We should not downgrade what we have, simply to follow what others are doing. Some people have a habit of adjusting their way of dressing, speaking, thinking, walking etc only because of what they have watched on the television or seen others do.
If we are already on a higher level then we should not let go of the gift we have & we should believe firmly in ourselves & the virtue we have been blessed with.
If we imitate everything we are bombarded with in the media, it would be very easy to control us or make us do what was unimaginable to us in the past. In this way the mind can easily be colonized & reduced to lower levels.
In fact when we do what is right & remain steadfast upon it, others will begin to follow us.
Working towards a goal we have set is in itself an achievement! It makes us people who are more likely to achieve great heights as opposed to those who live an aimless life, fulfilling whatever comes to their minds at each moment.
Set yourself short, medium & long term objectives & remember that you will have to work tirelessly to achieve them!
Always bear in mind the ULTIMATE goal is to attain the Pleasure of the Almighty!
A single day spent aimlessly is a great loss that cannot be retrieved!
When visiting the homes of family members, relatives, friendsor others we must never be a burden upon them.
Visiting unannounced, at awkward times, sitting too long, asking too many questions, speaking too loudly, allowing our childrento run a mock if they are with us etc is all unethical.
We should also be considerate of those we visit by not allowing them to prepare snacks or meals for us when they are busy, sickly or in a rush to go somewhere.
On the other hand when people visit us although we should honour them, we do not have to prepare sophisticated meals & fries etc all the time. A simple snack or glass of water would also suffice.
Whether more or less, whatever is served must be from the depth of our hearts.
(Mufti Ismail Menk)
I think in one of his lectures he mentions in regards to marriage, that if your son comes home and says father I want to get married to so and so, then don't tell him off but say Alhumdulilah and try to get him married wherever he wants, at least he didn't say father I want to marry a guy, these are the times we live in.
Those who occupy themselves with that which does not concern them usually fall short in matters affecting their own lives.
Mufti Ismail Menk
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Asalaamu'alykum, I apologize for not posting for a while but now inshallah I will be a regular user on muftisays again. Jazakallah Khair!
"Your daughter is entrusted to you by the Almighty, so look after her well. But your daughter in law is entrusted to you by BOTH the Almighty as well as her family, so fulfil the trust with greater care." Mufti Ismail Menk
This cannot be undone and I am sure it will be greatly appreciated.
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