Narrated Isma`il: I asked `Abdullah bin Abi `Aufa, “Did the Prophet
give glad tidings to Khadija?” He said, “Yes, of a palace of pearls (in Paradise) where there will be neither any noise nor any fatigue.” (Bukhari 3819)
Khadijah (rad) a successful woman who was told in this world itself, she would have a palace of pearls in paradise. What was her character? How she supported her husband
?
A’isha (rad) reported: “…Then the Prophet returned therewith, his heart was trembling, and he went to Khadija and said: Wrap me up, wrap me up! So they wrapped him till the fear had left him.
He then said to Khadija: O Khadija! what has happened to me? and he informed her of the happening, saying: I fear for myself.
She replied: It can’t be. Be happy. I swear by Allah that He shall never humiliate you. By Allah, you join ties of relationship, you speak the truth, you bear people’s burden, you help the destitute, you entertain guests, and you help against the vicissitudes which affect people…”
(Muslim 160a)
She knows and acknowledges the good traits of her husband. People that live with us, we don’t know and acknowledge their good traits. Because we are invested in our own world, thoughts, constantly look for shortcomings, where is the shortcoming? What is ‘not there’? Our focus is on that.
Upon receiving revelation, Prophet
comes terrified from cave of Hira. Look at her words of validation and support. What a companion she was? She believes him , the first to bring faith onto him , became a Muslim. She knows her husband is truthful and trustworthy. She expresses that she trusts him. She doesn’t fall into panic, worry and become depressed. We should reflect on our actions how our behavior today is.
When your husband falls into difficult circumstance and is vulnerable, what then is condition of the wife? To what degree are we sources of support? What type of help do we offer? To what degree do we have compassion and empathy? The speed at which selfishness is increasing, how many divorces occur due to change in financial circumstances of husband for example he lost his job. Social and economic status upon which relationship was considered, if that is gone the relationship collapses. Studies confirm many marriages break due to financial reasons. These days when sometimes initial thought of even considering a relationship with someone begins with wealth.
Or for example if the husband falls ill. Or some form of difficulty that he gets overwhelmed with. Instead of providing assistance, being patient, having compassion so the other is encouraged, one abandons. Is this solution to our problems? To leave and destroy our homes, even sometimes over trivial matters are not signs of success.
How did Prophet
attest to Khadijah (rad)’s character?
Prophet
elaborated more on Khadijah’s merits saying: ‘She believed in me when the people disbelieved. She testified in me when they denied me, she assisted me financially when others deprived me and Allah Ta’ala granted me children from her and not from other women.’
(Musnad Ahmad 6/118)
Mentioning of children is towards the end. What’s the first? Having faith believing in him
, then despite being a wife spending of wealth on him. 