Spouses, Children are Enemies & Forgiveness

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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 00:14

Excerpt from Tariq Jameel’s speeches.

Despite one’s best effort in exhibiting good character, a human is after all human. There are bound to be disagreements, disputes and conflicts. Allah سبحانه وتعالى revealed one verse how to build a home:

“O you who have believed, indeed, among your spouses and your children are enemies to you, so beware of them. ” (64: 14)

This indicates sometimes conflicts will happen. To think there shouldn’t be any disagreement at all in this world is absurd or impossible. It can be suppressed, hidden but cannot be completely eliminated. Place where there would be zero or not even slightest of disagreement is not in this world but in hereafter ie heaven.

When there is dispute, don’t add fuel to the fire. If the man or woman has done something wrong, man’s parents or woman’s parents did something wrong, generally these four cause issues. Elders in families should reconcile not agitate the issue.

Allah mentions for the conflicts that are bound to happen, do three things so your home is protected.

(1) “But if you pardon..” (64:14)

Arabic word here is in taʿfu “..you pardon..” (64:14) meaning to conceal, erase it. Finish it, don’t dwell on it and move on.

(2) “..Overlook” (64:14)

Arabic word here is watasfahu “..Overlook” (64:14) meaning to clean your heart over the matter. How will the heart be clean? By not talking about it again.

A person’s tongue can either build or destroy a home. Don’t keep talking and recollecting it, this exasperates the issue.

(3) “..Forgive” (64:14)

Arabic word here wataghfiru “..Forgive” (64:14). “Maghfirat” meaning this is not limited to just forgiveness, it encompasses to further be given something. When one prays “Allahum-maghfir lee (O Allah, forgive me)”, this is not limited to only forgiveness. What one is actually saying is “O Allah forgive me and grant me heaven”. In addition to forgiveness, one is asking to be granted something.

So first step is to erase, second clean it from your heart and third in addition to forgive, treat or provide a gift.

If you do all these three:

“..then indeed, Allāh is Forgiving and Merciful” (64:14)

Allah will forgive your sins. Only prayer and fasting is not a means of getting one’s sins forgiven. Removing disputes and reconciliation is means of Allah’s forgiveness.

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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 01:51

Jazakallah, brother, for this very important reminder. It isn't sufficient to disengage from and ignore conflict, but Muslims are expected to work towards resolving conflict among fellow believers -- in the home, the neighborhood, the workplace, the masajid, and even social media interactions.

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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 08:58

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Clearly shows that maulana tariq jameel sahab is misleading the masses

Look up the tafsir of this verse 64:14 in the books for correct meaning

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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 09:10

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Mufti Taqi Usmani: Mariful Quran
سورہ التّغابن آیت نمبر 14
یٰۤاَیُّہَا الَّذِیۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡۤا اِنَّ مِنۡ اَزۡوَاجِکُمۡ وَ اَوۡلَادِکُمۡ عَدُوًّا لَّکُمۡ فَاحۡذَرُوۡہُمۡ ۚ وَ اِنۡ تَعۡفُوۡا وَ تَصۡفَحُوۡا وَ تَغۡفِرُوۡا فَاِنَّ اللّٰہَ غَفُوۡرٌ رَّحِیۡمٌ ﴿۱۴﴾
ترجمہ:
O you who believe, among your wives and your children there are some enemies for you, so beware of them. ²And if you forgive and overlook and pardon, then Allah is Most-Forgiving, Very-Merciful. ³
تفسیر:
2 - It refers to those wives and children who prevent one from fulfilling his religious obligations or prompt him to commit sinful acts. According to some reports, this verse was revealed about some Muslims in Makkah who were under a divine obligation to emigrate to Madinah, but despite their desire to do so, they could not migrate under the influence of their wives and children who did not allow them to migrate.## 3 - This means that one should avoid harshness in dealing with his family members to the best possible extent. If they repent on their attitude, one should forgive them and overlook their misconduct.
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 09:49

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Ask anyone who knows Urdu, Maulana Tariq Jameel is the one who emphasizes the most about ethics and society in the subcontinent.
Many Majzoob have been reformed, who understood Islam is only about Ibaadaat. Wives got their reformed husbands, mothers got their reformed children.
Dunyadar also appreciates Maulana in this matter.

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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 10:25

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Not doubting the intenton, only the context of the verse mentioned

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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 13:08

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Can you please elaborate on where did Maulana err here.

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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 11th December 2022 15:18

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Brother, if a scholar presents a commentary on a verse of the Qur'an that differs from prominent traditional exegetes, is it appropriate to label it as "misleading"? Or, would it be sufficient to simply point out that this exegesis differs from traditional commentary and label it a "tafarrud" (ideosyncracy)?

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