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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 28th September 2019 20:40
Asalaam alekom

I have been reading about good morals and character how a Muslim is supposed to be.

If you fine some character traits they doesn’t go with Islam. Like i have earlier discussed here too. Ostentatious or the want to praise.

1-I just wanted to know could they be fixed? As its a part of ones character/nature.

2-If yes how can it be changed?

JazakAllah khair for any advice or suggestion.

Thank you
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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 28th September 2019 20:47
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Walaikumus Salam warahmatullah

1. Yes it can be changed. We are all born upon fitrah and that is according to the deen of Allah ta'ala. With mujahada and efforts we can get rid of these bad traits.

2. For brothers, by sitting in the company of Auliya-ullah. For sisters, by reading books of Auliya-ullah inshaAllah.
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 28th September 2019 20:54
I would recommend reading "Dil ki Dunya" by Mufti Shafi Sahab RA.

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#4 [Permalink] Posted on 28th September 2019 21:00
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1. Study Quran with understanding. Read it's translation and Tafsir. It will have a great impact on you as you will understand Allah addressing you directly.

2. Read Seerah and Life of Sahaba RA. This will give you an idea of how to implement what you have just read in the Quran.

3. Take things step by step gradually and consistently. Don't overwhelm yourself.

4. Start guarding your thoughts and all the remaining parts of your body will be protected from sins automatically.

The fourth tip is very very important.

First the mindset, then the soul, then the body.

In order to guard your thoughts you have to know , which thoughts are correct and which are incorrect. This again can be known through an in depth study of Quran and Seerah.

Lastly, implement the portion of deen which is basic and easy like Salah, dhikr, recitation. Then move to akhlaq gradually. Focus on one thing at a time and sort things out gradually. Slow but sustained change is better than quick but temporary change. Enjoy the deen. Live it. Do not make it a punishment. Don't fear it.

Yes we are slaves. But remember! That He is a Merciful Master.
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#5 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 00:09
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JazakAllah khair sister
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#6 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 00:10
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Thank you so much for your help sis.

JazakAllah khair
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#7 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 00:12
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JazakAllah khair brother once again.

Can you please tell me simply. What exactly do you mean by Guarding Thoughts? If i have negative thoughts and positive in mind. (Which i can evaluate at my capacity)

Then how or like which way can i guard them? Thanks
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#8 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 00:16
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Sister just want to know. Is it simple and easy to understand? Then i will read now.

I have been to complex reads earlier. And that adds much to my confusion as I don’t have much knowledge about Deen. Thats why i am asking if its easy to understand?
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#9 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 02:20
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Keep busy in remembering Allah and deen in your thoughts. The more you do it the less room Satan will find to enter the mind. Keep busy in good deeds. Just avoid the environment of sin as much as possible.

I would rephrase my statement. Guard your mind by not allowing it to keep on having and receiving negative thoughts. Block your mind from having negative thoughts by making it strong from good deeds. Dhikr is the medicine of mind. Just remember that. The best way of avoiding sin is to keep yourself busy in good deeds. That's the trick.
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#10 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 07:52
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#11 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 08:53

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Following will help too sis insha-allah

Entertaining Guests

Good and bad thoughts are like guests. If we entertain and treat guests with respect and show hospitality they will feel welcome and will incline to visit again. If they were to be made unwelcome or shown disrespect, they would not return. No self respecting person would return after being shown disrespect.

So it is with thoughts which enter our hearts. If it is a good thought i.e. one feels inclined to perform salaat or give in charity, one should act on these good thoughts. If one was to ignore them, they may not reoccur. When beseeched by bad thoughts i.e. the whispers of Shaytaan or inclining toward sins, one should ignore them. In this case they will occur again and again as they are similar to guests who have no self respect, but eventually they will disappear.

(From the teachings of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat)

 
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#12 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 10:33
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#13 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 12:51
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JazakAllah khair brother for making it more elaborate. Thanks
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#14 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 12:52
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JazakAllah khair sister yes i got the point now. Thanks
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#15 [Permalink] Posted on 29th September 2019 12:53
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JazakAllah khair sister inshaAllah i will go via them now. Thank you
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