next 6 months I worked as a temp into a Permenant member of staff. Slowly along the way I neglected Salat. I stopped being greatful to Allah because I thought i had it all. Come 2008 June I was engaged to the girl of my dreams and also in June 2008 I placed my first bet. Yes people an Alim placing his first bet I remember it was the Euro 2008 Final I said its a one off I wont do it again. A month later I got married had my Honeymoon in the Maldives and came back. My gambling itch didnt go away I started again i blew all my savings and all my wifes savings in total about �32,000 on gambling. In 2011 my wife through thick and thin she stood by me but as I get older my heart is turning colder. I still dont read Salat I blow my monthly wages on gambling in a day sometimes and I turn to allah cry but still a few days later I am back to how I was back in the bookies.

Question I have to ask is how does one go from turning from a Alim to a Gambling Addict please explain Mufti Says because I am running out of options I dont know what to do with my life I am 26 and still ignorant and dont even read salat. What has happened to me is there any hope for me where do I start please I am asking you help me.
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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 6th August 2011 21:43
May Allah have mercy on us all.

There is still hope.

You are aware of yourwrong doings, which is a start. Now you need to sincerely repent to Allah, perform Tahajjud Salah and ask Allah to bring you back on the straight path and keep you there. Stay away from the outdoors, stay away from TV and Music.

I'm sorry cant be of much my self, you are the Alim. InshaAllah, you will come over it.

Try something now, make Wudhu and Pray 2 Rakat Salah with your fav surahs, get relaxed and do it again and again. Recite the Quran over and over, let Allahs words hit you.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 6th August 2011 21:53
Bro I cry and when I mean I cry I really do cry. I see what I am doing is wrong I am on the road to ruins. Gambling cost me my job, my friends, family and now its about to cost me my marriage how does something like this happen bro. Somebody tell me.
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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 6th August 2011 21:59
Wahn - Hubbud Dunya wa karahiyatil maut.

Love of the dunya and hate of death.

Supress your desires, don't listen to your desires, do the opposite.
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 6th August 2011 22:09
It's time for Taraweeh. Go for Taraweeh if it is time in your area, listen to the tilawah. You are more fortunate that you understand, unlike many of us, try to concentrate on the words.

Gotta go. But I will log on to see if you have gone off line with the hope that you are at the masjid, inshaAllah.
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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 6th August 2011 22:25
MashaAllah, your offline. I hope you have gone for Taraweeh.
A few questions, brother. Can I call you Abdullah,? the name of a person has an effect on them.
Do you have a beard still? Do you dress in Sunnah? Did you become an Alim with your own will, or were you pushed into it?
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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 00:10
Just call me Mohammed
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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 00:20
MashaAllah, I named my son Mohammed with the intention that he follows the path taught by our beloved prophet.

I thought of Abdullah so that we feel like we are truly slaves of Allah and that it has a good effect on us all.

There is brilliant post by sister ummi taalib regarding Dua in her blog post. It says that one of the best times to make dua is when you stop yourself from doing a sin. At that moment ask Allah for.anything, inshaAllah, this will also help.

Make dua with durud shariff and asma ul hasna, Allah likes it when he is being praised.

I'm sure there are plenty of remedies for this addiction from Quran and Sunnah.
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#9 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 00:33
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#10 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 13:22
You could recite Tasbih-e-Fatima
Also you could read the recomended dhikr after every salaah in the morning and evening dhikr
read the quran loud
and do everything that you think thant can help you to become a better muslim
forget about your past, all the gambling and everything
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#11 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 15:06
Salam

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...There are those who, on reading of some person winning 6 million Rands in the lottery, desire to also buy a lottery ticket.
And this desire increases in intensity when reflecting o ver so many digits in a winning. Once more, the command of Jihad is declared against the nafs.
I always say that a Muslim should consider every Haraam Rand, Dollar or Pound won in a lottery or in gambling or coming in any Haraam way (Interest, Fraud, theft, Insurance, etc.) as one pig. If we do not consider every Haraam Rand as a pig, then there is a weakness in our Imaan. If a person wins 6 million or 13 million Rands, Dollars or Pounds, then we should consider that the person has won 6 million or 13 million pigs. If a Muslim is told that he has won 6 million pigs, which are accommodated on a very large farm, then immediately that Muslim wi l l s ay : 'La haula wa la qoowata illah Billlah' whereas, just as that pig is filth and Haraam, so too are the winnings of the National Lotto or any other form of gambling


taken from Maulana Yunus Patel (rahmatullahi alaihe) book "Kicking the Habit"


please read it contains brilliant advice and has been tremendously beneficial for many sincerely wanting to 'kick' their bad habits of smoking, drinking, drug-taking or gambling.

w w w.yunuspatel.c o.z a/downloads/Kicking-the-Habit.p d f
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#12 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 15:14
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Adopt a kamil shaykh

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Why a Shaykh?

