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Excessive Love in Friendship, Hate in Enmity, Lack of Boundaries | Ibrahim Dewla

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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 4th April 2022 04:51
This is an excerpt from one of Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning.

Disagreement occurred which gave rise to enmity. Despite being enemies your dealings should be just.

“..and let not hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah” (5:8)

The enmity with anyone should not make you exceed boundaries. So much that you exceed those limits? This is not allowed. Fear Allah! Adopt being just. In lives of Companions of Prophet (saw) even with their enemies they would not betray or break promises. There is moderation in enmity. There is also moderation in friendship. Every thing has its limits. Every thing has its rights.

Prophet (saw) has mentioned with regards to friendship and enmity. Abu Huraira reported: Prophet (saw) said, “Love whom you love mildly, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate mildly, perhaps he will become your beloved someday.”(Tirmidhi)

This is teaching given to you. Be moderate in loving and keeping your friendship . It could be that the conditions of enmity arise, being friend of yours he/she knows everything about you (secrets) now they will dishonor you. In enmity and opposition also, be moderate. It could be that today they are your enemy tomorrow they can be your friend. Then there will be regret, in my enmity towards this individual I caused so and so harm (exceeding the limits). I ruined this and that of this person. This is teaching provided with regards to rights.

Don’t be like this but be moderate. Live with being just and be balanced. This is with regards to Allah’s rights, servants’ (of Allah) rights. This is life infused with faith. The life Prophet (saw) brought for us this is ‘mercy’. Because it contains fulfillment of rights, there is balance, middle way. There is moderation in enmity, friendship, love, hatred.

Adopt middle path. It shouldn’t be that once someone is an enemy you keep placing that forward (in dealing with them). Tomorrow this enemy can become your friend. And this happens. These are based on conditions that under control of Allah. And conditions keep altering. Similar to conditions of life. The stage of being child (those conditions are different), after which stage of youth comes after which stage of old age comes. There is always change in conditions. Thus, there would be change in relations. So what should one do? Be just, do so in an excellent manner.

“Allah enjoins to do justice and to adopt good behavior” (16:90) We (usually) hear this in sermon at Friday prayers.

This should be our dealings (which will build the right) environment. What happens in your (muslims’) environment? This is environment of mercy. This is an environment of faith. What will occur in this environment? Justice that will be fulfilled in an excellent manner.

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