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#1 [Permalink] Posted on 19th April 2011 00:44
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Marriage Breakdown

Nowadays, the general trend governing marriages is that the husband views his responsibility towards his family as being a purely materialistic one i.e. to provide financially for them (a house, car, clothes, etc). This attittude is resulting in many marriages breaking down since many husbands are seriously deficient in not spending sufficient time with their families - in communicating and interacting with the family and children. Islam presents a different view of the role of the husband, where he is made responsible for the Islamic nurturing and development of his wife and children as well as their psychological and moral welfare.

In actual fact the time which he spends with his family is not only a responsibility but an act of Ibaadat for which he will be rewarded. Sad to note that despite this, many husbands become restless and seek every opportunity to withdraw from their families by, among other things:

■Spending a great deal of time watching sports on TV
■Spending many afternoons and evenings 'with the boys' at THE CLUB
■Going off at weekends to play golf or fishing.


It also often transpires that if the wife (reluctantly) agrees to an arrangement allowing the husband regular time 'with the boys' the opportunity is used for other purposes e.g. conducting illicit relationships (adultery), etc.

He seeks more and more to be away from his family and should the wife raise even the mildest objection, he usually reacts with a great temper tantrum. Sadly, many wives endure this torture of loneliness and neglect with a great deal of bitterness and sorrow, tolerating their miserable condition because they have no where else to go. How often have you heard a tearful wife say, 'He's got more time for his friends than for me'.



BROTHER HEED THIS WARNING:
If you are guilty of this type of behaviour then you will have no one but yourself to blame if your marriage hits the rocks. CHANGE NOW! There can never be a limit to the love and attention that you can give to your wife and children. Aside from Deeni activities and basic business activities, devote yourselves towards your wife and children. It will pay excellent dividends.

Allah's Messenger (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) said, 'The best of you is he who is best to his family'. (Mishkat)



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#2 [Permalink] Posted on 19th April 2011 09:14
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"O Forgetful Mu'min"!

To you we may be just foolish women with no intelligence,
Not capable of knowledge or even a little common sense;

But in the Qur'an, our Beloved Creator did not forget us,
And most certainly did our beloved Prophet elevate us.
Our pious predecessors upheld the teachings of the Qur'an and Sunnah,
Accordingly they respected us and they encouraged us.

As a mercy from your Lord we were gifted to you,
But O Man, overlook our rights you most certainly do.
You abandoned the Sunnah of the Prophet;
you rejected us and humiliated us,
Yet love and adoration you expect from us?

Keeping in mind the eternal Pleasure of Allah,
Insha' Allah we'll continue the duty of fulfilling your rights over us;
But don't forget, O forgetful servant of Allah,
You will be questioned on the Day when out Lord will indeed resurrect us..
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#3 [Permalink] Posted on 21st April 2011 10:55
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May Allah (SWT) help everyone in their situation and keep them peace in this life and the next (Ameen).

But all Muslims should realise that trials and tribulations of this life WILL END ONE DAY!

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