"Take the example of a person who wants to lose weight. In the initial weeks, with self motivation at its peak, he will exercise regularly, follow a special diet and do all the necessary things required to achieve his objective. However, after a few weeks once the initial motivation wanes, he will return to his old ways and will end up as he started, with no long term benefit whatsoever.

In contrast, if this person had taken professional advice from the outset, he would have been able to set a timetable and develop a manageable action plan under expert guidance. This in conjunction with the continued supervision of the dietician would have resulted in long term benefit and success in his objective.

This is precisely the example of the relationship between a shaykh and a murīd. A murīd will find great difficulty in purifying his soul and acquiring the recognition of Allāh ta'ala by himself. Thus he needs someone to slowly - but surely - guide him and take him along the path that leads to soul rectification and the recognition of Allāh ta'ala. That someone is the Shaykh."



Courtesy of In Shaykh's Company: a blog maintained by the students of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullah w w w.shaykh.o r g
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#13 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 15:15
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Adopt the company and do bayah to a kamil shaykh

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Why a Shaykh?

"Take the example of a person who wants to lose weight. In the initial weeks, with self motivation at its peak, he will exercise regularly, follow a special diet and do all the necessary things required to achieve his objective. However, after a few weeks once the initial motivation wanes, he will return to his old ways and will end up as he started, with no long term benefit whatsoever.

In contrast, if this person had taken professional advice from the outset, he would have been able to set a timetable and develop a manageable action plan under expert guidance. This in conjunction with the continued supervision of the dietician would have resulted in long term benefit and success in his objective.

This is precisely the example of the relationship between a shaykh and a murīd. A murīd will find great difficulty in purifying his soul and acquiring the recognition of Allāh ta'ala by himself. Thus he needs someone to slowly - but surely - guide him and take him along the path that leads to soul rectification and the recognition of Allāh ta'ala. That someone is the Shaykh."



Courtesy of In Shaykh's Company: a blog maintained by the students of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullah w w w.shaykh.o r g
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#14 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 15:44
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Do the zikr Allah in abudance

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It is stated in one hadith that the zikr of Almighty Allah cures all diseases of the mind, such as arrogance, jealousy, malice, etc. The author of 'Fawaa'id fis Salaah wal Awaa'id' has stated that constancy in zikr is a sure safeguard against all kinds of calamities. According to another hadith, Rasulullah (Sallallaho alaihe wasallam) has said, "I enjoin on you to do zikr of Allah profusely. It is like taking refuge in a fort against a strong enemy. One who practises zikr is as if it were in the company of Almighty Allah." Can there be any benefit greater than that of being in the company of the Almighty Lord? Moreover, it leads to satisfaction of the mind, it enlightens the heart and removes its callousness. In addition, there are many other material and spiritual benefits, which are enumerated, upto a hundred , by some Ulama.


Fazail e zikr page 54
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#15 [Permalink] Posted on 7th August 2011 15:54
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Make alot of dua and effort

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Giving Up Sin Wednesday,

Just before Eid-Ul-Adhaa our respected Shaykh hafizahullah was sitting with a group of youth following the Friday Majlis. In the gathering the concept of giving up sin was discussed in a lucid and comprehensive manner. Below are some points to the nearest meaning

A person can only give up sin if he strives to give it up. A person can adopt precautionary measures, such as the adoption of good company and the recitation of Dhikr, which goes in the way of assisting tremendously. However, to go even further, one must frequently make effort and duaa to save themselves from sin.

Nothing comes into existence without a cause. We blame the result of our actions by saying what can I do, I just can't help it; I did not want to do it. But remember:

no action comes into existence without a cause.

If we, do not cause the action to come into existence then there will be no consequence, for without a causal action the result of that action cannot exist.


Courtesy of In Shaykh's Company: a blog maintained by the students of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat hafizahullah
w w w.shaykh.o r g
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