Bukhari رحمة الله عليه titled the chapter “Advice to a daughter regarding her husband” under the book Marriage in his authentic collection.
That is being good to the husband and not causing him any trouble. Not that the father takes his daughter’s side against her husband fighting with him, as is happening now. If he supports his daughter, then he’ll be an obstacle to the pairing of their relationship. His intervention in support of his daughter becomes harmful. Instead, the advice given to the daughter is, ‘This is your husband, live with him amicably.’
Bukhari رحمة الله عليه has provided the following narration in support of it:
Umar (rad) narrated that I shouted at my wife, and she retorted against me, and I disliked that she should answer me back. She said to me, ‘Why are you so surprised at my answering you back? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet answer him back, and some of them may leave (does not speak to) him throughout the day till the night.’
The (talk) scared me, and I said to her, ‘Whoever has done so will be ruined!’
Then I proceeded after dressing myself, and entered upon Hafsa (daughter) and said to her, ‘Does anyone of you keep the Prophet
angry till night?’ She said, ‘Yes.’
I said, ‘You are a ruined, losing person!
[Below is the subject of the chapter, i.e. advising the daughter]
Don’t you fear that Allah may get angry for the anger of Allah’s Messenger
and thus you will be ruined?
So do not ask more from the Prophet
, and do not answer him back, and do not give up talking to him [because sometimes the wife becomes upset and stops talking to her husband]. Ask me whatever you need.
And do not be tempted to imitate your neighbour (i.e., `Aisha) in her manners for she is more charming than you and more beloved to the Prophet
.”
(Bukhari 5191)
