IMPORTANT: Mufti Ismail Menk lecture notes held in Dammam
Topic: Parenting skills
1. Be role models for your children. Even small kids follow and copy everything parents do. They may not follow your instruction but will for sure follow your actions.
2. Sometimes a child is not an orphan but actually an orphan.
Children need the parents time. Today we get lost in our cell phones, tablets, in our socializing, work, businesses etc. We need to be there for our children.
3. Then mufti spoke of the 6 a's in understanding your child.
6 a's
Attention
Acceptance
Approval
Acknowledgement
Appreciation
Affection
4. Praise the child
5. Develop every child. (no discrimination)
6. Teach them to be polite by being polite yourself to others.
7. Let them be kids. Let them Enjoy their childhood.
8. Don't ban them completely from chocolates, gadgets etc. Monitor everything and balance it out.
9. Take child's opinion in family decisions,like which place to go on a holiday.
10. Respond to the adhaan immediately and engage the child in salah. Make it a happy event and not somethin you drag yourself to-do
11. If you have any bad habits then hide it from kids (like smoking)
12. Spouses should never fight in front of kids.
13. If you make a promise to your child, keep up to it. Otherwise they wil stop trusting you.
14. Avoid anger with kids. It impairs our judgements and manners towards them. We should be calm.
15. Build a good communication with your child. Confide in them and InshAllah they will confide in you too.
16. Build a positive living environment at home. It should be a place where the child wants to rush back to.
May Allah SWT give us the ability to be good parents and forgive our shortcomings. Aameen
JazakAllah Khayr to Mufti Ismail Menk and to the note taker.
A group of men have attempted to assault renowned Zimbabwean scholar, Mufti Ismail Menk.
The incident took place at the Overport City Shopping Centre in KwaZulu-Natal on Monday evening, 18th August.
According to a source, Mufti Menk was at the shopping centre and as he was about to leave, a man who is reportedly a Moulana approached his car and asked his son “Is this Ismail Menk�
The "Moulana" motioned for Mufti Menk to get out of his car and told his accomplices in Urdu: “This is the guy.â€
The group of men than approached both sides of Mufti Menk's car. Under the impression they wanted to greet him, Mufti Menk lowered the window of the car and said “As-Salaam-U-Alaikum.â€
Mufti Menk also offered his hand to extend the greeting to the "Moulana" but he became abusive, extremely vulgar and started swearing and hurling profanities saying Mufti Menk was a “gustaag e Rasool (someone who’s disrespectful to the Prophet [PBUH]) and that they would behead him like Umar رضي الله عنه use to behead (those disrespectful to the Prophet [PBUH]).
Accomplices of the 'Moulana" then rushed forward in a posse and started banging and hitting the car. Mufti Menk then sped away from the attackers who continued to run after the fleeing car, to no avail.......
The Muslim group at the centre of an alleged assault attempt on world renowned Mufti Ismail Menk has claimed it disavows violence and had not employed any violent means in its verbal altercation with the scholar last week.
In a telephonic discussion with Cii Radio, group representative Qari Jameel Khan said members of the Rajab Islamic Centre International including its leader Moulana Rajah Khan had exchanged words with the Zimbabwean scholar outside a shopping centre in Durban, but had never intended on anything more than “dialogueâ€.
“It was not co-ordinated,†said Khan. Members of the centre, he said, were purchasing supplies in Overport in preparation for their annual gathering when they stumbled across Mufti Menk and sought to ‘engage’ with him.
It was at this point, according to other eyewitness accounts, that the situation spun out of control.
Mufti Menk, already in his car, rolled down his window, thinking that those assembled sought to greet him. That handshake did occur, but it was accompanied with banging and hitting of the car by the crowd of Rajab Islamic Centre supporters. Profanities were also allegedly hurled at Mufti Menk, and he was labelled a gustaag e Rasool (someone who is disrespectful to the Prophet SAW). The leader of the group also allegedly instructed supporters to film the exchange as proof of what would be done to Mufti Menk.
