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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 16th August 2021 05:02
This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning.

When I say don’t stress yourself, that doesn’t mean one will never get stressed. There is no individual in this world with whom all things are going according to how he planned. No one in this world fulfills all that they desire. This is impossible that whatever you desire it happens.

Today person in position of authority then tomorrow comes where they are in jail. This happens. So not all of your desires are going to be fulfilled here. What then is the solution?

Should you then fulfill everyone of your desires? That is impossible. Wouldn’t it be better if you compromise? What do you think?

(1) Firstly one should prevent themselves to fall into difficult situation. Don’t put yourself into a predicament. Having (unnecessary) friendships with opposite gender this will increase stress not decrease. This is reality. One is doing drugs, his social activities are with other drug users. Doing drugs will not decrease stress rather increase it. When he is not able to have drugs, wouldn’t this individual not get anxious!

You are person with modest means but you choose to live in an affluent area. This will increase stress and make person victim of having inferior complex. Look he has a fancy car while I only possess this. Rather you should have lived in an area where everyone is driving similar car as yourself. I witness people living in an affluent area who live with anxiety. They own mansion and earning millions. Why then are they stressed? Because neighbor is making more. These stresses are not from God rather they are self inflicted.
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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 16th August 2021 13:54
Don’t stress yourself Part 2

This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning.

(2) Prophet (saw) “Look at those who are beneath you and do not look at those who are above you” (Ibn Majah)

I don’t have fancy car but I know an individual who cannot even afford a car. There are so many people on the streets. These are human beings who are homeless without families.

I got a call from boy who is single. What should I say? He was jaded. No family is willing to offer their daughter (in marriage)! Is this life any good?

I thought to myself you know those people on the streets. Who will give their daughter to them? I told him your father has kept you in a house, food and facilities. You have all of this. I pray you find someone. If by chance not able to find someone look at those people who don’t even have food and water. Thus, one should see someone who has less than them in matters of this world. With this you will not be victim of inferior complex.

(3) One way to reduce anxiety is despite one’s best efforts to avoid and difficulty still comes by, one should reflect on their fate. Whatever is written in my fate it couldn’t have been avoided.

(4) And world is temporary lodge. If there is stress its ephemeral. Happiness here also ephemeral.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 16th August 2021 13:55
Don’t stress yourself Part 3

This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning.

One man he lost his children. He got divorced and his wife took the children. The event left him grief stricken. He was severely depressed. Off course he longs for his children. I advised him take legal action and go to court. He said going to court is not going to help. I suggested several other alternatives. He said he already tried all of them & wasn’t successful.

Then I told him let it go & put it behind you. (5) What is not within your control, to grieve over it is foolish. And get married and have another family.

When you will have other children, your focus will shift. He said people will taunt me I forgot my previous children. I told him people have lot of time to waste & will continue to taunt you. Ignore them.

What is not in your control what is the benefit to keep examining it! This is great lesson. What is not in your control let go of thinking over it.

Throughout his life, Nuh (as) tried to guide his son but he turned out to be disbeliever. In last moment, one can imagine what love & compassion Nuh (as) had while asking his son to board his ship.

“O my son, come aboard with us” (11:42)

“He said, I shall take shelter on a mountain which will save me from the water.” (11:43)

A Prophet has intense love for his children. Similar to how Yaqub (as) had for his son (Yusuf). What pain Nuh (as) must have experienced but his son never changed.

“And the waves rose high between the two, and he was among those who were drowned.” (11:43)

Nuh (as) supplicated to Allah “My Lord, indeed my son is of my family; and indeed, Your promise is true” (11:45)

Allah replied “O NūH, in fact, he is not a part of your family. Indeed, he is (a man of) bad deeds. So do not ask Me something of which you have no knowledge. “(11:46)

Its not that Nuh (as) fell in despair “Oh what has happened with me” or start thinking “why did this happen”.

Immediately Nuh (as) prayed “My Lord, I seek refuge with You that I should ask You something of which I have no knowledge. (11:47)

Its not that he(as) started wailing in pain. What is not in your control relinquish it! We take lot of stress on those things that are not within our control.
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