Sensing the volatility of the situation, the scholar sped off, with some of the crowd still attempting to pursue him.
Offering his version of events, Khan said he believed Mufti Menk had got “excited†when he sped off and that the scholar was never in danger. He also dismissed as untrue numerous other eyewitness reports that guns and knives were drawn by supporters of the Centre in the immediate vicinity of the Mufti’s car.
“A small thing can demolish the hard work or every side. I only believe in La ilaha Illalah. If my love of Rasulullah SAW is of a certain level, I must not condemn you if your love is different,†Khan said. “(Occurences such as these) can destroy the reputation of Islam – not only the reputation of the scholars involved. Non Muslims will laugh at us. We are giving them room to look down on us.â€
Asked about online propaganda in the form of videos, Facebook postings as well as DVDs that had been circulated criticizing Mufti Menk and even calling him a Kaafir(Allah Forbid), Khan – who described himself as a young man serving as a liaison between the public and Moulana Rajah – said he had instructed members of the Centre to be more responsible with their social media usage and he had personally taken charge to ensure that material of such a nature would not be disseminated going forward.
“These videos are out there, but I urge you to look forward and forget about them,†he urged.
“Everybody should continue doing what they believe is right. If soemone goes to the Mazaar they should not be criticised, and if someone does not stand up for Salaami, they too must not be criticised.â€
Khan said Ulama would always have their conflicts, but that it was the responsibility of ordinary people to encourage dialogue and “bring them together†rather than entrench the differences.
In that regard, he urged the convening of a national symposium featuring Ulama of different inclinations to establish a framework of unity and to agree on “the big issuesâ€.
According to Khan, the Rajab Islamic Centre International, is involved in a number of projects to assist the underprivileged and to propagate Islam including in rural areas of KZN.
“We were also in the forefront of participating in the recent march held in Durban for the people of Palestine,†he said.
Contacted by Cii Radio for comment, Mufti Menk confirmed that the violent incident had transpired but declined to elaborate further seeking not to inflame the situation and the potential dangers he may face.
“The incident is true. I have not issued any public statements as it is a life threatening matter and I don’t wish to fuel hatred,†he said in an email correspondence.
“May Allah safeguard us all. Aameenâ€.
Earlier, the respected Mufti tweeted: “Every human being shall be tested in many ways. Successful are those who are patient.â€
He added: “We will always have differences of opinion and understanding among ourselves, but that should never lead us to become violent or abusive.â€B
Born in Harare, Zimbabwe, Mufti Ismail Musa Menk was tutored in his youth by his father who is also a well known scholar and Da’ee.
He completed his hifz and recitation courses at an early age and learnt the Arabic and Urdu languages whilst studying Shariah under his father. At the same time he attended an Academic College in Harare where he completed his secondary secular education. He then attained a degree in Shariah from the University of Madinah and later specialised in Iftaa at Darul Uloom Kantharia in Gujarat. He is well traveled and his messages of hope, inspiration and social reform have won him regard amongst millions of English speaking Muslims worldwide. Mufti Menk has also utilised social media and the internet resourcefully and his lectures as well as short messages are uploaded to Facebook, Twitter and Youtube timeously.
*At the time of going to press, the Rajab Islamic Centre Facebook page had been deactivated and all videos including those of an inflammatory nature relating to Mufti Menk had been removed from its official Youtube Channel.
Supporting Menk is an attack on the orthodoxy of the scholars of Deoband. Because of people like him deobandis are often attacked as being salafi. He should be officially dismissed by the deobandi scholars. I do not want to defend those who attacked him phisically but it is important that deobandis disassociate themselves from people like him.
Having differences in Manhaj with a person or group and 'attacking' through debate or refutation is way different than assaulting or attacking a person or group physically.
Hope it's not an indirect approval of what happened to Mufti Menk because of some academic differences ulama have with him...
Why? How is he not deobandi? What has he done that takes him out of deoband methodology? I havent heard or read any negative about him from any deobandi scholars except 2 scholars.
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.
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